Need some support!!

United States
September 4, 2008 9:52pm CST
Okay well I've had 2 babies since 2006 and have gained 50lbs. My husband is in school and doing his school work at night and is always up till 3:30-4:00 keeping me up. So by the time I go to bed and wake up I've missed breakfast, therefore not helping me loose weight. I've been trying to start a diet for the last 2 months every monday morning and every monday afternoon I wake up to eat lunch! I also am frustrated because of the fact I'm considered "obese" I have NO ENERGY at all to even drive to the gym to work out! The thought of putting the babies in the car then unloading them then re-loading is just not appealing!! HOw do I overcome this so I can live a healthier life and loose this weight!!
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@annjilena (5620)
• United States
5 Sep 08
you need a support group try weigh watcher to motorivate you,try there online support group you can do this.
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• United States
6 Sep 08
I've done weight watchers before but I can't really afford to pay the 10.00 a week for the meetings, I think online might be more expensive I'm not sure I"ll have to check it out though.
• India
5 Sep 08
Full support to you here. Listen to my routine if this helps. My only child is 9yrs old and goes to morning school. So I wake up at 5am, prepare him for school by 6:15 am, do household work (I don’t have any maid), cook dinner, prepare breakfast and tiffin for office, leave home for office by 10am. Return from office by 6:30pm, help son with homework till 10pm, warm dinner, eat and drop into bed by 12. OK??!! No energy for gym or exercise or fancy low-fat foods…so we are on the same boat. Even then, there is hope. First and foremost, be firm with yourself and your hubby. If he stays up thru the night, it should not mean that you have to stay up too. Go to bed at normal time and wake up early. How you convince your hubby, you should understand better than me. Secondly, take a glass of warm water with lemon juice and honey on empty stomach first thing in the morning.. it takes 5mins to prepare this. Thirdly, cut carbs as much as possible. Eat proteins as much as possible, veggies (the normal you cook at home) and fruits…it can be any seasonal variety. Cut out on junk food s much as possible (its not possible totally I know, even I give in sometimes, maybe once a week)… I am not saying that you will drastically lose weight, but you will feel lighter and better. If possible, avoid sleeping in the afternoon immediately after lunch.
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• United States
6 Sep 08
Great suggestions thank you, I do have a hard time snacking on fruits and veggies.
@Amberina (1541)
• United States
5 Sep 08
What I would do is something very simple, change your diet and do stretching when the babies are sleeping even if they are awake you can squeeze some stretching in, use them as weights lol I used to when my youngest was a baby. Try and eat more fruit an vegetables and limit snacking. I know it's hard to have energy when you have small babies your lucky if you have time to go to the bathroom, maybe putting them in those play pens (I don't know how old they are) or if they are walking maybe you could have them copy your moves they might have fun with it. I hope things work out for you just remember they will grow up in a flash and before you know it they will have grown an moved out you will have so much time on your hands you won't know what to do.
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• United States
6 Sep 08
Thanks for the suggestions I will have to try them. My babies are 1.5 and 2.5
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@Trace86 (5034)
• United States
6 Sep 08
Put the kids in a stroller or on a trike and go for a walk. Get a kid's fitness video and do it with your kids. Don't buy the bad stuff when you go to the store. Get celery. Make ants on a log for your snacks. Make better choices. Use a smaller plate for your meals. Use a tiny fork to eat. Cut your meat into miniscule pieces and chew 20 times. Any little thing will add up and in no time you will be back to your pre-pregnancy weight!
• United States
6 Sep 08
Great suggestions! I've never heard of the Kid's fitness video do you know the titles for any of them or where to buy them?
@Trace86 (5034)
• United States
6 Sep 08
Not specifically, but I have seen some Sesame Street ones. Here is an amazon search that has lots to choose from: http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_ss_gw?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=kid%27s+fitness+videos&x=0&y=0
@angelface23 (2498)
• United States
5 Sep 08
What I do to keep slim is eat 5-6 small meals per day as opposed to just breakfast, lunch and dinner. Whenever I get hungry I eat something, nothing huge just an apple or yogurt, something small, then at lunch time I eat a normal lunch. They say this is good for you cause it keeps your metabolism up which is needed for burning fat. Try walking as excercise, take the kids with you. At least you'll be moving which will help burn some calories.
