Being sweet to your BF?

@kean28 (226)
Philippines
September 5, 2008 8:41am CST
can anyone tell me how to be sweet to your BF? so i actually got an argument with my BF because he says i don't know how to be sweet to him and that i don't always get it when he was just being sweet to me and i take it as an offense and get upset with it...so, i told myself am i that dumb to know or i just do not know to to play sweet with my man now, the question is, how do you play sweet with your man? and specially guys i need your opinions please...how do you want your GF to be sweet on you? P.S i'm on a long distance relationship... anyone please! help!
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@valeria1 (2721)
• United States
5 Sep 08
I can play sweet for sure, but in your case you should ask him what sweet means to him, from there you can operate! Good Luck!
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@kean28 (226)
• Philippines
5 Sep 08
he never wanna tell me how he wanted me to be sweet...when i ask he always say you should know...and i'm not getting it..he wanted me to come to figure it out by myself..
• Philippines
5 Sep 08
Being sweet is not something being learn or acquire, mind you, it is gained out of the real feelings you have inside. Being sweet is an expression of your inner self, and that you show your tender caress towards the person you love. It's how much you love him/her deep inside and you want to equate the same thing physically towards him/her. You feel that this time never happens again tomorrow that you make full use of it.
@kean28 (226)
• Philippines
5 Sep 08
i hear you and that is what i thought i was showing him..i for one thought i was being sweet on my own way...but he said i wasn't doing the right thing
@jillbeth (2705)
• United States
5 Sep 08
To me, "sweet" is doing small things to please your partner, like bringing him a cup of coffee before he asks for it, picking up small presents you know he likes (I buy my hubby his favorite candy when I'm out shopping for other things), giving him a shoulder rub after a long day at work, leaving shorts notes just to say "I love you." Just doing the little things that let him know you care and are thinking of him. Since you are in a long-distance relationship, that leave out the shoulder rubs! But you can send him little email love notes or send him a small gift for no reason except that you care.
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@kean28 (226)
• Philippines
5 Sep 08
thanks for that advice an di'll definitely do it...maybe it'll work just by sending some sweet thoughts to make him know he is on my mind always...
@dooonah (37)
• Philippines
6 Sep 08
hi girl! being sweet to the one you love is a very interesting to do girl. Me my bf says am a very sweet person coz even if were far apart still i keep on txting him with sweet notes and even calling him on the phone and whispering the magic words iloveu. Being sweet to ur bf really give them this feelings of oneness and cared for,when ever am with him i use to kiss him a lot as many as i can and give him a big big hug and pinching his chicks and touching his back gently.Long distance is also the thing girl its just a txt away a phone call each and every day asking him to eat to be safe to look good always its just taking all in a positive angel girl....
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• Saudi Arabia
6 Sep 08
Its very easy being sweet to ur bf: her's how. - caress him - kiss gently his lips (dont bite!hehehe) -hug him -say intimate words that would make him so much inlove with u.
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@Jezebella (1446)
• United States
12 Sep 08
First off what you want to find out is how he wants you to express your love for him. What I do from time to time is I send my b/f an email about how much I love him and what he means to me. It's always a nice surprise for him when he checks his emails, other times I send him an e-card about loving or that I was thinking about him. I also like to call him when his cell phone is off so that I can leave him a message for the morning or whatever telling him to have a good day or that I love and miss him.
@rocker21 (2716)
• India
5 Sep 08
Coat yourself with honey and make him lick you... haha your boyfriend must understand you rather!
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@riyasam (16556)
• India
6 Sep 08
lol.but how is it possible in a long distance relation??
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@riyasam (16556)
• India
6 Sep 08
now i am missing my bf and going to text him,you know what.ofcourse distance does put a strain on a relation but the trivial matters do not matter when you truely love and care for a person.
