Retire from a job but never retire from Life

@zandi458 (27952)
Malaysia
September 4, 2008 12:32pm CST
It is a very sad state of mind to see many people who retire from active employment go downhill after retirement. The feel that their active productive life is completed and their job is done. They have nothing to look forward to, they become bored, inactive and they often suffer a lose of self esteem because they feel left out of things not important anymore. They develop a self-image of uselessness, worthlessness, being a "worn out". And unfortunately a great many die within a year or so after retirement. It is not retiring from a job that kills these people, it is retiring from life. I often ask myself why should retirees have these feelings of uselessness. Has our present younger society help to encourage these feelings of uselessness and unworthiness towards retirees? Since I opt for an early retirement from full employment, I have made up my mind to be constantly active and program my precious twilight years on social activities. Have you ever thought of what you gonna do when you retire one day?
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@ruby222 (4848)
7 Sep 08
I have overheard many people chatting in the supermarkets,talking about their retirement.There have bee nvarious points of view on it ,some have said that they are `bored`,..well thts all well and good,but for those who are bored there is a million and one hobbies that you can pick up along the way,and a lot of them dont entail a lot of capital either.I am not too sure whether im right when I say this,but its just my opinion,there are a lot of males who retire and then wonder how to fill thier time in,as usually the domestic chores have been done for years by the female.Often its resented if the male treads on the females toes,but there are many little jobs that can be done without invading each others space.Yes I suppose that retirement may well leave a lot of people feeling at a loose end and unwanted,but it is up to the individual to motivate,to find something that will capture thier interests again,there are many types of voluntary organisations who are crying out for people to help them.
• Mauritius
8 Sep 08
I totally agree with you my friend. You are so right. I think it's the duty of the youth to help the elders to integrate in the society. We must not let them feel the generation gap and instead we must make them feel that they are capable of doing lots of things by giving them opportunities.
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
18 Sep 08
Getting our senior citizen who have contributed much to society to integrate with the younger generations is a way of recognizing their contributions and making their valuable experiences to good use. Of course they might have pre plan their retirement but it is totally their private business and creating a social life for them gives them something to look for in their golden years.
@Lakota12 (42681)
• United States
6 Sep 08
Am there have been for several years. I have gran daugfhter to keep me busy. BUt I never thought that way I have thought of myself of being a big part of the family. I was sort of forced into retirement to take care of hubby. and when he passed away I was really lost for awhile but I am getting on now and aint gonna lay down and die for no good reason! I hate it when Son -in -law tells me I am old as I dont feel like I am altho now since the operations I havent got all muscles back like I had. I am one of those persons that says I will not be put dopwn I aint old I just look that way LOLOLOLOLOLOOL
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
7 Sep 08
It is good that you never accept defeat though the numbers may be increasing every year but we remain young at heart.
@Lakota12 (42681)
• United States
7 Sep 08
yes young at heart also I dont know that person that looks back at me in the mirror lololol
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
7 Sep 08
Go for face lift or botox..so many ways to turn back the clock lol...
@excellence7 (3476)
• Mauritius
7 Sep 08
Tha's a very good discussion dear. I really appreciate this discussion. Your discussion has forced me to think what will I do after my retirement. It is the first time I am thinking about this. Firstly, I would say that it is the duty of youngsters to congratulate the efforts of all those who retired and to help them integrate among them. There must not be any discrimination or barriers. More social activities must be organised for retired people. This will help them to express themselves and to be helpful. I really think that this is becoming an issue these days where retired people loose their self-esteem. Thanks for starting this discussion. I will work on this and I will try to bring this issue as a discussion in my community centre where much can be done for retired people. I think we must all think on this topic and support retired people.
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
7 Sep 08
You are great, young but very much concern about the welfare of retirees. This segment of retirees are people who are well learned, experienced in life and work, they should become the mentor for the younger generations. they have done much to the society and should therefore not be forgotten and be treated as rejects. We will be like them one day. Start organising something for their benefits like starting a pensioners' club.
