Is your husband a handyman?

@rocketj1 (6955)
United States
September 5, 2008 9:35am CST
Mine is not. In fact, I usually am the one to put things together (the lawn mower, furniture, toys etc.) I sometimes wish it wasn't this way. I of course would never say so. He is a great man in many other ways. How about you? Who's the handyman in your house? How does that affect your relationship with your spouse?
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@Ravenladyj (22904)
• United States
5 Sep 08
actually both my men are very handy and total mr. fix-its etc....And actually I'm pretty good at that sort of thing myself really....So whether I'm here at home with my husband or in PA at my bfs house, if something breaks down, needs to be assembled, fine tuned etc, it gets taken care of LOL
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@rocketj1 (6955)
• United States
5 Sep 08
Wow. What can I say to that?
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@sunshine4 (8703)
• United States
5 Sep 08
My husband didn't use to be handy, but when we were first married my mom bought him the readers digest book that show how to fix everything. He had to learn by reading the book. When something needed fixed, he would get out the book and try. In one house, he connected the hot water to the cold and the cold to the hot, so our sink was backwards:) But now he can do anything and is very handy. Me on the other hand...I am not handy at all!
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@rocketj1 (6955)
• United States
5 Sep 08
Did you get a surprise cold shower?
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@sunshine4 (8703)
• United States
5 Sep 08
LOL! Nope I was lucky, it was in the kitchen sink. It was a pain because I always had to think about it when washing dishes or getting a glass of water. That was 2 houses ago and now he can do just about anything. I told him we have to buy our 19 yr old one of those big yellow books this year since he just bought a new house.
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@rocketj1 (6955)
• United States
5 Sep 08
Has your 19-year old learned anything from Dad? I know that my father-in-law is partially to blame for my husband's lack of handyman skill. He had no patience with his boys in teaching them anything mechanical.
• United States
5 Sep 08
Mine is fairly handy. He can put things together and do minor repairs around the apartment. I also am capable of these things too, so its more like we are both the handymen of our home!
• United States
5 Sep 08
He and I each have our own toolboxes too! LOL its funny, his is usually in the car so we'll be doing stuff around the apartment and he'll ask me where my toolbox is!
@rocketj1 (6955)
• United States
5 Sep 08
That would be cool! My husband and I work really well together on other types of things such as yard work etc. It would be awesome to do stuff like that too.
• United States
9 Sep 08
My husband is really not that much of a handyman. We've never really had anything that needs to be fixed yet though. He's a lot better with technology. My vanity set stool had broken, and he was supposed to fix it. He attempted to. I'm not really sure what he did to it. He tried to drill and hammer the leg back on it. Oh Lord, it had nails and screws sticking out of it. lol. And it still didn't sit upright, and a big chunk of it was missing. I finally got my dad to fix it, but you can tell that it's been through some trauma.
@rocketj1 (6955)
• United States
9 Sep 08
Hey goody, Just talked with you on a similar discussion. Thanks for your response. I'm not sure that my husband would have even attempted that one. He's still a good guy though.
@rainmark (4302)
5 Sep 08
I can say that i am lucky to have my hubby, aside from being loving and spoiled me sometimes, he is helping me too in doing things at home. If he came home from work and see that the toys of my baby is wasn't on place he always tied it up.He put things on the right place, everythings is in right place, aside from his shoes.lolz cheers!
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@rocketj1 (6955)
• United States
5 Sep 08
My husband has size 17 (US) shoes and I trip over them if he doesn't put them away!
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@VE3IYB (209)
• Canada
8 Sep 08
HEHE I am the handyman in the house. I get to fix all the broken stuff. My family doesn't understand technology, well except "the boy". Keep your eye on "the boy."
@rocketj1 (6955)
• United States
8 Sep 08
You GET to fix all the broken stuff of you LIKE to fix it?
@rocketj1 (6955)
• United States
8 Sep 08
sorry. typo. "of" should be "or"
@cutepenguin (6431)
• Canada
6 Sep 08
My husband and I both do things. He does more of it, but generally things get fixed by whomever has time to do it.