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@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
12 Sep 08
[i]Hi kean, My husband is very sweet to me and I know when I am also when I am not mad! hahaha! Anyway, I do simple things for him, compose a poem for him and email to hubby when he is at work, prepare his tea in the morning and his clothes, call him anytime of the day and tell him I love him and then give a massage after work! In your case, you can also email him expressing your feeling for him, call him once in awhile since I know it's a long distance call and it will be expensive, another thing is, txt him and always remind him you love him![/i]
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
6 Sep 08
I think that the fact you are in a long distance relationship is putting strain on the fact that you are not sure when he is being sweet or when you should take offense. I would recommend asking him if he is being sweet or if he is being insulting if you are not sure. Although it seems embarrassing or you may think it to be awkward to ask, I definitely would. Sometimes I ask my fiance if he's being sweet or offensive, and most the time he will say sweet. Communication is key and especially in a long distance relationship. Are you communicating through internet or phone more? If phone, do you text or talk? Either way, even an infliction of the voice can cause you to think it's an insult. As for being sweet I would really recommend just telling him you love him (if it is at that stage) and telling him you miss him, maybe even give him an ego boost by complimenting his appearance. Either way, great emphasis of these things would do wonders for the sweetness factor. If you can afford it, send him a present. If not ask him what his favorite radio station is and email the station and ask if they can do a shout out, make sure you know what time he listens to this radio station (time zone could help, but if not ask him what the dj's name is) and make sure it's broadcasted at that time. A simple "I love you very much, and miss you" would suffice plus it will let the ladies over there know he's taken... Oh crap, not trying to make you worry or anything. ANYWAY I hope this helps!
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@jinxky (2248)
• Philippines
6 Sep 08
being sweet comes from within i'm mean it's already your instinct. like for example , we never know how to become a parent but still our parents managed it. for me i'm sweet in nature that's why i don't need any advise from other people lol
@driefbay (17)
• Saudi Arabia
6 Sep 08
can u make love with him 3 times a week? so thats it..that intimate moments woulkd definitely shows ur affection and sweetness for him. i must tell u..guys cant resists on woman's body...especially if he loves tha girl too much.(this is just my opinion)
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@gracie04 (4549)
• Philippines
6 Sep 08
long distance rel? well, all you can do is to call him once in a while... even you've got nothing to say, make an effort to call him.. send him sweet messages, let him know how much you love and miss him, etc... those sweet little things will make him feel he's important and loved...
@joy4you (641)
• India
7 Sep 08
So you want to know what a man wants or rather your man :-) First let me congratulate you on wanting to do something positive about what your BF things is a problem between you two. The first step is in acknowledging the problem and the next is deciding to do something about it. The answer according to me is to tackle the problem at it's roots. If you love your BF then that person is always in your thoughts and actions. For example if it is meal time and you are hungry you might think your BF might be hungry too, just call or SMS and ask if he has had his meal. The general idea is to make that person feel special, always wanted, cared for and that there is always someone there for him to look after him. How would you like to be treated by your BF? Best of luck to you both, let us know what happens..... :-)
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@geekyjock (371)
• Philippines
6 Sep 08
Hi I know it's hard to cope with a long distance relationship. And believe me I've seen similar relationships like yours from friends, my sister, my GF's sister. So i think one practical way of being "sweet" especially on a long distance relationship is using blending the e-technology and the traditional way of communicating with your man. What am I talking about? Simple. Example of things you could do is send spontaneous e-mails with a bunch of those emoticons or send a postcard once in a while. don't forget to call once in a while. It is not easy but you can do it.
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• United States
6 Sep 08
I kiss him, and I hug him, and I do what I can to make him feel good.
• Indonesia
5 Sep 08
Every person have their own way on how to express love and to do sweet things to the one they love. We have our own definition of how to do sweet to our loved one. If your BF said that you don't know how to be sweet to him, it actually means that you don't know what his definition of being sweet. Your BF was trying to say that you don't know what actions are sweet according to him. Actually, the ideal situation is each person understand who their spouse is and know what their spouse way to do sweet things to them so they will appreciate the different and do not demand their spouse to do what they think sweet. Just free your spouse to express his/her love in his/her own way. But unfortunately, most people don't think that way. Your BF is surely not. In that case, the solution is to be open to him. Just ask him what kind of things does he think is sweet, how does he want you to treat him. Tell him that you love him and you just want to do sweet things in your own way.
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@ibiswas (422)
• India
6 Sep 08
Every relation has their own meaning and space. Since you say that you are on a long distance relationship i feel it is very important for you to understand the dire need and consequences of this relationship. When you love/like somebody the care, warmth, concern will automatically come within yourself and you will never have to do anything special to get that happen. When you run into an argument or fight just try to identify that is it worth to have this fight and waste that time wherein you could have spend time with each other in love and peace? THE BEST RELATIONSHIP IS THE ONE IN WHICH YOUR LOVE FOR EACH OTHER EXCEEDS YOUR NEED FOR EACH OTHER.................... Bless you and wish you a happy relation and life ahead... All the best......
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