do you let your kids have thier belife ? and how old

Every child is unique. They have their unique desires and beliefs. They are capable of being belief to what they desire. And some will make wisdom as their belief. Wisdom (Default human nature) will provide "Self-respect" and "respect to others". Eventually love and peace will be there. Parents needs to have a good understanding with the children. Likes and dislikes for every people will change. But wisdom is common.

I believe that before the age of 18,when children become adults,that it is not their disision to make. They should be following their parents decisions. After the are 18 AND moved out of their parents house,then I believe it becomes their decision as a grownup that they have become. It's also their decision to make mistakes,the wrong decision,and learn from them. Someday,mine at the age of 23 & 24 ,will say ,hey, mom was right about this or about that. But if you never let your children choose their own religion when the grow up and make their own mistakes, I think your children will resent you for it. It's not easy for the parent , but nothing in life as an adult is easy.

I encourage the kids to stand tall and strong in their personal opinions and beliefs etc...they have minds, feelings and so on of their own, its not up to me to tell them what to think, feel or believe...My job as their mother is to guide them, give them all the resources they need to research and decide for themselves whats best and thats how its always been....Sure I have certain rules etc that are non-negotiable but i have those rules and such to keep them safe and to help them to be the best person(s) they can be ya know..

once someone starts actively beleiving something, rather than just beleiving something you tell them to beleive, they are old enough to have their own religion, which could be completely separate to your own. beleif isn't something you can tell someone to change. your life experience shapes it. if my mum were to change religion and become a Christian, she could not force me to beleive that too. and that's not because I am a bad daughter, but because once you beleive something, no one else can make you change. so. if your child decides that your religion is not right for them and seeks their own, they are old enough to do so. because, even if you beleive they are not old enough to do so, nothing you do can change their religion, just as they cannot change yours.

I have never forced any religion onto my kids. I always let them know my own beliefs and encouraged them to explore and learn about others. I have my moral & ethics code that I live by and have done my best to instill into my girls thru example. If their way differs from mine...that is ok too. they know how i feel but it's their life and my way may not be right for them. I don't know...it's worked. I have 4 girls and they all are very good people. Like you, I do have rules in my home. I have a 22 yr old that bounces back and forth. In my home, she is not allowed to party her & also no guys staying in bedroom. I still have a 14 yr old at home. A couple of years ago, we had some trouble with her partying here while I was at work...some of the people were under-age. I simply told her...If you can't respect my rules...you need to move out. I assured her that I didn't want her to move out but I was not going to put up with certain things. I am pretty laid back and open minded but i do have limits. it hasn't been a problem since.

Rules are very important to kids. It teaches them that they can just living a life with whatever they want, there are limitations on how the react, how they talk, and how they behave. Regarding going to church, do you take her to church since she is baby or toddler? In early age, going to church is just a weekly routine to a child because whatever you explain to her about Christianity, she will not understand, but as a child grows, day by day she will understand why she goes to church, by the understanding, she will feel the need to go to church rather than just a habit or a must.

That´s a very tough issue. I´ve had quite a bit of arguements with my husband about that but I think we both generally agree that now, with a 4 year old, we should give him a good example and go to church together as much as we can to try to teach him about our beliefs. Later on as he gets older maybe in his teens he should have the choice to decide on his own, but first have the base of a religion to know and decide.