Do you compare your babies to other babies?

@andak2007 (3229)
Philippines
August 30, 2008 7:56am CST
This just came into me because i have three small babies and the youngest is just two months old...the older ones are very big and healthy and active..but my smallest baby is somewhat small..but she is fine and healthy..its just that she is small compared to the babies of my cousin with the same age as her...they also make a comparison and sometimes i get hurt inside if they say things about my baby..i just have to be quite because i dont want any fight...should i be worried or no?
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6 responses
30 Aug 08
I wouldnt be worried at all, children develop at their own pace. Even if she is 'slow', shes healthy. I would be proud of having three children, not everyone can get that chance so i would ignore what your cousins say and follow your heart. If you do get worried about something, mention it to your midwife or doctor and they will advice if needed!! peopel will always compare children against others - boys against girls, what theirs did at this age or what not. Dont be worried!!!!
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@andak2007 (3229)
• Philippines
31 Aug 08
yes people can sometimes be so unmindful of what they say they wouldn't think twice if they can hurt a mother's feeling or not.
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25 Sep 08
Thanks for best response x
@pehpot (4762)
• Philippines
25 Sep 08
Oh comparing babies is very normal in our society, what you are doing is just right, just be quiet and ignore them, and never ever let it affect how you feel about your kid, not all babies are born the same, some are healthier some are small, some have big bones some are not. but I'm sure your baby is a lucky to have a caring mom like you. no worries my friend!
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@andak2007 (3229)
• Philippines
25 Sep 08
i just keep my mouth shut if i do not have better things to say about other babies but sometimes mothers can be so tactless and unfair.
@chaime (1153)
• Philippines
31 Aug 08
Nah... it's a common practice among mom's to compare their babies with other babies I think specially when they think their baby's would come out ahead. I wouldn't worry. Babies and children develop in their own time in their own way. Even my two children are growing up very differently. My eldest is a girl who was a big baby, she was 7.2 pounds when I gave birth to her and now she's a skinny little one. While my youngest is a boy who was a bit tiny when he got out of my tummy. He was only 4.5 pounds but now he's a lot heavier and bigger. The most important thing is that your baby is healthy, that she has no birth complications, and that she feeds well and I believe she'll grow up to be a fine little girl. ^_^
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@aseretdd (13709)
• Philippines
31 Aug 08
Sometimes... we cannot help but compare our kids to other children... i think that is but natural... i do it too... but i tend to keep in mind that kids develop physically and mentally different from others... so there is really nothing to be worried about...
• United States
2 Sep 08
I really do not feel that it correct for people to compare babies because ever child is different and as long as the pediatrician says your baby is healthy then that is the only opinion that should count. Not one baby is the same they all reach different milestones, height, and weight at different times and one should ignore the ignorant comments people have to say because if its not positive then it should not even be considered to be valid. I have encountered many comparisons that people have commented about my daughter and other children and when they are negative I just let it go through one ear and out the other and take no importance towards it.
• Canada
1 Sep 08
I don't have children, but I have parents, and my parents never compared my sister and I to other babies. Whatever we did, we did as individuals, and they knew that our lives could not be compared to others accurately.