How Do You Tell a Friend That You Like His Ex?

United States
August 31, 2008 12:26am CST
Ok so i just moved in with my roommate and his ex is often at our place. The only problem is she isn't there to see him... Shes there to see Me And i would glady appreciate some other peoples points of view on this subject :)
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@juslor (9)
• United States
31 Aug 08
Oooh this is a situation where you're probably not going to get the answer you want either way. On one hand you're very interested in this girl and want to hear "Oh make yourself happy, they're broken up so go ahead." But on the other- her ex is your friend. End of story. My only advice is to talk to your friend about it. If you sense that he feels the slightest amount of betrayal, don't go through with it. There's no need to start drama where it doesn't need to be. You live with the guy and that would create one uncomfortable environment. Besides, if a girl is willing to stoop as low as trying to date her ex boyfriends friend- that pretty much says a lot about her... =]
@fwidman (11519)
• United States
31 Aug 08
The best thing to do is talk to your friend and explain the situation. Once you have his opinion then you can go from there. I agree with the other response that your friend is not going to be happy hearing about this from someone else. Better you do it yourself. If it bothers him a lot then you may either want to (a) stop seeing his ex or (b) look for another place to live
@chiyosan (29388)
• Philippines
31 Aug 08
i thinnk you just have to make sure that she does not have feelings for the person anymore and just tell it straight.
• Philippines
31 Aug 08
Uh uh, I smell trouble... Are you sure they're really through with each other? Because if they are, then I see nothing wrong about you liking each other. I mean, I know it would look bad to others, but if their past is really a past, no commas but a period on their story, I don't think you'll have a problem. However, you must make sure it's in the open as early as possible. I don't think your friend would like to know about it from other people or when he already has thoughts that his ex wants to win him back. Honesty can save you future heartbreaks so I guess you should make it clear to him that you had a thing going on with his ex and if he minds then you surely would want to give him enough space to settle this matter so he could completely set his ex free to date anybody else. But oh boy! I don't think I wanna be in your situation! I don't wanna lose a friend you know...