do you still communicate with your ex-boyfriends/girlfriends?

Philippines
September 1, 2008 6:34am CST
Do you still communicate with your old flame/s even if you're in a present relationship with someone else?
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@potrish78 (742)
• Philippines
1 Sep 08
I don't see any point wherein you're not suppose to communicate with your ex. I still do even for those times that I was in a serious relationship. My ex boyfriend became my best friend. I turn to him whenever something's wrong with my present relationship. He's there to give some advice and not to steal me away from my present relationship.But there's a complication in the story, It would really be hard to explain to your current boyfriend the situation about your ex boyfriend. If you have an understanding boyfriend, he will totally understand, but it not then that's where the conflict will start.
• Philippines
1 Sep 08
The conflict might start only IF there are special feelings left between you and your ex (if your present guy finds out).
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• Philippines
1 Sep 08
It is hard to make a guy understand why you have to befriend your ex. Jealousy would devour them wholly. And uncontrollably even unwanted, even without feelings involved between you and your ex, still conflict might exist. I suggest that when you enter into something make sure you handle every single detail of it.
• Philippines
16 Sep 08
potrish hello, thank you for sharing your opinion. I appreciate it ;)
@klaudine (3652)
• Indonesia
1 Sep 08
Well.. for me a past is a past, actually. I am a control freak, so when I can't control myself, I would rather have no conversation with the one that i had a cling with. I avoided them as much as I can. But after I can control myself, I can control my feeling, I would face them and talk to them like nothing happen before. A friend, an enemy, an ex, a backstabber, name it.. if I don't have emotions towards them, they are just the same
• Philippines
1 Sep 08
thank you for responding to this post ;) anyway, I can see you're still friendly despite a failed relationship.
@klaudine (3652)
• Indonesia
1 Sep 08
Well, yeah for me... but the funny thing is that some of them are still avoiding me after all this time. They even hide it from me after they had a new relationship, I mean.. why did you have to do that? I have my own life now, and I don't care with whom you are now... And if you don't want me to know, that would be fine but... why? I just don't understand them sometimes lol
@gyap72 (1)
• Philippines
16 Sep 08
Yup... I still do actually she's one of my close friends... Through thick and thin she's always there for me... Nothing is wrong with... When I'm still have a gf I always make sure that inform her that I'm still seeing my ex but as a friend nothing more...
@peedielyn (1210)
• United States
4 Sep 08
LOL another good question! Thank you for the add by the way, and yes I still communicate with all of them. No I am not a tramp but finding the right sock in a bunch of bad ones is hard work. I still actually talk to one that I had 16 years and counting on a regular basis--like everyday. Most people don't appreciate that but I just thinkn that maybe if you are nice to someone and focus on the good instead of the bad--you can make the most of everything. I found out that being friends, even after a bad break-up, is better than either bad-mouthing a person, or having them do it to you. Besides that, if they are in a rut with a current "potential", you can always give advise because you have had that experience with that person. Even better, the one that I am still talking to is planning to marry me with in the next year. So it's not always a bad thing!
@relundad (2311)
• United States
1 Sep 08
I do still communicate with most people that I was in a relationship with. Mainly because we decided that though a romantic relationship was not going to work, we were able to maintain a friendly relationship. The break up was what we at the time decided what was best for us for one reason or another. None of my relationships were ended in a harsh or mean way. Also I own 2 business in the area where I live, despite our relationship status, I still have business dealings with either them, their family or friends. Most relationships that I enter, whether it be romantic or not, have been life long, even though the status may change. I don't see why just because you don't sleep with a person anymore you can't have a lasting friendship unless it was something hurtful,criminal or dishonesty that created the break up. Usually even if this was the case, I would try to forgive and move on, wishing that person only the best. I think that as long as you are honest in both your present and past relationships, about where your feelings are then its manageable to have a long lasting friendship. Its only when one of the people still has romantic feelings that you run into problems. Time will usually fix this.
@ehlsie (730)
• Philippines
1 Sep 08
I had their contacts in their friendster...but i have no direct communication with them to the fact that i have my recent boyfriend and it's not nice to the part of him that i have a communication with my ex boyfriend...
@mickalotz (179)
• South Korea
1 Sep 08
Every one has different reasons, for me, I don't think I got in a serious relationship and also don't intend to do something like that. Well basically I have been in a really intense relationship, I am still close to her, and it doesn't matter ... the magnet still remains. Our decisions weren't harsh, but it had to meet its end since we living totally far from each other and it's out of the question and we both study, so our future career occupies most of our mind. I am sure things will come back as they are once I fly back home...I am better off being someone's friend, cos it's easier to have a conversation with friends than those who are too close