trouble

China
August 29, 2008 11:11pm CST
hi,everyone here,please tell me what should i do? i have one child,it's 11 months only now,i should take after it by myself,but i enjoy my job at the same time.i want to keep my job,i also love my baby,except that,my body has a little sake sometimes,i have no enough energetic to do both all.my husband has one busy job than me,and his father and mother have all their work,so his father and mother decided to send my baby to one reaility of theirs.but my mother doesn't agree that at all,even angry at that.i also don't like that,i will miss baby no seeing it one day.i want to take my baby to my mother's house,but my husband's family don't agree that,too.otherwell,my mother's house is very far from my husband's house,it's not convience to look baby for them.i evenly want to resgin my job and take my baby back to my mother's house,but i am afraid my husband heart breaking.... i deep into the trap,can't see it all,are there anyone can help me,tell me what should i do?
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• Philippines
30 Aug 08
I suggest you get yourself a maid and a babysitter. but if you dont feel like leaving your baby to others hands the best option is to sacrifice your work. Try to sort it out and think about it. Life is made of choices I hope you make the right one. Happy posting
• China
30 Aug 08
thanks christlikefarmer!
@foxyfire33 (10009)
• United States
30 Aug 08
I think you need to realize that you are the mother and it is your baby...no one but you should be making these decisions. Your husband's parents have no right to decide you cares for your baby while you work, neither does your mother. You and your husband should discuss if you can afford for you to leave your job. You and your husband should decide together who you are most comfortable with caring for your child if you ecide to continue working.
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• China
30 Aug 08
thank you,foxyfire33!
@Aniakim (351)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
30 Aug 08
life is always made of choices and in this case, the choice is yours. you have to make sacrifices and decide between: 1)having a career that you love very much but be away from your kid and miss your kid terribly while at work or 2)decide to be a stay at home mom, take care of your kid and your husband's needs where all will be happy. if i were you, i'd choose (2), you see, your kid is not going to be a child all his/her life and it would be such an experience watching him grow in front of your eyes. wouldn't you want to witness every first in his/her life? the first step, the first word ... you can have all the job in the world that you want when your kid goes to school already. if your husband's job alone could support your family's needs, then i guess it would be okey for you to stay home but if his salary isn't enough and requires you to have a job then you should do (1). Good luck.
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• China
30 Aug 08
thanks Aniakim,you are so kind,bless you!