Teenagers - do you think they're disrespectful nowadays?

@likaes (496)
Singapore
September 5, 2008 7:16pm CST
You often hear of teenagers misbehaving whether in public - defacing property, being mean to people; or generally being mean to their parents. Do you think this is a trend nowadays, that has only risen now? Or do you think this has been the case all along, for all generations of teenagers? Also, have you experienced the ill-manner of such teenagers?
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• United States
6 Sep 08
I think that this goes in cycles for some reason! I know that when I was a teenager, (graduated in 87') I don't remember hearing alot about these things. Killing,defacing property,assaulting people.Now thats pretty much all you hear about in the news. I was actually at a place called "Jump Zone" one day with a group of children from the daycare I work at during the summer. There was a mother and her 2 daughters there with a couple of their friends. The mom and one of the daughters began to argue, so they went outside and get this, this little girl (maybe 9 or 10 ) slapped her mother across the face! I thought I was going to faint! I still believe that most of it comes from and starts from home! We as parents must be involved with our children in every aspect of their lives.We obviously can run their lives, but we can teach them and help them with the right knowledge.And then just hold on and pray they make the right choices when we let go of them!!! :) I have a 17 yr. old son and 15 yr old daughter and both have expressed the not so loving ill-mannered teenaged mouth. But,thats as far as their behavior has gone. Be there for them, talk to them. I think it has always been there, it just rears its ugly head at different times.
@likaes (496)
• Singapore
6 Sep 08
Woah, that little girl went a bit too far, I think. Hopefully, when i have children in the future, my kids won't be like that. I don't think I'll be able to tolerate that.
• United States
6 Sep 08
She sure did, the sad thing is that her mom did nothing.! Its a good thing that I was working because had I not been I probably would have done or said something then, but I had 20 children I was responsible for.
@sharra1 (6342)
• Australia
6 Sep 08
Yes I would say it is a trend these days. They were not like this when I was young. When I was a newly qualified teacher I found I was spending most of my time just disciplining students. When I was a student, detention was something to be scared of. If you got one your parents would be furious. Now days you give a student a detention and they just look at you and laugh and say things like. "Big deal, like as if I would both going to that detention any more than I would go to any other one. As if I care... etc" and they swear. Also when I was young you did not get gangs of young people roaming the streets hitting people or gate crashing parties like you do now and they are rude to adults. I think it is getting worse and I think there is something wrong in society that this is happening. I think the problem is that the only thing society values now is money. If you are not earning money you have no value as a person, things that do not make money no longer have value. When a society loses it values, stops caring about people then how can we expect our young to be any different. I think it will continue to get worse unless our society stops being so greedy and starts to value people again.
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@likaes (496)
• Singapore
6 Sep 08
Being a teacher must be rough these days. I suppose being a teacher commands a lot of respect, but when the students start disrespecting you, you lose a portion of command over them, and you won't be able to teach them anything cause they won't pay attention. It's true, almost everything is about money nowadays. Individuals are valued less, and earning money is the focus. Almost all our energy is expended towards that goal from the start of our lives. We learn so we can get better-paying jobs. We interact with people to get opportunities. If you're not part one's plan to advance the corporate ladder, you're unimportant.
@djoyce71 (2512)
• Philippines
6 Sep 08
There are a lot of them, but there are still others who are good mannered and was raised correctly by their parents. Some of the factors are their environment in the home, their influences: friends and computers. Some teenagers nowadays are arrogant, disrespectful, careless, selfish and irresponsible. Hope they change when they grow older.
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@likaes (496)
• Singapore
6 Sep 08
Well, as more and more responsibilities pile up on them, they have to grow up eventually. So i think they will change.