@rocketj1 (6955)
• United States
6 Sep 08
sounds great!
@sacmom (14192)
• United States
6 Sep 08
Yes, my husband is a handyman. He better be as he builds houses for a living! LOL I like that I don't have to do most of the 'manly' chores around the house, like mowing the lawn or changing the oil in the car. Though I should learn to do some of these things for myself as it may come in handy one day.
@rocketj1 (6955)
• United States
6 Sep 08
Thanks. It's nice to hear about so many great guys out there!
@madasp (563)
• United States
6 Sep 08
my husband is so NOT a handyman, but he likes to think he is.I love him dearly and he does so many other things so well,but every time he gets the itch to "fix" something I just cringe. Luckily I have 4 brothers who are all in that line of work so I can usually call them if things get too torn apart LOL. I usually try to do most of those types of things by myself when he's at work because then I can call one of my brothers or hubby's best friend to talk me through anything I can't figure out on my own.
@rocketj1 (6955)
• United States
6 Sep 08
I can relate. My dad helps with things frequently. We have a neighbor who is a good friend and he frequently will help with stuff. But I bet you wouldn't trade your husband for anyone else's either. I'm glad he doesn't trade me in either! hehe
@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
6 Sep 08
Yes he is one. I am blessed to have a man who can do all around job at home. He is a jack of all trades and master of one and that is being a loving husband. He takes care of all fixings at home that are too hard for a woman like me. Name it and he can do it be it carpentry, plumbing, mowing, vacuuming. He even washes the dishes and do the laundry for me because my hands would ache when soaked in water for long. And how much more.. he can babysit. He loves children and can take extra care of them. This is beside the main fact that he is is profitably employed. After his work, he'd go home straight and will start working in our home. I am blessed truly blessed and I thank God for it.
@rocketj1 (6955)
• United States
6 Sep 08
You sound like you have a wonderful marriage! I know how you feel!
@kavinsh (78)
• India
6 Sep 08
hi i am really lucky to have such a husband. he fixes everything sometimes i failed to mentain the things but... he just keep everything in place. we are in this relation from 4 years. whenever we have plan to go somewhere i never packed his bags . the necessary things of children like medicines , feeder etc. he never forget anything. at home everything is mentained means no screw is loose. nowhere leakage of water and the things are kept at place . so i thank to God for such a husband
@rocketj1 (6955)
• United States
6 Sep 08
sounds like God has been good to you! Take care of that guy. You've got a good one.
@CKasulka (36)
• United States
6 Sep 08
Well lets just say it takes him forever to get around to do a project so I'm guessing no my hubby isn't too handy I usually get tired of waiting on him to hang up a picture or something and end up doing it myself i think he's lazy
@rocketj1 (6955)
• United States
6 Sep 08
Must be that it's just not something that interests him.
8 Sep 08
My husband is not handy at all. If there is something that needs to be fixed here its my job to get it done. I am pretty good at fixing things from watching my dad when I was younger so I can usually get it done myself. I even have just about every tool needed to get a job done. My husband buys me tools for christmas or my birthday to help make my jobs of fixing things easier and has even learned to deal with the ribbing from my family of "manly men" when they ask if I bought him some nice high heel shoes or jewelery in exchange for his gift to me.
@rocketj1 (6955)
• United States
8 Sep 08
ooo! How does he take the ribbing?
7 Sep 08
My house is the same way. It's kind of funny how we have wound up in reverse roles. I'm the one who pays the bills, works on the car when it breaks down and watches football and hockey. He plays with the kids and does the dishes. Neither of us seems to mind, though. That's just how things got divided up because he isn't very mechanically handy and I spent lots of time learning that stuff from my dad and brothers.
@rocketj1 (6955)
• United States
8 Sep 08
It's great to hear someone else has the same situation. It seems like it works out nicely for you too. I'm not into the sports thing, though. But my guy does help with housework when I ask. He never complains. His usual things are: the trash, the recycling, the bill paying, and he always does the sunday dinner dishes. I guess it's just what works for us.
