How Would You Handle This

@ladym33 (11008)
United States
September 2, 2008 5:02pm CST
Our husbands go off on fishing trips, and motorcycle trips while us ladies are always stuck home with the kids, so our husbands decided to make it up to us by watching the kids for us while we go Las Vegas for the weekend. There are about 5 of us coming from here, and then a relative who lives closer is going to meet us there. Everyone had else had already paired up as far as rooms go, and I was fine with having my own room. When the relative that lives closer to Vegas said she might be bringing a friend with her, and wanted to know if I wanted her to stay in my room with me or with her friend. I said either way was fine with me. So she writes back the other day and says that she is now bringing 2 friends and tells me (notice I say tells me, not asks me), that I am rooming with her friend, who is a complete stranger to me. I don't want to put this woman out, but I am kind of uncomfortable with this, I was really hoping to have my own room and now I have to room with a stranger. My husband tells me that I should flat out refuse to do this. But if I do that I am going to make waves with the relative who is from his side of the family, and someone I do not wish to have a rift with, but I don't appreciate being told I have to share my room, which I have already paid for. I plan to stay out late at night gambling, and I don't want some stranger pissed off that I am coming in late. Nothing was mentioned about this friend the stranger helping to pay for half of the room. I am also not the kind of person that likes to ask people for anything, and if the relative had stayed with me I know I would have just ended up paying for it, which I didn't mind since she has been generous to me in the past. So I think she assumed she could invite her friend under the pretense that her friends would have no expenses, since they are driving there and she is crashing in my room. What do you think of all of this, what would you do if you were me.
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@fwidman (11515)
• United States
2 Sep 08
I guess you could try telling the relative that that's fine but you'd like her friend to pay for half the room. It is rather nervy of the relative to just keep adding people and then make you share a room with a stranger I suppose the only blessing here is that most people go to Vegas and do not see their room until they just cannot stay awake any longer.
@ladym33 (11008)
• United States
4 Sep 08
She is not the only one to invite people and now what was suppossed to be 4 of us, is now like 11, can you imagine trying to get 11 women to all agree on what to do. We are going to be spending hours just trying to figure out what do every day we are there, I have just this over all bad feeling about this. This was suppossee to be a fun trip, that I am afraid is just going to turn in to a zoo.
@fwidman (11515)
• United States
4 Sep 08
Oh, Lordy. It already sounds like a zoo. I do hope that somehow you all manage to have some fun
@checapricorn (16066)
• United States
4 Sep 08
H[i]i lady, wow...Honestly, If I am in the situation, this will surely destroy my excitement for the said trip...I would not mind too if it will be my relatives but for complete stranger, I will not be comfortable..In my case, I will talk to my relative about it and I know she will understand me! I hope you will be able to clear this out and express your own feelings so that it will not ruin your excitement! Enjoy![/i]
@hmkoct5 (2067)
• United States
4 Sep 08
I would be really upset at this situation. I would send her a very nice email stating how you feel. I would tell her that although you understand her friend needs a room, you really don't feel comfortable rooming with a stranger. I would go further stating that you were really looking forward to some time alone. You're always doing things for everybody else and you were really looking forward to pampering yourself. Why don't they all share a room together? They can get a room with 2 double beds and fit just fine. I don't think it's fair to expect you to room with HER friend. Hopefully, if you explain how you feel, she'll understand.
@sudalunts (5526)
• United States
2 Sep 08
I wouldn't feel comfortble staying with the stranger either. I would talk to the relative and let her know that we initially planned the trip like this, and now it is like that. Let her know that you have paid for the room and to let Jane Doe, know that her share is $$$$$$. Don't feel bad about coming in late at night, or early in the morning, because that is what you do when you are in Vegas. Don't let this take away your joy, just go to Vegas, and have a great time, and please win something