How many children is enough?

@jpso138 (7868)
Philippines
August 31, 2008 7:45pm CST
There are married couples who have one child or two children. I have also seen some having more than ten in our country. I was just thinking what would be the appropriate number. In my own opinion two children would be enough considering that if there are more it would be difficult to give them the best of care. What do you think is the appropriate number for children in your family?
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• United States
1 Sep 08
It's a completely personal decision. There is no universally "right" number. But I do believe that you should have more children than what your means allow. It's not fair to the children. The perfect number for me is zero. I never want kids.
@jpso138 (7868)
• Philippines
1 Sep 08
Yes, it is important ot consider the financial aspect in having children. In the end they will be the ones who will suffer should you not consider this aspect. Each child has a right to be cared for and educated. This should be gvien consideration before having children even just for a single child. I completely respect your decision on not having any children. Best to you!
• United States
1 Sep 08
Thank you very much, not many do.
@jpso138 (7868)
• Philippines
2 Sep 08
Well for me its a personal matter. If you feel happy just by not having a child its all up to you. I have also met people like that. There is happiness to having children and for sure there is also a different happiness by not having any. What is important is we live our life the way we want it to be. Not by what other want our live to be. Take care!
@rusty2rusty (6766)
• Defiance, Ohio
20 Jan 09
I have three children. Are you saying because you think two children would be enough that I don't give my children proper care? Really there isn't an appropriate number. Some people can handle a large amount of kids. While others should never be parents.
@jpso138 (7868)
• Philippines
22 Jan 09
Hello there rusty2rusty. I am not saying that you are not giving your children proper care. Who am I to say that? I was basing the number of children on my part, on my financial side. That is perhaps the number that I can afford. Good if you have three. That would be great.... I agree with you that there are a lot responsible parents around and obviously there are those that are not fit to be parents. As you have said, there is really isn't an appropriate number, for as long as we can provide them our outmust care. I am sure your doing it well. Thank you for your response.
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• Defiance, Ohio
22 Jan 09
Oh okay I understand where you are coming from now. It makes more sense now. Thank you for clarifing that to me. I really appreacite you doing so.
@Theresaaiza (10484)
• Australia
19 Jan 09
Three is ok but 4 seems complete enough for me. And I want it to be two boys and two girls. The eldest is a boy. But, I need to ask God's grace for that. Who knows, God forbid, I may not even have a child at all. That is just so sad.
@jpso138 (7868)
• Philippines
19 Jan 09
Well, I certainly would pray that God will grant you your reqeust and prayers. Four seem nice and a great pair for each. But I know that whatever God will give you, God knows best. Do take care and dont forget to send me a message once you have your first child.
@Theresaaiza (10484)
• Australia
20 Jan 09
I'm hoping it would have to take a while until I'm ready to build and raise a family. Hehe. I still have dreams to fulfill for myself and my present family before thinking about marriage.
• Philippines
1 Sep 08
In my opinion the number of children that a family can and should have should be directly proportional to their capabilities of providing all the needs and not just the basic necessities. If a family is rich enough to send two of their children through college, have one on high school and one on primary school while pampering themselves is probably the ideal type of family to have, but its far from what is real. So I guess in the end the proper number of children a family has is from one to four, but I must emphasize that its still vital that the parents are stable enough to provide the needs of their children or else there would probably be a ninety percent chance that their family won't be happy.
@jpso138 (7868)
• Philippines
2 Sep 08
Yes, I think that is the right word. Directly proportional relationship in terms of the number of children and the financial capability. As long as we are stable enough there is no problem at all. Best to you!
• Philippines
3 Sep 08
Indeed as long as the parents are capable of keeping the family "alive" then there is no need to limit the number of children. But its sad to say that people nowadays, specially the youth, don't want to follow this. I know its well within their rights to have a large family, but with rights comes responsibility. People would go to the ends of the world for their rights but no one wants to take responsibility, now isn't that a sad human trait? How I wish things could change for the better soon.
• China
1 Sep 08
well, I think 2 -- 1 boy and 1 girl will be enough. But somtimes it donesn't depend on you, so just let it be. Life is a gift, for my mum, the children are the tresaure, so the more, the better!! lol~~
@jpso138 (7868)
• Philippines
1 Sep 08
I agree with you. Life is a gift and sometimes it does not depend on us. But of course we could control things and having the right number and provide them with good support emotionally as well as financially is like giving our children the best gift in life. Best to you!
