do you let your kids have thier belife ? and how old

United States
September 1, 2008 8:13am CST
we as parents teach our kids as they grow up. but when they reach that one age they satart to have thier belife. such as church and other things. my daughter belive she don't have to go to church to bleive in God, or pray. my dad get upset over this. we grew up as cathlic. we went to church every sunday. i am not a church going person for different reasons. he told me you used to like to go to church and bible study. so i told him you made me go and told me i had to like. so when you start to allow your kids have thier bleife in life, and their likes and dislikes. even though they still have rules to follow. speaking of rules. even though i have two kids are at home in thier 20's.they still have rules to follow in my house. such respecting us, and no fooling around in thier bedroom. other then that just pretty much if i need help, help me.
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7 responses
2 Sep 08
Every child is unique. They have their unique desires and beliefs. They are capable of being belief to what they desire. And some will make wisdom as their belief. Wisdom (Default human nature) will provide "Self-respect" and "respect to others". Eventually love and peace will be there. Parents needs to have a good understanding with the children. Likes and dislikes for every people will change. But wisdom is common.
• United States
1 Sep 08
I believe that before the age of 18,when children become adults,that it is not their disision to make. They should be following their parents decisions. After the are 18 AND moved out of their parents house,then I believe it becomes their decision as a grownup that they have become. It's also their decision to make mistakes,the wrong decision,and learn from them. Someday,mine at the age of 23 & 24 ,will say ,hey, mom was right about this or about that. But if you never let your children choose their own religion when the grow up and make their own mistakes, I think your children will resent you for it. It's not easy for the parent , but nothing in life as an adult is easy.
@Galena (9123)
1 Sep 08
but if you tell a 15 year old that the sky is not blue but green, they will not beleive you if their own eyes tell them it is blue. so how can you tell them what religion they have to beleive in, if they do not beleive it to be the truth. nothing you say can change their belief of the truth.
• Indonesia
1 Sep 08
Rules are very important to kids. It teaches them that they can just living a life with whatever they want, there are limitations on how the react, how they talk, and how they behave. Regarding going to church, do you take her to church since she is baby or toddler? In early age, going to church is just a weekly routine to a child because whatever you explain to her about Christianity, she will not understand, but as a child grows, day by day she will understand why she goes to church, by the understanding, she will feel the need to go to church rather than just a habit or a must.
• United States
1 Sep 08
yeah i am big on rules, they had to follow the rules, and even now living at home there are still rules. there is rules for anyone who walking into my house, and outside the house as well. one main rule is respect all but no we didn't take our kids to church all the time well they were younger. for one reason i had gotten hurt and couldn't go. then there are other reason which i will not get into.. nothing like that.. but she knows church is and can be a faundation for praying, she just feels that she don't need to go to pray or to bleive in god. i can understand that, plus some who we do know who is suppose to holy are bunch of fakes anyhow.
@Ravenladyj (22937)
• United States
1 Sep 08
I encourage the kids to stand tall and strong in their personal opinions and beliefs etc...they have minds, feelings and so on of their own, its not up to me to tell them what to think, feel or believe...My job as their mother is to guide them, give them all the resources they need to research and decide for themselves whats best and thats how its always been....Sure I have certain rules etc that are non-negotiable but i have those rules and such to keep them safe and to help them to be the best person(s) they can be ya know..
• United States
1 Sep 08
amen.. thank you have a wonderful day.. i see how some parents are and they just get on my last nevrses. the parents are more screw then the kids..
@sid556 (31006)
• United States
2 Sep 08
I have never forced any religion onto my kids. I always let them know my own beliefs and encouraged them to explore and learn about others. I have my moral & ethics code that I live by and have done my best to instill into my girls thru example. If their way differs from mine...that is ok too. they know how i feel but it's their life and my way may not be right for them. I don't know...it's worked. I have 4 girls and they all are very good people. Like you, I do have rules in my home. I have a 22 yr old that bounces back and forth. In my home, she is not allowed to party her & also no guys staying in bedroom. I still have a 14 yr old at home. A couple of years ago, we had some trouble with her partying here while I was at work...some of the people were under-age. I simply told her...If you can't respect my rules...you need to move out. I assured her that I didn't want her to move out but I was not going to put up with certain things. I am pretty laid back and open minded but i do have limits. it hasn't been a problem since.
@Galena (9123)
1 Sep 08
once someone starts actively beleiving something, rather than just beleiving something you tell them to beleive, they are old enough to have their own religion, which could be completely separate to your own. beleif isn't something you can tell someone to change. your life experience shapes it. if my mum were to change religion and become a Christian, she could not force me to beleive that too. and that's not because I am a bad daughter, but because once you beleive something, no one else can make you change. so. if your child decides that your religion is not right for them and seeks their own, they are old enough to do so. because, even if you beleive they are not old enough to do so, nothing you do can change their religion, just as they cannot change yours.
@titagdl (136)
• Mexico
1 Sep 08
That´s a very tough issue. I´ve had quite a bit of arguements with my husband about that but I think we both generally agree that now, with a 4 year old, we should give him a good example and go to church together as much as we can to try to teach him about our beliefs. Later on as he gets older maybe in his teens he should have the choice to decide on his own, but first have the base of a religion to know and decide.