Do you really want to be friends with everyone?

@_sketch_ (5709)
United States
September 4, 2008 4:13pm CST
I get so many friendship requests now. Almost every day I get one and I know that this is the same story for a lot of mylotters. I was just wondering what you do when someone asks to be your friend. Do you automatically accept every person who requests or do you actually pick and choose? Do you check out their profile first before accepting them; looking at the discussions they've started, their pictures, etc? Do you only accept people because you don't want to hurt their feelings? Are you a person who accepts everyone? Or perhaps you deny everyone? Maybe you are somewhere in between?
4 people like this
23 responses
@Ldyjarhead (10159)
• United States
4 Sep 08
I accept everyone unless there is something on their profile that is absolutely glaring out at me that is hateful or something. If you look at my profile and read my tips, you'll see why. There is no real reason NOT to accept a friend request, and lots of reasons to accept every one of them.
@_sketch_ (5709)
• United States
5 Sep 08
That's great. it's always good to have friends. Thanks for responding.
@Ldyjarhead (10159)
• United States
5 Sep 08
I'll bet you didn't even take the time to read what I pointed you to. There is a valid reason to accept every friend request you get.
@mrdmaksud (116)
• Bangladesh
5 Sep 08
As a new user, I want to make friendship with everyone. I believed when made more friend. I learn or know lot of things from them. As example, I entered mylot fewdays ago. As a result to little about this site. So I make friends for all to know about their emotion, culture, society etc. So I want to share everyone to my country,emotion and lot of things. I want to know about you and your country and much more. Hope its bring me for lot of knowledge and fun for me.
@_sketch_ (5709)
• United States
5 Sep 08
Yeah. Mylot is a great place to learn new things and meet new people. So stick around. I know you'll like it here.
• United States
5 Sep 08
I don't have this dilemma because I don't get friend requests? Maybe it's because I haven't been here long, or maybe people just don't like me. : (.
@_sketch_ (5709)
• United States
5 Sep 08
Don't worry.I didn't get any when I first started either. I'll be ur friend!
• Malaysia
5 Sep 08
Yes i will accepts everyone as my friend. I never deny anyone so far.
@_sketch_ (5709)
• United States
5 Sep 08
Awesome. Thanxx for sharing. Have a jolly mylotty day!
@shuyina (31)
5 Sep 08
not everyone..just want be friend that they have some thing i like from them..ex: 1.cute 2.sexy 3.mature 4.can have fun with 5.just girl...haha for male... 1.just partner me for playing game online or playstation...wanna bet?hehe
@_sketch_ (5709)
• United States
5 Sep 08
lol. That's funny. I suck at ps so I guess I would not make a very good friend for u.
• China
5 Sep 08
I just accept anyone no matter who they are.different kinds of friends can make me feel colorful.i can understand myself through their eyes.so i really like to make friends with everyone.
@_sketch_ (5709)
• United States
5 Sep 08
Colorful is a great feeling. Like eating skittles. Well continue to taste the rainbow and keep makin friends. Just kidding. I don't know wtf. NEwayz, thanx and have a great day!!
• United Kingdom
5 Sep 08
I would say that if someone is requesting to be your friend then you should just accept. If I receive any friend requests I always accept. The thing is,you just don't know who's going to become a very good freind over time. Will you ever get close to the majority of your friends? Probably not but I think it would be a little impolite to refuse a friendship request. Andrew
@_sketch_ (5709)
• United States
5 Sep 08
Yeah. you really can't tell who u r gonna end up being good friends with until u give 'em a chance. Thanks and have a good one!
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@annjilena (5621)
• United States
5 Sep 08
i don,t want to be friends with everyone thats on the real but when i choose to befriend someone i have put much thought in it.
@_sketch_ (5709)
• United States
5 Sep 08
Well that's good that you really think it over when chosing rather than just judging people by first impressions,but I agree with you on not really wanting everyone to be your friend. Thanx for responding and keep on mylotting. :)
@TessWhite (3147)
• United States
5 Sep 08
I always check out their profile and read some of their responses, check their age also etc before deciding to accept. If not, I decline. I'm always getting requests to add someone. Many times its some youngster from Pakistan or such and I just don't see any reason to add them. I'm a middle aged grandmother of two. I seriously doubt I have anything in common with an 19 year old male from India or Asia. Those I typically decline. And occasionally I goof and add someone and go thru my friends later and remove them. To be prefectly honest I don't see the point in "friends" here anyway. I mean its not like I get messages from anyone, and its not like we chat and get to know each other. This whole process here is nothing like a typical chat process like Yahoo etc., so I don't know what the point of friends here is anyway.