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• Mauritius
8 Sep 08
Trust me friend, I will surely start working on this pensioner's club and I promise you to put this in action. I always give firm words. Behind every successful man, there is the contribution of a woman. And if this club is successfully set up, it will be your contribution. I will always state to the members that it is due to your words and ideas that this club is set up. I am not great dear, being a good human itself is a blessing. A human serving humanity is a great blessing. Thanks for initiating this idea in me.
@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
18 Sep 08
I hope your plan does materialize and am proud that at least the ideas derived from my post here in mylot have motivated you to start the ball rolling for retirees which would keep them more active and hopefully benefits society in the long run. Mylot is a great place for exchanging ideas and knowledge. Good luck to you
@oyenkai (4398)
• Philippines
5 Sep 08
I don't think I will ever retire. My job doesn't really require me to (not even when I'm old). I belong in the IT industry and as much as "new" is a very important adjective, "young" doesn't attract many opportunities. The industry prefer people with experience and as long as you're up-to-date with the technology then you'll still more likely to be sought after even after 50s. Personally I think that the reason why people become "worn out" after retirement is because they practically lived for their jobs. I don't think that's a healthy predisposition unless you ARE working on you :)
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
6 Sep 08
Thats lucky of you to be in a field that is highly demanded. Experienced in certain industry is much sought after. With the advancement of medical research we will soon see many retirees around who are left with nothing to do and years of working has made them feel out of place amidst our fast growing technology.
@oyenkai (4398)
• Philippines
7 Sep 08
it's true that technology does make things so much easier that sometimes it costs some other people their jobs. that's the reason why my sister, who is a medical technologist, is having a hard time getting a job - less hospitals employs them because they'd rather invest in hi-tech machines than in people.
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@Hatley (164392)
• Garden Grove, California
5 Sep 08
hi zandi yes its so upsetting to be forcibly retired from a job you love and coworkers that seem like family and for what, because I was 79, she said that as tho it was a crime, you know after all you are almost eighty she said, the works too hard for you, I had never complained, anyway when I first came home I was so depressed and thought my usefulness was over but I found my lot and friends who are not shocked that I am now almost 82 on mybirthday in November.I really think mylot saved me from a very bleak existance.
@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
6 Sep 08
I salute you for your strong mental and physical strength. May I know whats your secret that keeps you going strong at this age?
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@Hatley (164392)
• Garden Grove, California
19 Sep 08
thanks for best response much appreciated
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@Shaun72 (15968)
• Palatka, Florida
4 Sep 08
Well unfortantly I am on disability due to having ms. I haven't let myself get down about it though. I make myself keep busy doing something. I also make myself do exersices and make myself stay busy. Wheater it is from being online or out with friends or family. Or reading a book. I decided a long time ago not to let this get the best of me. I also pray to God a lot and read the bible every night.
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
6 Sep 08
I do believe in prayers. Don't cease praying, God will definitely answer our prayers one day.
@Shaun72 (15968)
• Palatka, Florida
6 Sep 08
I agree with you on that.
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@bombshell (11266)
• Germany
4 Sep 08
hi there,my husband is retired a long time coz of his diabetes means" early retirement" in a private insurance.so since this year he would like to enjoy his life in Philippines.we just bought a beach property and enjoy his life there everyday to touch the sea water before going to bed and after bed thats what he wanted a long time.thanks for the interesting topic.
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
5 Sep 08
How wonderful to have a beach property. I only wish I have half of your fortune and be able to settle in a peaceful environment.
@bombshell (11266)
• Germany
5 Sep 08
hehehehe soon you will have your fortune who knows you will win a lotto hehehe thanks for the compliments.