• China
2 Sep 08
yep, you are right. We can decide and find the way to control, because after we give birth to the baby, we are facing the problems of bringing them up~
• Philippines
21 Jan 09
for me, two is enough also because here in our country basic needs of the children are expensive, if we have many children we can not give them a good future.we can not raaise them well.and we can not provide them basic needs.
@jpso138 (7868)
• Philippines
22 Jan 09
That is also what I am thinking. I can perhaps afford only two. As of the present, me and my wife have one child. Well, perhaps later on we could add one or maybe not. It depends. But one thing we are sure of, what we are all after for is to provide them a good future. Best to you!
@coolmailraj (2461)
• India
20 Jan 09
I'll settle with one specially with the population we have here in India it is best to have a single child and if anything else then two at max.
@jpso138 (7868)
• Philippines
22 Jan 09
I see, well, we are in the same situation. I only have one as of now. I don't know if we will be adding one more. Population here in our country is starting to be problematic also.
@shanelli (20)
• Philippines
20 Jan 09
i have one as of the moment too..and i am not thinking of having another one in the near future...i even think my son is enough for me...not that i dont want to give birth again...its just that i want to give my son everything he needs and wants...i want to shower him with gifts, love and full attention from everyone in the family...i want to make him feel secure,loved and well taken care of...aside from intelligence quotient, i also want my son to have good emotional quotient.and as of now, one child is what we can afford...i believe it is more like a sin if youll have more kids and you cant even give them the basics,and your full attention...
@jpso138 (7868)
• Philippines
20 Jan 09
I also have one child as of the moment shanelli. I would have wanted to have two hoping to make it a pair, but I think we will just stick to one. I know that we parents would want the best for our children, by doing such I know that you are a responsible parent. I really cannot understand some who usually keep on making more children and letting this children suffer by roaming around the streets begging. There are plenty of those in our place. Well, best to you and your family.
@Lindery (854)
• Latvia
19 Jan 09
Enough is that much as you can handle! Financially, emotionally, physically... But most important is LOVE - how much love can you share in hard times! For me - three kids would be enough! Enough to be amazed at Christmas dinner when I am old granny :))
@jpso138 (7868)
• Philippines
19 Jan 09
Yes, that is the best concept Lindery. The most important thing to consider is the support that we can give. So it does not really matter how many for as long as we are indeed capable of providing the things that you have mentioned.
@violeta_va (4834)
• Australia
19 Jan 09
I think as many as you can afford to have and provide all the necesary things to. To some it might be 1 some 10. I personaly like 2 or 3 because then the children would have a brother or sister (close family) to help and support and care about all their lifes. I have 1 son and expecting baby 2 soon so I am almost there I hope my kids love and suport each other and care for each other as much as me and my sister do.
@jpso138 (7868)
• Philippines
19 Jan 09
Yes, violeta, that is indeed a very practical idea. For as long as we can afford and provide them not only comfort and love... why not? The important thing to consider is regardless of 1 or a dozen, love and care as well as support should be provided. I wish you the best for your coming child. You will definitely have a pair later on.
@neknna (63)
19 Jan 09
i agree. 2 is enough. with the world wide financial crisis, recession, war etc. it is practical to have max of 3 children. This what we so called hope, should be given the opportunity that they deserve. Good life, good education, healthy lifestyle, and a abundance. One main aspect of being a good man is being feed fairly. How they can be the hope if, since birth they are already suffering. They already inheret the debt of thier parents and the most their country, so how can they be of help. It's also one way of helping lessen possible beggars and possible crime that will arise from poverty.
@jpso138 (7868)
• Philippines
19 Jan 09
Yes, that is somewhat a good point you have mentioned. Sad to say there are a lot of children in our country begging along the roads. This is because a lot of people are not disciplined. It is usually the children who will suffer. So if we cannot afford to give them what they should be given, then we should consider limiting the number of children.
@Tinna_He (300)
• China
19 Jan 09
we are only allowed to have one baby in china.If my husband and i are farmers and our first baby is daughter ,we are allowed to have another one.or we can only have one child.If we want to have another one,we need to be punished and need pay extra money.Two children are good for a famly.they can play together with each other when they are young.They can disccus with each other when they are adult.One child is too lonely.If can,i hope i can have another child .
