how long did it take before you really learned them

@jhl930 (3606)
United States
August 29, 2008 4:25pm CST
i know that in relationship it usually takes awhile before you learn someone completely and i know that most of the time it really does take awhile and i know that its just part of a relationship but with you how long do you think that it took before you completely learned the person you are with, or do you think that you have learned them yet, like some couples can just look at each other and tell what they are thinking, and others can tell you what the other will say before they say it or its brought up...so what about you? thanks for taking the time out of your day to read and review my discussion and i hope that you will answer, i hope that your days been great so far and that your night is even better and have a great weekend, thanks again for reading my discussion!
5 responses
• Indonesia
29 Aug 08
a while?? No no no...it tooks years and years, even for a couple who has been married for 36 years like my parents. They said they still find something new in him/her. We are a complex creature, even to learn about yourself needs years, so it's impossible to say that you can really learn about someone in just some days or one or two years.
• United States
30 Aug 08
Unlikely, yes. Impossible, no.
• Indonesia
30 Aug 08
I said in some days or one or two years. Can you? Are you sure that you have completely known him/her 100%? Only in 18 months, I don't think so.
• United States
30 Aug 08
Well, you don't know me, so I don't really care what you think, but I did and I do. If I hadn't I wouldn't have married him. He may change as he gets older, but as of now, that's not the case. I know everything about him, how he thinks, what he thinks, why he think them, I can finish his sentences, know what he wants and know how he's feeling. I'm sorry that you can't know what that's like.
• United States
30 Aug 08
It took me about three years to be able to know, with any certainty, what my wife was thinking, and even complete the sentence or phrase she was saying. We have been married for 22 years now, and neither one of us knows each other completely. Its, like, maybe 98%. Every once in a while, we surprise each other.
• Indonesia
30 Aug 08
Yes, this is what I mean. A testimony from a person who experience it by himself. That's exactly what my parent said even after 36 years of their marriage.
• United States
30 Aug 08
Thank you, asia. There is a lot of comfort knowing what your partner likes and how they respond to thoughts and ideas. The surprises keep the relationship alive and interesting. I know her values on finances and money as they pretty well agree with mine. Ideas on decorating our home are very similar. I know what she likes and dislikes, and she knows the same about me. Now, clothing, whole different story! After being with her for over 26 years, I still can't get it right! :) haha!! But she can do pretty good for me.
@chrislotz (8207)
• Canada
12 Dec 08
I think it takes years of living with someone to really get to know them. When two people see each other they can put on a happy face even if they aren't happy, so to speak, and so we really don't know each other till we live together for awhile. This is just my opinion and so don't go living with your partner just because I said this. hehe I have been married, twice, and with my first marriage I didn't know him at all till after we lived together, I came to realize. Then when we lived together I found out I didn't like him at all. He was a mean person and grumpy all of the time and I didn't see that till after we got married and he couldn't pretend anymore that he was a nice guy, because a person can't pretend forever and with living together it is too hard for them to pretend. Alrighty then, talk to you later my friend, Have a good day mylotting, Chris
• United States
29 Aug 08
It took about 18 months, for me.
• Canada
29 Aug 08
im not sure.i think this is an interesting discussion though!XD