Will forgive your bf or gf break up with u because your best friend?

China
September 5, 2008 8:02am CST
Hey, everyone. I just got a phone call from my friend Vera, she told me she was so pissed off because her boyfriend told her he had fell in love with her best friend. I was feel sorry about her. and she said she would never forgive him and she thought he ruined everything, including her friendship with her best friend. Its tough for her, i totally get that, if that happens to me, what would i do? i ask myself and i really cant figure out the best way. What would you do if you were my friend? will you forgive both of them who betrayed you?
4 responses
@nlcapricorn (1115)
• Philippines
6 Sep 08
This kind of situation happens to me also when i was in first year college. It was kinda funny when i have to think it now.Why? because we are still friends! At first it wa so awkward though but if you learn to accept what had happened then everybody is happy. At first it was really hard to forgive my boyfriend. There are a lot of girls and why he felt in love to my bestfriend?? Thats really the big question mark i have that time. They just fool me for a month! My other bestfriend told me about it for she doesnt want to let that happen to believe that my boyfriend is still loving me for he is not. I even not settle it immediately or talk to them the time i know it. I was not able to because they bought not seeing me after they know that i know already about both of them. All i did is forgive them. Maybe you will say its not that easy.Yes its really not that easy. It was really hard for me but who i am not to forgive them. Even God can forgive no matter how big is the sin how much more me? I am just GOD's creation. I forget everything and let it be. I am happy for them anyway. Meaning we are not for each other. So, accept the REALITY. At present, we are still bestfriends. Forget everything in the past and start anew. Now we had a more prosperous friendship, stronger friendship than ever.
• China
6 Sep 08
oh, i admire you for your forgiveness and love. Just so you know, most of us cannot not be that generous. yeah, it seems that its a very common situation when university students date. I know its tough for you from the beginning. But what you did offer you a better, prosperous friendship, so who knows? we often cant control everything, then let it be may be the best choice. Thank you for your sharing!! best wishes!!!
• Philippines
7 Sep 08
Yes right. Its really tough from the beginning. But forgiveness is the best for you to move on and start life. Not that you will remain stagnant because of what had happen.
@hiddenwing (3721)
• China
6 Sep 08
It is not possible though. If I were the guy, I wouldn't forgive them. Lol
• Philippines
7 Sep 08
Lol..you cant live a life without forgiveness. Love your enemies my friend.
5 Sep 08
Hi merrycherry, I can understand your friend's boyfriend, well he is a man his brain in one place but the best friend I can't you don't do that to a friend so in my opinion she was never really a best friend so your friend is well shot of them they deserve each other. Tamara
• China
6 Sep 08
ok, tamara, thank you for your advice, i told vera to be more forgiveness and tolerate. anyway, thank you!! have a nice day, tamara!
@slickcut (8141)
• United States
5 Sep 08
Well i think Vera's boy friend did the right thing by callling her and letting her know up front that he was breaking up with her because he fell in love with her best friend...Vera's friend did betray her because she should have NEVER even thought of going with her best friends b/f...Sometimes we just cannot help what happens..Maybe it was just meant for them to fall in love,and they were meant to be together.As for the forgiveness part that would be up to Vera.I am sure she is very hurt,and maybe for the time being she should just stay away from them & let herself heal...She may never be best friends with Vera but she will need to at least not hold on to hate or unforgiveness..I don't know if i could be best friends with her,but i would try to overcome the really bad feelings because that only hurts you when you hold in hate & resentment..I think i would forgive her but she would probably Not be my best friend again.....She betrayed Vera's trust and doubt she could ever really trust her again....
• China
6 Sep 08
yeah, i know what you mean.. I know about Vera's boyfriend, actually hes kinda a good man. well.. i dont know, i just want to find a best way to let Vera heal herself.. Thanks a lot~~ slickcut!