Do You Go to Far Away Weddings?

@Pigglies (9339)
United States
August 29, 2008 1:50am CST
My cousin is having his wedding about 400 miles from our area. He seems sad that a lot of people in the family are unable to go, but I think if you're having a wedding so far away you should expect that. Do you go to far away weddings? I would probably go if one of my friends was getting married, but not for my cousin. I did travel 200 miles for another cousin's wedding, but that was different because I was also doing him a favor by doing some of the photography and he never asks me for anything. Plus, I wanted to meet his new wife. And this cousin who is having a wedding now, I will meet his fiance shortly at his engagement party.
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@ElicBxn (60895)
• United States
1 Sep 08
It is traditional to have the wedding at the bride's home church, I guess in part so that her "people" can see that she is legally wed and not going off and claiming to be married with no witnesses they know. Often, when the groom's family is far away, it can't be expected to have more than a few close members of the family to come to the wedding. Now, my brother married a gal from Houston, my sister was in Oklahoma City just starting a job, my folks and I live in Austin. Other than that, there are only a few close relatives left. My mother's brother and his wife came in from South Carolina and my father's brother's widow, and my mother's aunt both from different parts of New Jersey came to the wedding. Besides that, a family friend who lived in Houston, his wife and his parents who came down from Austin were the only members of the groom's party. It was kind of funny to hear members of the bride's guests objecting to sitting on the "groom's" side of the church. Heck, besides my parents and family and friends sitting at the front, it would've looked strange to have such a lopsided church, the bride's side sitting - cheek to cheek - so to speak. Even my sister was part of the maids of honor and the only other person there was my bro's best friend (in a hangover stupor) as his best man.
@Pigglies (9339)
• United States
1 Sep 08
The bride also lives close by to us just like my cousin does (they actually live together). Her family is also all fairly close by. They just wanted the farther away wedding destination because it was cheaper for them since the chapels there don't charge as much I guess. But I'm not sure how much they looked around, I think they just wanted to get married in Las Vegas.
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@ElicBxn (60895)
• United States
1 Sep 08
Then THAT is their problem. They could've tied the knot at the county judges' office for even cheaper. If he complaines, tell him that if he just wanted to honeymoon in Vegas, that was fine, but he can't expect his family to join him on it....
@dpk262006 (56482)
• Delhi, India
1 Sep 08
It depends how close I am to my cousin.If I am very close to my cousin, I do not mind travelling a long distance. If our bond and intimacy is very strong, I won't mind the distance. I think marriage is such an occasions, where we must be present to help, guide and assist our cousin(s). I have twice attended marriages, which were say 2000 miles away from my house. I had to make some plans before hand to attend those marriages and believe me, those were the most memorable marriages I have ever attended.
@Pigglies (9339)
• United States
1 Sep 08
I think I just have too many cousins to be close to any of them. But if it were his sister, I might be more willing to travel so far since we often exchange clothing and stuff like that.
29 Aug 08
I have only ever been to one wedding and that was local but, depending on how close the family member was to me then I would travel to it. I love traveeling though so really it would probably be just a good way of having a few days break at the same time!! lol
@Pigglies (9339)
• United States
30 Aug 08
I love to travel if it is somewhere that I wanted to go and if I get to do my own thing. But I don't really get to take much time off work and it is all unpaid, so I haven't gone on a vacation that lasted more than one day for several years now.
@SomeCowgirl (32270)
• United States
29 Aug 08
I don't think that I would ever ask anyone to travel out of our state just to attend our wedding. My fiance and I will be wed in our neighbor's pasture so therefore it will not be to terribly out of the way for anyone. Most of my fiance's family lives in our County and mine live in the next county over. I would only go to a wedding far away if I was really close to the person, was in the wedding, or was serving as something or someone for the wedding. I would definitely not go if I did not like the person or was not that close to the person. It's different if I am not close but the wedding is. I am not sure who I will invite to my wedding as there are some people I am not close to, however, I do not want to leave them out. I'm kind of conflicted as I don't feel I should invite people I am not to terribly close to, but I do not think that I should leave them out of the wedding either as they may not be close but i wouldn't want to hurt their feelings. I appreciate this discussion! I hope that you have a very wonderful and equally as lovely day.
@Pigglies (9339)
• United States
30 Aug 08
That sounds like the best kind of wedding. How wonderful to have a neighbor that can provide a location for your wedding. I hope to get married in a park someday and I'll make sure it is close as well since I don't want to inconvenience my guests.
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@jammyt (2824)
• Philippines
29 Aug 08
We twice had a wedding out of town. Normally, I would feel too sluggish to go all the way out of town for just a wedding, but both couples meant so much to us so we didn't even think twice about going. It became a "vacation" of some sort for us as well. Another wedding we went to was a wedding of a cousin so we had no choice but go with the whole family. LOL!
@Pigglies (9339)
• United States
30 Aug 08
I wouldn't mind going either if the couple meant a lot to me and/or it was a spot that I wanted to go visit as a vacation. But I have already visited this location before and my cousin and I aren't really that close.