i am in pain and stress, need some one who consoles me
August 30, 2008 1:15pm CST
hello people.. i feel so alone and lost right now... i want to cry alot... my heart is in a deep pain... i wish i had a shoulder to sry on... i was chatting with my husband right now.... he was supposed to take me to his home in oct, as we world be formally wedded in a ceremony... he was to get a house from the army where i was plannin gto shift... and right now he told me that those houses are not available.... and i will have to stay with my mother in law who is in another city.... i feel so lonely... i cannot share it with any one... i am soo sad... i feel empty... and damn alone... i wish i never had married... staying alone even after marrige is so heart breaking... :(
• United States
30 Aug 08
Well, I would suggest taking a day off from life with your husband, and doing an activity you enjoy. You like to bikeride? Skate? Walk on the beech? Anything, jsut pick something. Do you have a pet? If so, try sitting with your dog/cat/whatever and talking to it. Tell your pet your feelings, I know this sounds kinda dumb, but it helps when you have someone to talk to, such as an animal, because unlike humans, they sit and LISTEN to you. Humans will yawn, cough, move around, say "This is boring." Maybe even say "Get a life loser." But animals are good to talk to. I think all of this will help get your feelings out, I hope that this was helpful to you, and I wish you the best of luck with your life :) One last word of advice, *whenever you dig yourself into a hole, don't dig deeper, because sooner or later, it will collapse, and no-one will dig you out, because it will be to late...* NOT LITTERALLY, Try to understand the meaning of this...
• United States
30 Aug 08
ASK GRANNY D I am so sorry that this happened. You had your heart set on getting a place of your own together. Being in the service has lots of ups and downs. It is part of being in a situation where they need lots of service people and they don't have all the resources to support them. YOu are making a sacrafice for your country along with your husband and his family. There are groups of wives in similar situations and if you check it out there might be someone close by that you can talk with about they system that can actually help you get through this time. Each branch of the service has a support system for the families of the service people including the wives of others in their group. See if you can find out what they offer. They might be able to help you get a place sooner. Till then, got out and walk or do something active outside. Do not stay closed up feeling miserable right now. I know it is frustrating and disappointing, but getting depressed over it will only make things worse. Get moving. Get your blood pumping. Start exercising more. I know that will help you feel better than you do now.