Step Dads???

@kassdaw (593)
United States
August 29, 2008 4:59pm CST
Okay, lately I have be talking about my boyfriend a lot. Well, here I go again. My ex- husband wants nothing to do with me, so I just assume it is the same with his son. My boyfriend told his mom about me and all of his family for that matter and they think that we are just "so perfect" for each other. He wants me the way I am and told me that he is more then happy to raise my son as his. My son is only two so it wont effect him as much this early in his life. My son is learning to say my boyfriends name and talks to him on the phone once in while. My ex husband has just basically backed out of the picture and I want him to give me full custody and I will fight for it if I have to. I know that no judge will side with him because I am employeed, have a nice town house, and provide everything for my son. Any other families going through this, or have gone through this type of situtation?
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@know21 (1251)
• United States
30 Aug 08
I don't understand. The father is no longer in the picture, and you take care of your son on your own. He does not come around to see you or your son? And you want full custody? It sounds to me you all ready have full custody. Or do want for him to give his parental rights?
@kassdaw (593)
• United States
30 Aug 08
I want it on paper and signed by a judge.
@heaven11 (1159)
• United States
29 Aug 08
how long has it been since hes been in the pic the reason i ak is a judge may give full custdoy to you but he will still have visitation so long as he pays the child support if he hasnt been out of the pic for to long most places i think is 2-4 years and if that does happen that will be very confusing for your son to his dad and call another man dad
@kassdaw (593)
• United States
30 Aug 08
He hasn't been out of the picture that long, but I know he won't fight for his son. He didn't want him when he was born and still doesn't want to take care of him. My son knows that his dad isn't around and he is really attached to my boyfriend. I think one thing that helps is that we have a very open family and explain things well. I know at first it might get confusing but I think in the end it will okay. But thank you for bringing up a very good point of visitation, it is something that I am concerned about. I don't to have to make excuses for my ex to tell my son why his dad didn't show up to spend time with him. I do worry about my son's emotional state through this but it should a little easier since he is only two.
• Canada
29 Aug 08
My family is going through some things similar to the things you posted but not exactly the same.