@_sketch_ (5709)
• United States
5 Sep 08
Well u can send friends private messages but that's about it. I totally get what u r saying. When I first started here on mylot I didn't really c a point either, but now I am trying to get into it and see what I can gain from the whole friendship thing. I disagree however on the age thing. I think ud be surprised at how much u have in common with some of these "youngsters". I have friends (in real life) of all ages and though we have different things going on in our life and different experiences, we really connect on an emotional sort of level, really heart-to-heart. That's just in my experience though and I can understand that perhaps it is not really for everyone. Anyway thanks for responding. I think u really contributed to the discussion. have a good one. :)
@SHAMRACK (8384)
• India
5 Sep 08
Dear friend, I do accepted all the friends request and after this I do also just check their profile. Till now I have not rejected any friendship request on mylot. At times I would also just go through those friends discussions and may be if I have any to contribute I would do that too.
@_sketch_ (5709)
• United States
5 Sep 08
I go through their discussions too. Well thanks for responding and have a good day!
@belk89 (1103)
• Philippines
5 Sep 08
I accept everyone as long as i didnt see anything bad about their profile...I am also picky in choosing who are those people who i wanna add to my list of friends. But most of the time i prefer friends that are girls. I just dont like my hubby to wonder why most of the people who is on my list are guys...Sometimes i deny some request too specially if i am not comfortable having the person on my list of friends.
@_sketch_ (5709)
• United States
20 Oct 08
Yeah. My bf doesnt like me to socialize with too many guys either... but I do anyway. lol. But yeah thanks for responding. Have a good one. :)
@hiddenwing (3721)
• China
5 Sep 08
I am not sure yet
@_sketch_ (5709)
• United States
20 Oct 08
Undecisive eh? lol. jk.
@rainmark (4306)
5 Sep 08
I always accept all friends request, i automatically accept thier invitation, coz i never find a reason not to accept them, if you only see my friendster account, i got lots lots of friends their, even i didnt know them well.I never yet denied someone here.Coz the more the merrier.cheers!
@_sketch_ (5709)
• United States
20 Oct 08
I think u r right. The more the merrier. :)
@icegermany (2524)
• India
5 Sep 08
newly i was trying to check out their profile and then approve them as a friend but now i get so many friend request i really dont have so much of patience to look to their profile and i just approve them. i dont think there is any harm in adding them as a friend here and so i just approve. if i am not aware of any harm caused do please inform me so that i can keep it in my mind before approving them as a friend.
@_sketch_ (5709)
• United States
20 Oct 08
Yeah. That is what's happening to me. No, I dont think that there is any harm, but I do think that you can take people off ur friend list.
@dong1970 (1573)
• Philippines
5 Sep 08
It's nice to hear that you are good to everyone.Friends are treasures but we should chose also our friends....Good Day!!!!
@_sketch_ (5709)
• United States
20 Oct 08
yes. Friends are treasures even though they can also be a pain in the a**. lol. just kiddin...kinda. Thx and have a great day.
@banadux (630)
• United States
5 Sep 08
I accept everyone, but I do it mostly because I figure... why not. Maybe they want to send me a message about something I wrote and maybe not. It doesn't hurt me to have another "friend" so what the heck!
@_sketch_ (5709)
• United States
20 Oct 08
You're right. You have nothing to lose, only to gain. Thanks for responding. :)
• China
5 Sep 08
I need friends and I often read the discussions they've started. I'd like to have friends as many as possible here because I have so less friends in my real life.
@_sketch_ (5709)
• United States
20 Oct 08
oh that sucks. Yeah I'm kinda slim on friends myself. I used to have a grip load, but I realized that most of them werent real friends, but just users and backstabbers, so I dumped them. It is better to have a few good freinds than a bunch of fake ones. Well good luck and good day!
@don_naces (464)
• Philippines
5 Sep 08
Being friendly is a very good attitude but then you should have to select your friends. I only add friends when I really know who they are or what they are. Nowadays trusting a person is a big deal. It is only seldom wherein you can find real friends. I think you don't hurt them when you deny their requests because you do not know who they are. How will you know if they are just collecting friends. That is unfair.
@_sketch_ (5709)
• United States
5 Sep 08
Yeah. A lot of people have hundreds of friends and probably don't really care to get to know u anyways. I think people do collect friends though I have never really thought of it like that before.
@srhelmer (6934)
• Beaver Dam, Wisconsin
5 Sep 08
I usually ignore my friend requests. They are a pain to go through and decide who is really worth keeping as a friend.
@_sketch_ (5709)
• United States
5 Sep 08
Yeah. Sometimes there are just too many and it's hard to find the time.
@richiem (3647)
• Philippines
5 Sep 08
I am the person who accepts all friend requests that is sent to me. I never deny any requests. I don't even look at the profile first. Suppose when you look at the profile and you see only few or no activity and you deny the request. And then the member began to be very active. You have given a great opportunity of having that friend. Have a nice day!
@_sketch_ (5709)
• United States
5 Sep 08
I see what you are saying. Good point. Thanks. You have a nice day as well. :)