Is Social Status Important to You ..?

Is Social Status Utmost Important To You..? - 
Is Social Status Utmost Important To You..?
@zed_k4 (17627)
Singapore
September 1, 2008 6:22pm CST
Hello All members of mylot,It's been awhile since I've created any discussion and this would be my latest one. I would like to hear your voices of opinions on this issue. Is Social Status important to you..? I've seen it being of importance many times in my life, and perhaps right even now. People will tend to say that's not important and what's important is being happy and etc, but they will 'secretly' source for being 'in the scene' and 'in the group', if you get what I mean. Not wanting to be left out, and catching up with others' social status. Are you like that..? There's no right or wrong answer. I just would like to hear different perspectives on this. I will definitely award a BR to the most deserving statement of all. Have a nice day, zEd k4 c;)
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@ElicBxn (60895)
• United States
2 Sep 08
hi Zed - long time no see. I know there are people that take pride in their status. I just watched a tv show where this woman was throwing her name/position around in a privete hospital to get extra special treatment. I had a gal drop a name on me once. I hadn't been paying too much attention so she had to repeat herself and explain. Turned out that I wasn't too impressed, because I knew her. So, I asked if she had heard from her lately, then, assuming that since she knew her, that she also knew the rest of the bunch and mentioned them. Turned out she knew of them, but didn't KNOW them. She didn't like me because I had inadvertently out name-dropped her. I will name-drop when I feel like someone is trying to put themselves above others, I don't like it when people do it to me, so I don't do it otherwise.
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@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
2 Sep 08
This is what I dislike about high social status and how people could make use of that fact to destroy others, or get into the special treatment list. These types of people won't go far in life and they will just be collecting more enemies than friends in the long run. Good answer there, Elic.
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@ElicBxn (60895)
• United States
2 Sep 08
I know they don't win friends with that attitude, I used to do it some, but when I saw how it was resented when others did it, I stopped very quickly. My dad was a some body of interest to the Assistant Deputy Director of Personnel (now Human Resourses) when I was working as the file clerk. I did not seek him out, but I'd be making coffee or something and he'd come in and want to know what my dad thought of "such and such." The man in actual charge of the running the department didn't know my dad from Adam and couldn't understand why his boss was interested in the file clerk (I was cute but not that cute.) I had learned by that time that name dropping was a bad thing, so I wasn't doing it, so I don't know if he ever learned why his boss was interested. Oh, and when I'd go by my folks, my dad would ask what state employees thought of "such and such."
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@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
2 Sep 08
Wow, Elic..you could have used your 'power' there, but you didn't. I admire that very much, bravo my lady. . I think that you are such a good lady filled with integrity and there's unfortunately not many people like that anymore.
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2 Sep 08
Hi zed_k4, When I was working I remember one of woman who worked along side of me was always trying to look important and used to talk to the boss all the time and at Chrismas she used to hold a dinner party and invit all the top bosses to her house, I became friends with the my bosses wife and she did not like it at all, but she managed to social climb and everyone thought she was so high up in the firm but I knew better, I just love to live a simple life and not bother with all that, she got her status and looked down on me and yet she used to my friend. That was many years ago, but I do come across people like that from time to time what with names dropping as well. Tamara
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@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
2 Sep 08
As much as we hate to, there will always be people like that, right, tamara and that surely is a real bummer. I have seen people like this too in my workplace and I stay away from them like a bad bee. I hate dinner parties too, especially when I see those trying to 'carry-balls', if you know what I mean. Thanks for your answer. I like it.
@cjgrooms (4456)
• United States
2 Sep 08
To be perfectly honest when i was younger, it probably was important, however after i had children i was too busy providing for them to worry much about "social status" the only status i was worried about was being a good Mama to my babies. And as i got older i realized that my families opinion was all that really made a difference to me anyway, so i simply don't worry about unimportant things (like peoples opinions).
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@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
2 Sep 08
That is a very mature way of looking at things. I like your answer, thanks cj..
@getnbuy (1314)
• United States
2 Sep 08
Dear Zed, this is a difficult one. I think everyone is concerned about social status. There is such a thing as wanting to be above everyone else, though, and that is called PRIDE. I hope I am not proud. I don't want to be. Since I am out of the younger stratos-sphere I am a little less involved in "making the scene", etc. I have learned that status is really earned by how we treat others and especially, how we treat those that need our help. I once heard it said that it is hard to love the "unlovely", but they are the ones that need us. I am mostly concerned with having status before God when I stand before Him at judgement day.