@Erin88 (348)
• United States
6 Sep 08
I think some are, and some aren't. I have met some very wonderful teens, and then I go home and live next to some that are very disrespectful. It depends on the parents and outside influences. The ones that live next door to me have been left home alone a lot since they were young. Their mother is gone, and their father works long hours. When he interacts with them, he seems to yell a lot. I haven't seen him give them very much positive feedback. I think every generation has had its share of disrespectful teens. It does appear to be getting worse, but it could just be that we don't hear about the good teens very often. The focus is more on the bad ones.
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@likaes (496)
• Singapore
6 Sep 08
This could be part of some sort of trend in our modern lifestyle. As you mentioned, just like your neighbour, families don't spend as much time together because of their busy lifestyle. I wonder if that could contribute to the misbehavior of teenagers?
@lilaclady (28240)
• Australia
6 Sep 08
Yes I have noticed it a lot but i have also noticed the the older people are the same these days so i think the examples they are getting has been set and they are just doing what they see,....a monkey see monkey do thing...
@likaes (496)
• Singapore
6 Sep 08
I guess this is true as well; maybe rudeness comes about as part of our modern lifestyle?
@JLMack (68)
• United States
6 Sep 08
There are a lot of kids out there that are rude and don't care what they say or do around other people. But the majority are really good kids, they just need to be given the chance and not put in a grouping with every other kid. Most of the kids I have come across will open the door for me and let me go first. They just want someone to care enough to treat them with respect too. With both parents having to wotk to support the family they don't have much time to spend together like they need to. It's very hard on the kids. So they turn to each other for the attention.
@likaes (496)
• Singapore
6 Sep 08
Perhaps its only the bad eggs that we keep hearing about that gives us this shared view of teenagers. Bad news tends to stick to our minds and we exclude those that are good.
@likaes (496)
• Singapore
6 Sep 08
Yeah, that's what I think too. There could be other factors involved, but I think the lifestyle of the average family is the cause of this. Too busy involved with work and less time spent with their children.
@Ithink (10673)
• United States
7 Sep 08
I do think that kids have gotten more disrespectful and I have my own theory on this. I also know that there are good kids out there too. I do think that we also hear more of the bad like in the news and it sticks with you. You dont hear about the everyday respect or help that some teens do for others. All in all I do think things have gotten somewhat worse with teens but there are enough nice ones to even it out in my opinion.
@likaes (496)
• Singapore
7 Sep 08
Yeah, the bad ones get all the rep. Its the bad things that remain in our mind afterwards
• India
7 Sep 08
We can't say like that because i know lot of teenagers who are still respecting their elder ones. Now the society practists and cultures are like that so only some people like you are thinking that younger ones are not respecting the elders ones. If we cared for the teenagers then they will care for you.
@likaes (496)
• Singapore
7 Sep 08
I understand that many teenagers and children still respect their elders. However, it appears to me that the general consensus on teenagers is that they are getting worse in this period.
• United States
7 Sep 08
As a teen myself, I often find that such labeling is very stereotypical. I and my social group do not act like a bunch of morons; we are mature young adults. I do acknowledge there are teenagers who don't hold any regard for anyone else, but that can be true of any age group.
@likaes (496)
• Singapore
7 Sep 08
That is what I am talking about, that the shared public view of teenagers is quite negative. I myself understand that not all teenagers are like that - even adults can act this way as well. I posted this discussion to find out exactly what people think of teenagers.
@sid556 (31005)
• United States
6 Sep 08
I actually get along well with most teens and find them a lot of fun to be around. I have 4 daughters in ages that are very spaced out and so I've always had teens in my home. I also work in the public and deal with many teens...most of whom are polite and considerate. There will always be those that are not but then again you find adults with the same type of manners. I don't think there are more rude teens than in the past. What I have noticed is that the ones that are rude have become ruder. I'm around a lot of teens on a daily basis and beyond a select few, I really don't have problems with them.
@likaes (496)
• Singapore
6 Sep 08
I suppose those that start out rude, end up being rude as well as they grow up. It just goes to show how much a good upbringing matters..
