Father -in- law dating....

@khenson7 (104)
United States
August 29, 2008 11:57pm CST
My mother and father in law divorced 6 years ago (me and my hubby had just got together). Together they had 4 boys. A year after their divorce she married his best friend and they have a 4 year old little boy. My father in law has been dating a lady off and on for 6 years. Well, he dated a lady back at Christmas time for like the month of December and then got back with the lady he'd seen off and on. He is ready to marry and she doesn't want to re-marry so they broke up. He is now back with the lady he dated at Christmas time. She has 3 kids and just had a newborn Monday! (My father-in-law is fixed- so it isn't his!) Which is the day after my daughter's birthday. Yesterday me, my mom and daughter went to the park. My brother-in-law (14) was at the park waiting on her little boy to finish football practice, my father-in-law was at another park picking her other kid up and she was at home with the newborn. It is really irritating me that he is talking about marrying this lady he's only been with for like a month! (They've worked together for a few years.) I think she is just using him for steady income, baby sitter, support and help! I am the only one that sees it this way and I think it is crazy! I've asked my husband to stand up and discuss it with his father, since he did ask us what we thought about them getting married. What do you think? Should I just stick my nose out of it and let this go on? Am I just being selfish? What if he rushes into marriage with the "first thing" that is willing to commit to marriage and misses a great woman?
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@syankee525 (6298)
• United States
30 Aug 08
i found in my long life, you can express yourself and it might make bad feeling between you and your father in law, unless you guys are pretty close. but he's old enough to do what he wants, and he will have to deal with whatever comes up.
@khenson7 (104)
• United States
4 Sep 08
We're close... but not that close! I'll just let him make up his mind. I just wished he'd open his eyes and not take the chance of missing something "better" later on. Thank you for your time and response! :)
@CJay77 (4441)
• Australia
30 Aug 08
There is nothing wrong for you to get worried about this and I don't think that it is selfishness! You are just probably concerned for the responsibilty that he's going to take especially because the lady has just given birth. But I think you should keep your nose out of this and just let him know what you think about them getting married, because he asked you anyway. In the end it is his decision. And I'm sure he would appreciate your support.
@khenson7 (104)
• United States
4 Sep 08
I will keep my nose out, I just don't want him used! :) He's better than that! He has 4 kids (25, 24, 20, 14) I don't think it's fair for him to have to help raise 3 or 4 more (however many she has!). Plus, by having to support so many more kids it will take away from him being my daughter's paps. But, oh well, it's him adding the extra burden to his life and reducing his time with his granddaughter. It just doesn't seem fair. But, in the end- it's his decision. Thank you for your response! Have a great rest of the week!
@Wizzywig (7860)
30 Aug 08
IMHO, if he's old enough to be your father-in-law, then he is old enough and has enough life experience to know his own mind and make his own decisions. You say you've mentioned your concerns to your husband and I think that's as far as you should go. If I had a young daughter-in-law telling me to what to do with my life, I would really be insulted. I hope your father-in-law will be very happy in whatever relationship he has.
@khenson7 (104)
• United States
4 Sep 08
I appreciate your response. I have spoke with my hubby and I am going to leave it there. :)