• United States
6 Sep 08
Do you have certain times of the day you eat? Or when do you eat breakfast compared to the next small meal (times)?
• Ireland
5 Sep 08
Oh I do sympathise..... I'm in a very similar situation - I have a two year old daughter. I have no family and friends in the country I'm living in yet so no help with her AT ALL. My husband works at nights then sleeps all day, so I also have the strange routine. I'm also totally exhausted like you are, and I'm also overweight and trying to lose weight. Did you know by the way that extreme tiredness decreases the bodies' ability to burn fat and lose weight? I do have one suggestion for you about the morning / breakfast diet thing. If starting the diet with breakfast is just not working for you, maybe you could adapt the diet, or adapt your mealtimes? Have the diet breakfast at lunchtime, the lunch at supper time, etc etc. Just move all the mealtimes a bit later in the day. After all you can't be expected to live to two different daily time routines at once! Best of luck with it!
• United States
6 Sep 08
Yes I know what you are going throught with the 3rd shift thing it's really a rough situation!! Thanks for the suggestions!
@vijigopi (991)
• United States
17 Sep 08
I have been there but I've come out of it too. My hubby works in a different room every night, so I don't have to be awake with him. I go to sleep at about 10p.m. and get up at 5. Start drinking a lot of water. Atleast one glass an hour(even if you miss it you will be having atleast 8 glasses a day). You won't feel that hungry. Try to have small portions of everything you eat. You can start by eating just half of what you are eating now. Then you will be hungry in two hours. Then eat another little portion. I guess it won't be much of a problem eating 6 times when you are at home. If you are in America, you can go to the local library for some exercise videos and try them at home. That is how I started. After sending my husband and kid in the morning, I put on that video and exercise for about an hour. Exercise atleast 3 times a week in the beginning, later on you will be stronger to do it more often. But be regular. Don't stock up any junk food at home. If you have it, you will be tempted to eat it too. If you are trying to get all the good stuff inside, then you won't be having any cravings. Eat a protein rich breakfast in the morning and if you hate snacking on fruits and veggies, you can try V8 juices and juices from Bolthouse farms. Both are especially nutritious and leave you satisfied. Good luck!
• United States
8 Sep 08
I am totally with you on this... I only have one baby and i find it hard to get motivated to loose the weight. We have been making a big effort to eat healthier and take vitamins. and like you i usually eat only 2 meals a day. I also second what some of the others say about sleep... you need to kick DH to the kitchen or somewhere else to do his school work. Just because he needs to be up doesnt mean you should have to be. Its not healthy for anyone not to get the 8 hours your body needs ... could be a big part of being tired all the time. I also like to do a work out video while the baby is sleeping... i use the Walk away the pounds video... it is only 30 mins but a great work out.. :) keep trying..
@tismesara (113)
• United States
7 Sep 08
I so can relate to you. my kids are only 17 months apart and i was so used to eating for 2 (or 3 at one point) and then i got pregnant again (unfortunatly lost that one but thats another story) and so i too gained a lot of weight. i went from 160 to 210 and am in desprate need to loose more weight. its not easy when you have the little ones around because like you said about the gym, you have to load, unload, get yourself ready and so on. have you thought about maybe doing a little workout at home? just something little? maybe look into if there is a workout video on netflix or even on the computer. i have found some on here that are maybe 5 min or so... do a 5 min movement every once in a while. it should add up (i should be heeding my own words... hmmm... i think i'll start that tomorrow!). also i know how it is when your kid gets hungry you HAVE to feed him/her and then theres the problem of "hey, i want food too". i know, i have been there... try drinking more water and some tea before you eat. just a suggestion!