@jpso138 (7868)
• Philippines
19 Jan 09
Yes, I have heared about this situation in your country. Well, there are things that are beyond our control. Here in our country there is no limit in so far as the government is concerned. I see and advantage but there is obviously and andvantage since most people have no discipline. Well, I agree also that two would be good.
• India
11 Sep 08
now a days i suppose everyone would vote for two kids. considering the factors right from infant rearing to their education, social and economic status everything would be fine for two.
@jpso138 (7868)
• Philippines
15 Sep 08
Yes you are right. In fact most of myLot members are going for the number 2. With the present situation in our economy, it would be wise to consider the number of children. Remember that it would be them that will suffer if we can't provide them with the basic needs in life. Best to you!
@gemini_rose (16194)
6 Sep 08
Not sure, I have four, and to me sometimes that is too many. I would not change it but it is certainly hard work. I reckon that two is a good number in terms of spending quality time with them, I have to divide the time between three of them which can be hard. My fourth child is nearly 17 now and he does not require much of my time these days!
@jpso138 (7868)
• Philippines
10 Sep 08
Well, as you have told me that your fourth child is already 17 then that would mean that you have succesfully brought them up. Though two would be good for spending time and would require lesser expenses, but surely you were able to cope up and that is something that you should be proud of as parents. Best to you!
@enavnai13 (509)
• Philippines
5 Sep 08
for me two is enough... but it really depends... there's nothing wrong with having two or more children just as long as the parents could provide them with their needs.
@jpso138 (7868)
• Philippines
6 Sep 08
Yes, you are right. There is nothing wrong with having many children for as long as we can provide for their needs. Best to you!
@kenzie45230 (3560)
• United States
3 Sep 08
The number of children a family can and should have is a personal matter. It depends on the financial situation of each family. Can they afford to have 3, 4, 5 kids? Can they give love to each one? Do they feel that God wants them to have more children? Then that's what they should do.
@jpso138 (7868)
• Philippines
4 Sep 08
Yes, you are right. It's about giving them the right education and support. Providing them food, clothing and of course love and affection. Thus, numbers is not a problem as long as you can give them. Best to you!
• Philippines
2 Sep 08
Well for me, i think 2 would be appropriate, i just hope i would have one boy and one girl.. because like what the others have said, its really hard to raise a family nowadays especially in our country...its not that i dont want to work hard for my children, i just want to concentrate on giving them best quality of life that i can offer..like good education, food, shelter..clothes..
@jpso138 (7868)
• Philippines
4 Sep 08
Yes, it is really hard to raise a lot of children these days. Well, we could have many but we will be sacrificing their future. So what is important is to think well and plan well. Best to you!
@hunandi (288)
• United States
2 Sep 08
Its all about that you can handle, what you want,and in some case what your life style is like. For example I know people who would rather have 1 or 2 and have more money todo as they please. But I also know people who have 8 or 9 kids and may not have top of the line stuff but are not doing with out either. Its all up to the couple.
@jpso138 (7868)
• Philippines
4 Sep 08
You are right. It really up to the couple. But I think it is important to consider the ability of the parents to support the children. Without considering such, it will be the children who will suffer. Best to you!
@alindahaw (1219)
• Philippines
2 Sep 08
Actually, it depends on the couple and their ability to raise their kids properly. Some couple's think that having one or two kids is enough while others want more. As for me, I think that having one child is enough. With the high cost of living nowadays, we cannot really afford to have many children. I also do not want to bring so many children into this crazy world. It's not fair to them.
@jpso138 (7868)
• Philippines
4 Sep 08
I see your point there. As of now, me and my wife have only one child. We are still open for another one but not that soon. Though one is okay for us. But if one would be added, its perfectly fine. But when it happens, then that would be enough.
@lilybug (21148)
• United States
1 Sep 08
For me 2 children is plenty. I have a boy and a girl, so I am done having kids. I grew up in a bigger family. There were six of us kids. My parents both had large families too. Thirteen kids on one side and eight on the other. That is way to many kids for me. What is enough for one person may be just the beginning for others.
@jpso138 (7868)
• Philippines
4 Sep 08
You are right. Each family would have a different number of children that they would consider appropriate. It depends on a lot of reason and of course consideration on the financial aspect. Both my parents have large families. I could see that they survive but there were hard times. That is why I think that two would be enough for our family.