• Singapore
6 Sep 08
youngsters are disrespectful, arrogant, full of themselves, rebellious, etc but who has not been young before? there's always a little bit of rebellious character in us ;)
@likaes (496)
• Singapore
6 Sep 08
Nobody likes being too controlled I suppose.
• Philippines
6 Sep 08
I don't think all teenagers are misbehaved. It depends on how were they disciplined while growing up, in my case I've noticed however that children are usually getting non-traditionalistic. During my times, as a sign of respect, we have to put the hands of the elderly on our forehead but as of now I don't see parents strictly teaching them this method to their kids anymore.
@likaes (496)
• Singapore
6 Sep 08
I don't think so too, but the general consensus by the public at large seems to be so.. that teenagers are getting more disrespectful. I think older traditions tend to die out as we progress further into globalization. Old superstitions and the like, are refuted by modern advances in sciences, so newer generations see less need to follow the older traditions.
• Malaysia
6 Sep 08
Hey there, I think teenagers will always be rebellious. I'm just 24 and dont have children so I could not care less about what teenagers are doing around me just as long as they don't affect my life. Yes, I see teenagers loitering in the early hours. Some of them are obsessed with games and the internet instead of something productive like art or music. In my place, the teenagers are still respectful unless you disturb them like questioning why they are loitering or wearing gothic clothes. They just don't like to be questioned.
@likaes (496)
• Singapore
6 Sep 08
Everybody's gotta have their space. I can imagine they don't care much for authority.
@Sheepie (3118)
• United States
6 Sep 08
I don't think this can be said of all teenagers. I still am one, and, well, I have been at times disrespectful these past years, but I've been disrespectful of about the same amount all my life, I think. Teenagers are almost always somewhat rebellious, any generation. This generation is probably not so much more bad than the last, though. I think as you get older, teenagers just seem to be more disrespectful because you can not connect with them as much. But they are disrespectful, generally. How they treat each other, especially girls, can get a bit more extreme as they get older, though. They gossip and spread rumors, but little kids pick on each other too, so it's not an isolated event.
@likaes (496)
• Singapore
6 Sep 08
Sometimes I wonder, how much of this is actually exaggerated by the current generation of adults (Gen X) who take care of these teenagers, and only feel that way because their generation was in some way rebellious.
@divinchris (2449)
• India
6 Sep 08
I do agree with you that teenagers are quite disrespectful these days.I believe that the reason for this is due to parents disinterest over their children.So as a child he won't get his mother s love and father s compassion,eventually as he grew up he will behave pretty oddly.
@magna86 (1787)
• India
6 Sep 08
well the age is like that!! at this age they tend to think that they are the only persons who are rite!! and the others are wrong!!!no matter how rite they may be!! this act of theirs leads to the disrespect!! and all nonsense!! and afterwards they would definitely understand that they were wrong at a particular age!!!
@gracie04 (4555)
• Philippines
6 Sep 08
A larger percentage of teenagers nowadays are disrespectful... i have seen many teens behave in such way and i just can't help feeling irritated and thwarted... Conversely, i feel that teenagers aren't fully to blame. Parents have a big accountability in making sure that their son/daughter grows up learnng good values...
@tununsu (42)
6 Sep 08
As a teenager i can honestly say that most of the peolpes are very much disrespectful towards senior and society's norm who are holding the age range between 12 to 18.Agrassion of satelite channel and worst western culture destroying all value and norm of beauty every conservative society.It is hurtful to say this is the present beauty of society where pepoles are love to live alone,they don't fell love and respect towards each other.Human mind working as like a machine.
@ANTIQUELADY (36489)
• United States
6 Sep 08
i think alot of them are & i think it all begins at home. if they are not taught to respect their parents they want respect anyone. parents don't take the time w/ them that they should. it starts when they are small , teaching them how to behave & act. parents don't take the time to do that. they don't teach them manners anymore. i blame the parents. i always felt responsible when my sons didn't act like they were suppose to. when they didn't they were punished for it.