My Ex is still hitting on me..!!! HELP

India
September 4, 2008 7:04am CST
My ex boyfriend is still hitting on me. He never fails any chance to flirt with me. Okay I get it some guys are like that but its just too much!! I mean hey still says from the corner of his voice that he loves me and when I confront him about this .. he says "C'mon babes I was just kidding.." What the heck his is problem??(YOu think I am dumb!!) I mean why is he sticking in between. Get this straight.. if he is ain't over me then tell me or just back off and show that you don't care. I am a friendly person and ya I am still friends with my ex but .. he is just kind of taking advantage of this freedom I gave him. He can just throw any dirty joke to me... any dirty text...any time And yah his one and only slogan .. chill I was just kidding!!! C'mon man I am friendly doesn't mean I am available!!! I don't want to get rude with him neither I want to show that I am acting such an introvert... Its just "NOT YOU ANYMORE" thing.... I just don't know how to make him understand this.
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4 responses
@ngaspero (851)
• Italy
4 Sep 08
You have to close every contact with him, how much I understand he is a type that if you don't do like I said he'll never stop to haeng around you, with some people is not possible after a relationship to remain friend and he is one of them.. Take care Nun
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• India
4 Sep 08
Thanks for your response.. any ways... I can cut off my self from him any time I want.. I need something alternate to that from what you gave me in your answer.. As he was my very close friend before...
@ngaspero (851)
• Italy
4 Sep 08
I think Stella, tht first you have to make clear in you mind and to know what you really want....if you talk like that I think that is not really over... Nun
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@carmelanirel (21108)
• United States
4 Sep 08
Hi stella, I have missed you and sorry to hear about the problem with your ex.. All I can say is next time he says to "chill" just tell him that you don't appreicate that kind of talk from him, that it makes you uncomfortable.. Also do you have to be near him? Like you work with him or go to school with him? If not, then I would also suggest you no longer hang out where he is, that isn't being mean, but it is keeping your distance, I mean you did break up,both of you need to move on.. I hope that helps, have a good day..
• India
4 Sep 08
trust me I do a lot to stay away from him .. But I can't just cut his phone if he calls me ..or worse text me ...!! That way he escapes very easily.. Thanks for your response...
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• United States
4 Sep 08
Then all I can say is to not answer your phone when you see it is him and ignore the test messages, maybe he will soon get the hint..
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@poona_m (336)
• India
4 Sep 08
I don't think anything works better than simple plain talk. get an opportunity to talk to him. Tell him straight what your feelings are and how you feel when he acts the way he acts. being honest is not being rude. Being honest about your feelings towards a person is the best you can do. And letting the other person know exactly how he makes you feel really helps that person come to terms with the reality. There is a very high possibility that your being silent is encouraging him in whatever he is doing. From what you have mentioned I have a feeling he doesn't really care about how you feel. So talk to him and then see if that changes the way he interacts with you and if it doesn't then you do not have to worry about being rude to him. Any man who cannot respect a lady's priorities is not worth the respect you are offering him. If I were you I would give him one chance after the talk and if he doesn't change the way he behaves with me He will get long Good Bye from me. perhaps longer than his lifetime.
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• India
4 Sep 08
hmm I think I should try that... I here was just trying to avoid the awkward situations as well... But now I think I should tell him how stupid he is behaving.. Thanks a lot for your response.
@chechuva (1276)
• Philippines
4 Sep 08
i would suggest you to ignore him. just ride to his jokes and games. but be sure about your feelings. but if it really affects you, tell him it's not really funny and you don't like him playing games with you again...
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• India
4 Sep 08
I don't feel anything about him. The only thing that is he is .. kind of making fun of me .. I mean I am back as his school friend again .. why can't he be the same. I don't even feel uncomfortable ..the thing is he irritates me ... ya that's the word.. he irritates me.. and I don't want to be rude to him. Thanks for your response.