How Do You Deal With Difficult People in Your Workplace?

@mjmlagat (3171)
Philippines
September 1, 2008 2:33am CST
It's very difficult to work in an office occupied with so many hard-to-please, fault-finding individuals--believe me, I had been there. No matter how efficient you are and how innovative your ways are if people around you in your work environment are just fastidious, you will become less effective as an employee. These people either see your errors most of the time and unappreciative of your efforts, or, they are likely the challengers of the good outcomes of your efforts. What an ordeal! How do you think difficult people like these should be dealt with in our offices? Can't they just work and be productive without disturbing others peaceful territories?
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10 responses
@lrglara (1343)
• Philippines
1 Sep 08
there maybe be but i haven't encountered any difficult co-workers probably because they're aloof of me. i usually tend to stand especially if i know im right. there were instances in my previous work where they told the manager that i was the one pretty difficult. so i told my manager, "if i were difficult, its only because they think i dont cooperate because i never take their crap... im not the type of person who always say yes and they can't convince to it! so if its their definition of difficult, then maybe i am!" the manager was actually stunned but he understood me!... so take that, fault-finding people! idiots!
@mjmlagat (3171)
• Philippines
1 Sep 08
Thanks for the response. God bless!
• China
1 Sep 08
As a college student,i hae 30 classmaes in my lesson nd have 6 rommmate.i should processes classemate to relate.in my dormitory,i should have a tolerantto every students,and in my life,should help each other .i am a frindly boy that glading to make friend with everyoen.
• Malaysia
1 Sep 08
hi mjmlagat yes, there are people like that, they believe they are the smartest off all. they know the world and we do not know anything. the reason why they are doing this is because they feel treatened by your very presence. Do you know that snakes do not attack people, they only attack when they feel treatened by the human presence. The only advise from me is this, try not being too smart at times, even though you know the answer just bring them into conversation by pretending you do not know some matters.. i have done that to some people, just make them happy that they are more intelligent than you .. believe me, you are not at lost ... even a stupid question like .. "how to change this sentence " or " how to spell this word" cheers
@mjmlagat (3171)
• Philippines
1 Sep 08
yes, they sure do! Thanks for the response. have a great day!
@kerriannc (4281)
• Jamaica
15 Sep 08
Where ever I work I never make other dictate to me. Just be yourself because no matter the good and the efficiency you display there is always someone to put a negative sparks to it. Ignore it and as long as your supervisors/bosses acknowledge the good that you does then you have no problem my friend. At the end of the day it is your pay check. I remember working at this place with my sister and she was all negative with her friends but my bosses and supervisor were impressed with my work and I eventually left because of my sister but there are times I regret making this decision. We all have a talent and should not make no one take it away from us. Keep on doing the good you do one day it will paid off and the ones that are negative will be coming to ask you questions. Take Care. Kerry
@lingli_78 (12846)
• Australia
2 Sep 08
i just ignore them and concentrate on what i am doing... i don't even want to care about them at all... and if they keep on disturbing me, i will talk to my manager or HR... i had done that before and it is straihgt away being settled by my manager and HR... a working place should be an enjoyable place to work in... not a stressful place... when it becomes a stressful place, i will leave and start looking for another job... take care and have a nice day...
@hiddenwing (3721)
• China
2 Sep 08
Yeah, u r right. There are so many difficult people I worried this a lot. Besides, there is an evil that I have to meet every day. It damn sucks. Sorry about I say the word. Everything will be fine, I wish!
• Israel
1 Sep 08
I've worked with so many difficult people. all i do is try to be their best friend, and at least my life in the office with them would be less hellish compared to the others.
1 Sep 08
I would try to do my job anyway. Although it is difficult to do a good job when you have got people against you, you should see this as a challenge rather than a problem. We go to work to earn money not to make friends, it would be a bonus to do that, but sometimes it's just not possible. Just make sure you do your job as best as you can, don't worry about pleasing anybody, learn as much as you can from the workplace, if the air in the office is too umberable, speak to someone in charge saying that you don't feel confortable at the present but don't say is this guy fault or is this girl fault, see if you can find a solution without making any more problems. I think the best would be to speak up with the people you would like to please, maybe they are like that due to stress or personal problems. Make yourself clear to them and if the problem is you, you can always find another job. Good luck with everythings, wish you all the best...
• United Arab Emirates
1 Sep 08
I normally ignored them.Im just focus on what i am doing.Once i greet him or her and he didnt react,ok next time i wont greet him again.They are not my boss anyway..
@Bluepatch (2481)
• Trinidad And Tobago
1 Sep 08
This hits home to me in ways you wouldn't believe. It is precisely the problem I encounter daily. I have been through this for years. Basically you just have to go through this. Right now my supervisor is the main one doing it together with my manager and its a real cross and trial. You need patience, humility and the ability to work while angry and upset. Sometimes I just walk out of the office and thank God my job is on the road so its easy to find a reason to leave. Thank you for this most relevent discussion to myself.
@gegegelay (934)
• Philippines
1 Sep 08
I guess it's best to just humble yourself and try not to please them all the time. Prove them wrong and just do your job with joy and whole-heartedly. You can never please everyone. There will always be people who are hard to please or who will always discourage you or disappoint you. They might be challenged by you or even intimidated by you. I think it would be better if you just choose the right people you're going to relate with and just try to befriend everyone else. If you still can't stand their personality, then I say you stand up for what is right and confront the person.. not that you should physically confront the person, hehe. Just be honest and tell how you feel.