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@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
2 Sep 08
Your answer is truly admirable, and I have left out the point of standing before God one day and answering to everything that we have done in this world. Good point there, really.
@Katlady2 (9920)
• United States
1 Sep 08
It's good to see you back hon. In answer to your question, I'm one of those people that is not concerned with social status. Personally, I would rather be happy with a good family and a comfortable home than to be high ranked socially and be completely unhappy and bored out of my mind.
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@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
2 Sep 08
Thanks for your undying support, Kat.. . I admire your answer, it seems the high-status syndrome doesn't really bother you at all. Good for you. I love ladies that are grounded and perhaps would be looking for a more housewife types than a career driven woman for a wife someday.
• United States
1 Sep 08
Not really. I have found its important to have friends and its wonderful being accepted and well liked but as far as being popular and having a very high social status can actually damage you all together. People that are extremely well liked tend to be put on a pedestal and looked up on. When those people have hard times the people who look up to them wonder why and don't have as much to do with you because they aren't true friends. Tough question but i'd have to say no.
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@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
2 Sep 08
Hi txcheerleadr90, I like your response. Very forthright and true. It is a tough choice, but integrity wins in the end. It's good to be up there, but like you said could act like a double edged sword.
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@suruchi86 (1873)
• India
2 Sep 08
I sincerely say that social status comes much lower in my wishlist. In fact, I am an introvert person and value my personal life the most. Therefore, I hate being a celebrity and disturbed by everybody round the clock. However, I must confess that I give more value to earning a decent income than the so called social status. Because if you have money, you can live a good life, far from disturbing crowd and as per your plan of things.
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@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
4 Sep 08
Nice answer there, suruchi. That's what I feel too. Striving for a better income is much more useful than being in a high-class social circle. But then, those people already have money; celebrities and the high-class society. But I still prefer the having wealth and being humble part like you said. Staying focused and grounded is more useful. Thanks for your input..
@suruchi86 (1873)
• India
5 Sep 08
Thanks for the appreciation...
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@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
5 Sep 08
@emarie (5453)
• United States
2 Sep 08
social status to me is the equivalent to power in society. High school social status would be the head cheerleader, the president of the class, or just the popular kids. Social status is something that's given to a person more then earned in some ways. But its what you do with the power you are given is what defines your role. I really don't care all too much. I do just want to be happy and just support my family. As long as I can achieve that goal, I should be happy. If I would happen to gain social status it wouldn't change me, well I hope not. you say secretly everyone wants that, well, what people what is the feeling of acknowledgment and acceptance then a social hierarchy. True, you get those things when you have high social status, but you don't need the social status to get that feeling. I'm sure most people want the feeling of being part of a 'group', that's just a feeling of importance, to be important to someone. I know I've wanted that feeling, sharing smiles and fun times with a group of people. That doesn't mean you have to have a high social status though.
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@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
6 Sep 08
I like your answer very much, emarie, no kidding. There is a fine line there of being wanted and wanting something and you had given a theory that being in the 'group' is not the best solution after all. Have a nice day and I like your style there, really.
@checapricorn (16066)
• United States
2 Sep 08
when I was younger, I would sad yes..But, when I become more mature, I become more realistic...I want other people to accept me as a friend not because of what I can show off because I cannot afford all those stuff and I cannot afford to loan just to have expensive things...I am very glad that all my friends also are like me, very real and practical, the common denominator with us is that we prioritize our family above all, they are my happiness and I will be fine if some new acquaintances will not accept me in their circle of friends because I have no expensive cars or whatever as long as I have peace of mind all the time!
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@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
5 Sep 08
I think the key word in what you have typed out would be peace of mind. Yes, I could relate to that. I think to mix around with the high social grace all the time wouldn't entail to an honest peace of mind. Nicely said there, checapricorn.
@palonghorn (5486)
• United States
2 Sep 08
I have never really been influenced by social status. I have rubbed elbows with the well to do, I have been married to money before and was invited to social events due to that. I can attend these and fit right in, and as soon as I get home, it's back into my favorite jeans. lol I was never one to 'keep up with the Jones', if someone had a better car, house, clothes, than I did, good for them. I like staying home for the most part, or going camping, I would just as soon wear jeans and tshirt as I would to get all dressed up. If someone doesn't like that, fine by me, I really didn't ask their opinion. I like being myself, so many of the people that try to keep up with the social status are so fake.
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@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
5 Sep 08
FAKE! Yes, yes oh yes, I like that word so much. I've seen lots of fakes around me real life and I'm getting sick of it really. Great answer there. I love it.
