Do You Go to Far Away Weddings?

It is traditional to have the wedding at the bride's home church, I guess in part so that her "people" can see that she is legally wed and not going off and claiming to be married with no witnesses they know. Often, when the groom's family is far away, it can't be expected to have more than a few close members of the family to come to the wedding. Now, my brother married a gal from Houston, my sister was in Oklahoma City just starting a job, my folks and I live in Austin. Other than that, there are only a few close relatives left. My mother's brother and his wife came in from South Carolina and my father's brother's widow, and my mother's aunt both from different parts of New Jersey came to the wedding. Besides that, a family friend who lived in Houston, his wife and his parents who came down from Austin were the only members of the groom's party. It was kind of funny to hear members of the bride's guests objecting to sitting on the "groom's" side of the church. Heck, besides my parents and family and friends sitting at the front, it would've looked strange to have such a lopsided church, the bride's side sitting - cheek to cheek - so to speak. Even my sister was part of the maids of honor and the only other person there was my bro's best friend (in a hangover stupor) as his best man.

It depends how close I am to my cousin.If I am very close to my cousin, I do not mind travelling a long distance. If our bond and intimacy is very strong, I won't mind the distance. I think marriage is such an occasions, where we must be present to help, guide and assist our cousin(s). I have twice attended marriages, which were say 2000 miles away from my house. I had to make some plans before hand to attend those marriages and believe me, those were the most memorable marriages I have ever attended.

We twice had a wedding out of town. Normally, I would feel too sluggish to go all the way out of town for just a wedding, but both couples meant so much to us so we didn't even think twice about going. It became a "vacation" of some sort for us as well. Another wedding we went to was a wedding of a cousin so we had no choice but go with the whole family. LOL!

I don't think that I would ever ask anyone to travel out of our state just to attend our wedding. My fiance and I will be wed in our neighbor's pasture so therefore it will not be to terribly out of the way for anyone. Most of my fiance's family lives in our County and mine live in the next county over. I would only go to a wedding far away if I was really close to the person, was in the wedding, or was serving as something or someone for the wedding. I would definitely not go if I did not like the person or was not that close to the person. It's different if I am not close but the wedding is. I am not sure who I will invite to my wedding as there are some people I am not close to, however, I do not want to leave them out. I'm kind of conflicted as I don't feel I should invite people I am not to terribly close to, but I do not think that I should leave them out of the wedding either as they may not be close but i wouldn't want to hurt their feelings. I appreciate this discussion! I hope that you have a very wonderful and equally as lovely day.

I have only ever been to one wedding and that was local but, depending on how close the family member was to me then I would travel to it. I love traveeling though so really it would probably be just a good way of having a few days break at the same time!! lol