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• Singapore
5 Sep 08
It's a long way to go from here to retirement, well it's now to plan better then not to plan later in life. Sometimes it hard for people to retire and stop working and working, as lives all over the world became so stress they need to work to earn a living. When they grow old, they don't wanna stop working they do work like doing volunteer job. Retired and doing a wonderful things and find things to do like finding hobbies to do to kill the time.
@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
7 Sep 08
Yes, it is better to plan early prior to retirement. It is difficult to have more time in store with nothing to do if we have not planned well for our retirement.
@palonghorn (5485)
• United States
5 Sep 08
My s/o is retiring early next year, he is taking early retirement, but after 25 years he is ready for a change. He will be staying active as he is already looking at other options for a 'new' line of work. He also wants to buy a house, so we will be keeping busy with that too. I think that the ones you refer too are the ones that work until they are 'retirement' age, 65. I don't really think it has to do with a 'younger' society but more to do with the persons age and personal lifestyle. Many retirees, at age 65 or older, stay active through volunteer work, community services, etc.
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
6 Sep 08
Exactly, those who retire after 65 finds it hard to accept the changes after retirement. It is good that these group of retirees involve themselves in charitable organizations. Their expertise are much needed there.
@lazeebee (5468)
• Malaysia
5 Sep 08
Hi Zandi, I suppose it depends how one regards retirement. Like in your case, you choose to retire - it's therefore a pleasure. You'd have planned the activities you'd want to do or programs you want to participate; and you are looking forward to it. Some look at retirement as a process of life (forced retirement?),I suppose.- going to office until the last day of work, and then brooding each day, with nothing to look forward to. As they are so used to the routine of 8-5, Mon-Fri working weeks, they are at a loss as to what to do with so much time on their hands. I'm really looking forward to retirement - there are so many things I want to do, that I don't have the time to do now. Books unread, booksales to go to (never enough time to browse), learn cooking, travelling...and of course, the internet.
@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
6 Sep 08
I am enjoying my early retirement on most of the things that you're contemplating to do once you're retired. I went for my cooking and baking class while still working and now I have my hands full, catering for private functions. I am an avid reader and would make use of my time visiting the library. In my spare time I surf the net till I feel like vomiting after long surfing. These are all what I dreamt of doing before I quit active employment, something to do whatever I like without dateline.
@ml4box (336)
• China
5 Sep 08
hi,zandi458,i think it's a good question on mylot. when i retired, i would like to join a volunteer organization not only to help people but to meet more friends never met on working days. perhaps i'd like to travel different countries to find how the people live there, the views and the sky. i expect the day dream come true.
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
6 Sep 08
It is always good to daydream for the future, who knows it might come to reality. Nothing is impossible. We dream we realize our dream and it will come true.
• China
5 Sep 08
that;s good point of view. the attitude controls everything. no matter uselessness,worthlessness or something what, that's all depend on yourselves. why its happened, coz you think it should be like that. you mind is full of such bad think, and it will become like that.
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
6 Sep 08
Yes, it all depends on oneself to adjust their life once they retire from active employment.
@Ganesh44 (5547)
• India
5 Sep 08
I fully agree with you yes it happen to most of people who gets retired from their jobs . And when I study the behavior I find that disruption of routine is the cause behind all such people. And I really feel very sorry for them...... even I feel hurted seeing them falling in depression low self-esteem and tension. But I think if they do have something interesting to do after they retire they can be saved from the bad effects of retirement. I appreciate your forward thinking... Take care Ganesh
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
6 Sep 08
Working life has made people act like robot. They are set on a routine so once retired they need to adjust life to normalcy. This adjustment and adoption of a new routine will take time to absorb.
@youless (95280)
• Guangzhou, China
5 Sep 08
I think everybody has a different view to the retirement. It's still a long term for me to retire. If one day I am retired, it won't be the end of the world for me. On the contrary, I feel free and finally I have enough free time to do what I want. That's so exciting:) Probably at that time I will spend more time on painting, cooking, watching movies and TV series and playing computer games. I love China
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
6 Sep 08
It is good that you have already establish your hobbies and priorities. So it is not so much of a problem once you're retired.