@salonga (27957)
• Philippines
2 Sep 08
I am not particular about social status. I'm just living my life naturally and however it placed me in society is what I deserve. I never aspire to be in the scene, If possible would rather be unnoticed. I want a simple but peaceful life. I never go out of my way to become the center of attraction. If ever there were achievement and events in my life that make me noticed by others, then that is not intentional.
@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
3 Sep 08
I like your answer there. I think that certain aspects of being in a high society would mean attracting attention and either wanting it or not, it is there. Richness should not be flaunted, it should be used in quality ways. Thanks for your input..
@GardenGerty (101788)
• United States
2 Sep 08
No, it is no use for me to make social status important, I have none. My life seems to revolve around my husband and my job, and just a few friends. I guess we have status to ourselves. I seldom know what is going on in the social scene, and that is okay. Then I do not have to gossip about it. Or put anyone down. I can just go right along being myself.
@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
3 Sep 08
Hi there. I agree that social status could bog one down and providing unnecessary stresses and etc. It's good to know that you stay grounded. I prefer that as well.
@Hatley (164507)
• Garden Grove, California
2 Sep 08
hi zed k4 I havent seen you around for ages. any way social 'status is not at all important to me. I hate being around what I call the la de da crowd. I am an elderly white haired lady who is just plain old working to middle class, broke as usual and happy to be mylotting again. after three weeks of my computer not working. glad to be back. I live in Tustin, and a lot of La De da types are in Newport beach and on the penninsula where houses go for as much as twelve million dollars. too rich for me by far. there is a grocery store in NewPort beach where one piece of fruit will cost five dollars and other things are on up. not for me.
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@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
3 Sep 08
Newport beach would be the location for OC right, if I'm not mistaken. I used to have pen-pal and she had mentioned before that the cost of living there is pretty high. So I would understand where you are coming from. By the way, I'm sorry to hear about your computer not working, that is a real bummer. I've been absent for awhile too, but have been back on track now, and getting more active than ever. Stick around, dear Hatley.
@ellie333 (21029)
1 Sep 08
Hi Zed, If you had asked this question 25 years ago I would have probably answered yes, I was one of these people who was a high flyer entrepeneur with the mobile phone the size of a brick glued to the ear LOL and the flash car to go with to prove my social status but these days I am far more humble and much happier as I realise that this or the imporance of this cannot buy you happiness in any degree. I will mix and mingle with everybody because I like them as people not from the background they come from or their social status so in answer to your question now, NO, it has no importance in my life whatsoever. Ellie :D
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@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
2 Sep 08
I admire your substance there. I love seeing you saying that social status doesn't determine happiness. It could be there whilst we are needing money and will make us happy for a temporary time only. Thanks for your response, ellie.
@know21 (1251)
• United States
1 Sep 08
Hello Zed; I would rather be up on the social status than lower because being higher improves your quality of life in a way. People treat you like crap and are mean to you if you're down there near the bottom. I prefer to be somewhere in the upper middle.
@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
2 Sep 08
Being middle-class ain't that bad. There are certain ups and downs and it makes us feel more 'real', so to speak. Thanks for your response.
@austere (2816)
• Philippines
6 Sep 08
well,i want to have plenty of money that's for sure... not much for the social status, but to be able to live a comfortable life, so that i can buy what i want and what i need, to be able to go on a cruise and reach my dreams.. i dont care about what people will think about me being rich.. all i care for is to have money for me and for my family... to be able to provide for them and give them luxury and the ease and comfort in life!
@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
6 Sep 08
That would be nice, austere. Hey, we have more or less the same number of posts, that's cool, LOL. I would love to go on a cruise and reaching places that I've never been before as well. In fact, I've done it before and would love to do it again with my love one someday, hmmmmm. Have a cheery day.
@austere (2816)
• Philippines
7 Sep 08
really?? you've tried cruising.. that's nice.. i havent tried it yet.. but am saving..hahaha you have more posts than me now!! hehehe happy happy happy!!
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@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
7 Sep 08
Take your time and once you are ready to cruise, pamper yourself to the max. It is really awesome. 5 star cruise line is the best way to go, I highly recommend it..ha!! You are not that far off, honey. Have a cheery mylot day.
@arkaf61 (10882)
• Canada
7 Sep 08
AH... social status! It really depends. To a point it is somewhat important, but certainly not a priority. Personally I am pretty much my own person and even though being in the scene might have been more important to me in the past , now it really isn't as important as other things. When I look at it, social status seems to be more important to the young ones as well as to older people that crave attention and/or are not completely self confident.
