How do you comfort your partner when you are not beside him or her?
September 5, 2008 2:01am CST
My girlfriend is really very very stressed right now and I really feel bad because I can't do anything for her. Although I really want to go comfort her, I just can't because she really lives far from me. So what do you do to comfort your partner when you are not there physically beside him or her?
8 Sep 08
Even your far from her you can still make her feel that your their,by texing her up,writing her letters or sending her a card,and chatting with her even everyday.Problems are only temporary,it's the solution to the problems and their are alot of options,but some it will take time. If your gf loves you she will love you for what you are,even problems she will eembraced it tightly. Another oprtion is why don't either one of you stay near by or transfer. When I was that really far from my gf what I do I text her everyday,makes her still that I am their with her. Anyway have a bice day!
5 Sep 08
Well i have experience that before when me and my hubby are far apart.What i usually do is send him some funny messages that will makes him smile or messages of encouragement that will make him know that i am always there for him inspite the distants. Little things that i know will make him happy. You cant actually be physically present with him but at least a message will make her realized that shes not alone. And that someone is there for her, understanding and know what shes going through. That would be the best thing you can do for your gf at this moment that you are still not together.
5 Sep 08
Generally i always keep myself updated with the status of where he is being. But in any situation when he needs me i try to comfort him the most on phone if i am out-stationed or else personally go down wherever i am, spend some time with each other, make him feel comfortable and relax him so that he feels that he is being cared.... pampered and cozy.
• United States
5 Sep 08
Well, a conversation over the phone will do. Talk happy memories that will remind her and make her smile. If she wont, at least that way she will realized that you really want to comfort and make her feel better if you were with her. Encouragement may helps too. When I was ocean apart with my husband, every time he gets upset or stressed out of things all I do was to teased him. I would tell him that if I were only with him that time I would tickle him or give him a special body massage. Hahaha. That worked for him. You should talk as if you are really together and don't make each other feel that you're miles apart coz that will makes you or her more upset of things.
5 Sep 08
I do not know whether my answer will be any effect. i am not into any relationship. But from my perception I can say, best way is to talk and confront her.also try to get understand why she is so much stress. assure her that everythig will be ok.
5 Sep 08
you should give her a phone call. she'll need it. whenever my boyfriend doesn't feel good, and he has a problem, I will call him or I will visit him. there's this time that his car was accidentally hit. I was going to the office at that time, and then he call me through my phone that he had a car accident. I can't stand to hear him crying, that is why I don't go to work and go to his place and check if he's OK. luckily, he doesn't get hurt.. knowing that I am there, and comforting him makes him feel good. so go, and phone her, or visit her. she needs your presence for sure.