Is this adultery or just plain stupidity?

@jewl1126 (102)
United States
September 3, 2008 11:24am CST
So a married man is going through "a midlife crisis". He's bored with his marriage, tired of being the breadwinner for his family, but wants to still look like the "token" husband & father to everyone else around him. Secretly he opens an account with a company that specializes in setting up affairs between married men & women (like a dating service). He is told that there is no way in hell his wife will ever find out about it. EH - wrong. She comes across a credit card statement with a strange payee name on it, questions the hubby, he plays dumb. Yet she persists the issue and is ready to call the credit card company up to get the payment reimbursed. The hidden investigator in her hacks away all night to figure out this company and, uh-oh, finds out its a dating company for married men & women to have extramarital affairs. Woman again questions hubby, he's still stupid. She then tries to get onto his account by using the same old password he uses all the time, and bang, the bad hubby has been CAUGHT! He's trying to set up meetings with other married women...through emails galore. Hubby then is put up on the plank, again is still playing stupid, but eventually confesses because he realizes that he has been caught. He says he hasn't actually met these women, but the wife is now untrusting. Yet, strange enough, she believes he has not actually done anything physical with these other women. Is this cyberspace rendezvous still considered adultery, since he was clearly looking for a little somethin'-somethin' or is it just a man using the wrong head in his decision making?
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• United States
3 Sep 08
its both he was stupid to do it and it is sin for as a man thinks in his mind to do something he has done it!
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@jewl1126 (102)
• United States
3 Sep 08
That's what I am thinking as well...the premeditation that it took to set up the account and to already have the idea in his mind...which we all know what he wanted the outcome to be...I believe it's as bad as rolling down the bedsheets with another woman other than your wife. Of course, we all know this would be a similar scenario with a wife looking for an extramarital affair, as well. Just wanted to clear that one up before the men start yelling at me...LOL!
@Meljep (1668)
• United States
4 Sep 08
Emotional cheating is still cheating. He has taken something from his wife that belongs to her. Some people just don't understand that you need to put effort into a marriage to get something out of it. They date and do what ever it takes to marry the person they love and then somehow think that is the end of "dating. They don't realize that it's the little romantic things that keep that spark in their marriage. When the spark is burning out they don't reignite it, but go to other places and people to find it. If they would spend some time finding what makes their wife happy they wouldn't have time for cheating and they would have someone in their own bed who could make them happier than all the cyber-cheaters in the world.
• United States
4 Sep 08
It's stupidity and adultery if you ask me. I hope this guy isn't related to you. I think the wife should think seriously about throwing him out until he gets over his "midlife crisis" and/or get some counseling.
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@trell8402 (274)
• United States
3 Sep 08
In my opinion, if the plan had been put into action, then it's adultery.
@deedeehall (1144)
• United States
25 Nov 08
the thought was there he is quilty.i dont think i could trust him.