@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
7 Sep 08
Nice answer. So it really depends on situations, hmmmmm. I agree like you said that younger generations make it a point and a big deal about social status. And when they come up to a certain mature age level, they will tend to stop being so hung up on that. Have a cheery mylot day. Take care.
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@arkaf61 (10882)
• Canada
8 Sep 08
I enjoyed seeing you back here :) This discussion was interesting, because it touches a very real issue. Social status seems to be very important to some people - as mentioned younger people seem more affected by it -. Some people see it as a step into better careers, better lives even. But isn't that just piggy backing into what others achieved ? Or is it an entrance to higher achievement as well?
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@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
8 Sep 08
Awwww, thanks so much, honey. Well you have given a very good for thought question there. That got me thinking most definitely. I'd say that social status is like a double-edged sword. Pointy in 2 directions and could be dangerous if not careful, hmmmm. You are a smart lady. Good answer there, and thanks for enjoying this discussion.
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@kaleegirl45 (1474)
• United States
2 Sep 08
hello zed Social Status is important to some but not to other. As for myself, I have to say it's important. I would like very much to belong to a group of friend, being at home doesn't give me that. The only time I feel that I belong is when ever I go out with my sister. I have the feeling of not belonging. When I'm out with her and her friend I feel out of place. When I use to work I use to have my friends and people I used to hang out. But like I said staying home withdrawals you from all your friends one has made in the past. I don't really get used to it, but I deal with it. And what is important is that one is really happy, not just saying they are when they are not.
• United States
4 Sep 08
Hi Zed I wish that I could have good friend, someone to hang out with, my husband is always working and when he has a day off he never wants to do anything. Than I have my daughter who at the age where she wants to hang around with her friend only. My oldest, we do, but not as much. Anyway talk for you feed back. Have a great day.
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@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
4 Sep 08
I know how you feel, because my mom feels like that too. My sis has already been married and having a kid now, and my bro is always out 'scouting' for ladies, ha!! And left with me, always working my back off. So I could understand your feelings, because my mom has been complaining. You take care too, kalee and have a nice day.
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• United States
4 Sep 08
Hi zed It is much about being in a group, just having a good friend to talk to. I have mylot, I also have my studies that keep be busy the majority of the time. You're mom also need to have something else to do than just workig. Take you mom out to dinner, I bet she would love that. you care care also and don't work so much.
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@CanadaGal (4304)
• Canada
23 Sep 08
Social Status is very important to me. But one thing I find most important is class, and to have class doesn't always coincide with having a lot of money. Class is all about how you treat other people. I do not like fitting into certain social stereotypes. I am a single mother on social assistance, but I'm not your stereotypical "welfare mom". It bothers me greatly that I'm thrown into that stereotype of other "welfare moms" who are slobs, dress trashy, smoke and drink in excess, and send their children to school in dirty rags. To look at me and my children, you'd never know we were in that same group financially. And I am very grateful for that, and find it extremely important. I don't feel that I aim to be in any "IN" crowd. But I do want to be around like minded individuals. I am a relatively social person, but choose quality over quantity in friendships and other relationships. I am guilty of pinning out who the stereotypical "welfare moms" are, and I avoid them like the plague.
@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
25 Sep 08
I love your answer, really. They are very organized and truly depicting your personal feelings. Thanks for your input..
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@CanadaGal (4304)
• Canada
11 Oct 08
Thank you :)
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@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
13 Oct 08
You are welcome ..
@bjcyrix (6910)
• Philippines
7 Sep 08
Hi! Yeah of course social status is important to people. But since you specifically asked if its important to me, well, if Id have to rate how important it is, Id have to say its normally important. I mean its not that important that I cant live without it but its normally important to me just so I could be comfortable with how I am living my life. Having some sort of connections to the "in" crowd really does get you more opportunities because of the possible connections that you can get. In my normal day to day life I really dont care much if I have a social status or not, just as long as I can make some way to get things done. I really dont prefer to be in the spotlight and I always take the back seat to everything. This kind of anonymity but still be able to rub elbows with people with influence makes me pretty satisfied in where I am right now. Gives me privacy and anonymity but still gets me places.
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@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
7 Sep 08
Hello bjcyrix, thanks for your input on this. I think you are right and social status works in some ways and are really a bummer in other ways and sometimes more ways than one. I like the part which you mentioned about privacy and anonymity. This is important to me as well. Have a cheery day.
@bjcyrix (6910)
• Philippines
8 Sep 08
I guess it really just depends on how you handle the situation. Glad you liked at least some of my post.LOL! Have a great week.^_^
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@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
8 Sep 08
You are very much welcome ..