@emarie (5442)
• United States
6 Sep 08
mine is. he loved working with his hands. he installs car stereos and loves working on cars to. he knows how to do most stuff around the house and if he doesn't know, he tries or learns how. he fixes most things that can be fixed. he fixed our clogged pipe because our manager said we needed to pay for it to be snaked, so my husband bought a snake and did it himself. actually, it was kind of sexy at the time. i just love the fact he's so helpful around the house. i guess i'm a little pampered because of it. i try to do things on my own, but mess up.
@rocketj1 (6955)
• United States
6 Sep 08
It is really nice to be "taken care of" sometimes like that. My husband actually will help with stuff that is too heavy of too high for me to reach (He's 6'8") He's even great with housework. He's just not naturally mechanical. Sounds like your guy is. I have heard that everyone speaks a different love language. Many men say they love you by doing things for you rather than saying it out loud. In other words, snaking the clogged pipe was his way of saying "I love you, baby". he he
@moneyandgc (3428)
• United States
5 Sep 08
My first husband was/is very much a handyman. Though it was nice that he could fix stuff and build stuff... Sometimes it got annoying too. He always had a hundred projects going. If I wanted to buy something for the house I would hear, "But I could make that!" And there is no doubt that he could but I wanted it in a reasonable time frame not 2 years down the road! He never had much time to spend with us just doing family stuff because he was always starting new projects. My husband now, he is the exact opposite. He is not a handyman at all. It doesn't really interest him either. He would rather pay for something to be fixed. Though after being with my ex for so long, I know how to do a lot of stuff myself. He will help most of the time if I need it, or want it.
@rocketj1 (6955)
• United States
5 Sep 08
Your first husband sounds like a guy I know. My friend had a new dishwasher in the box sitting in her kitchen for 2 years! He had promised to put it in but never got around to it for that long. He had to scoot past it to get to the sink everyday. You would think that would be motivation. And you know what? I don't think even SHE complained. Unique marriage, I guess.
@lemayan (188)
• Germany
5 Sep 08
yes my man is certainly a handy man he will make even the smallest of things, like he will worry about the dish make a kitchen table board you name it but ask him to vacuum clean or wash dishes and you might as well be talking to a stone, the man will not do it or it ends up in a fight i prefer not to ask him for such things, but then again think about how often do you get to mow the lawn or make a kitchen shelve or straighten the, t.v dish? not often
@rocketj1 (6955)
• United States
6 Sep 08
My husband will help around the house. He's just not very mechanically inclined. Fixing things, assembling things, working on cars etc. It's just not his thing.
@titagdl (136)
• Mexico
5 Sep 08
Oh my God! It´s like seeing myself in the mirror! I have that same problem.My husband doesn´t even own a hammer, let alone do stuff around the house. If I need something done I have to do it myself and it does bother me sometimes. I mean,how hard is it to change a lightbulb and he doesn´t even do that! He tells me that excuse all the time: I´m great at my job,but not these kind of things, and it is true. So just like you,I can´t really tell him anything. But it is annoying that he won´t even make an effort to try to do somethings around the house, instead of paying other people to do it.
@rocketj1 (6955)
• United States
5 Sep 08
Actually, my guy will attempt some things. I think it makes him feel rather stupid and so he avoids looking dumb in front of me. I think he feels that he has dissappointed me in that way. That's why I could never bring myself to say anything. I want him to keep his dignity. He's a great guy in many other ways.
@tiff1984 (385)
• United States
6 Sep 08
My husband is to much of a handyman if that is possible. He is a carpenter by trade and then he starts all these side projects around the house. He is constantly doing something or working on something. I just wish I had all his energy.
@rocketj1 (6955)
• United States
6 Sep 08
My father was a brick mason and my mom's side of the family are all in construction (mostly carpenters). I guess that I just picked a different type of guy. Maybe that's why I get just a little frustrated sometimes.