@Meljep (1668)
• United States
5 Sep 08
Your body stops working when you stop using it. Your mind will turn to mush if you don't use it and try to learn something new everyday. When you retire you have to find a hobby or some work that you enjoy doing. Find something to get up for in the morning. Help other people and stay active. Maybe even take up ballroom dancing or a musical instrument.
@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
6 Sep 08
I agree with you. It is never too old to learn new things. Music does make us feel young. The lyrics and melody of songs gives our aging mind entertained.
• China
5 Sep 08
It is important how the people who retired think about themselves. Family can help them get rid of the feeling of uselessness, but others cann't. But if this person tries to get out of the feeling by himself, I suppose this is the best way. There are always a lot of things to do even for retirees, such as joining clubs which are set up for them, going out to be a volunteer,etc.
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
6 Sep 08
Maybe we should always focus on our health and stay active always. We can instill the feeling of 'young at heart' then we will not feel too old and redundant.
• India
5 Sep 08
I do not believe that retiring from job is retiring from life. I have seen many friends who have retired from jub but they are still active in one or the other field. Mere retiring from the job does not render a person useless. Some time retired life is more interesting. I think after getting retired from my job I will under take some social networking to keep my self active and thereby I will be earning also. At least I will be busy with my lot a lot.How about you please comment.
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
6 Sep 08
I see your point. Even after retiring from business I will still be utilizing every part of myself, physical, mental and spiritual. Never give up while we are still breathing.
4 Sep 08
Hi zandi458, My sister retired 4 years ago and she has not stop, she is so busy, she out all the time going theatres and seeing show in the west end of London and runing aroun he grown up childred, she is more busy then when she was working. I have to retire earley because of my health but I do a lot gentle execise and I have learned how to use the computer, that was my biggest achivement and I keep busy all the time and I go out quite ofetn too and meeting new ffriends at my age so its all good. Tamara
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
6 Sep 08
Great, you've learn the computer usage, like me I've picked up a little of this and that in computer knowledge from my kids. Though they are not too willing to teach me initially as my foundation in computer is zero and it is not long before I can independently operate myself.
@kbkbooks (7028)
• Canada
4 Sep 08
My husband was forced to retire early because of his health. He worked as a janitor in a university for 38 years. Now he has been retired about 4 years. I see his health failing even more, his eyes, his joints, his mental state since he retired. He keeps very busy doing a few odd jobs for people actually on a pretty regular basis, but he really misses going to work. If we sleep in till say 9 am, he will complain he doesn't feel well because for 38 years he got up at 4 am to go to work. He was very happy working. I am disabled so we both collect government pension, and sometimes it's tough financially. I think he wouldn't be so depressed if he had been able to retire in his own time. It was very tough on him to be forced. Even though he gets checkups regularly and takes his necessary meds, he is definitely not the same person he was when he was working. I agree that life is not over. I think hubby would agree too, but it does make for a big change and one needs to be mentally and emotionally prepared to make the step of retirement.
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
5 Sep 08
I understand how he feels after being forced to retire against his wish. But it is for his own good as health is more important than anything else. He needs to make great adjustment in his daily routine to meet the changes. We are all not blessed with good health forever so we must be prepared to face this shortfall in us.
@checapricorn (16066)
• United States
4 Sep 08
[i]HI zandi, I guess like other people, I love to enjoy life when I will retire, like just spend time with hubby and family to have trips, visiting nice places every now and then and enjoy the beauty of old age! LOL! I want that time, I will not worry about anything! I wish! LOL!I want to do everything that I want to do this time so that when time comes that I will retire, I will not feel like I am useless, I will just feel that my time is over and this time is for me to recall my past and enjoy the moment![/i]
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
5 Sep 08
I am sure after working for years, we will be looking forward to a carefree life, a time to travel and see the world.