Is there such people that don't expect to get things back in return?

United States
September 6, 2008 3:30am CST
Many people I've come across in life always expect a return of some kind. If you buy something for their kid, they'd buy you something for yours. My husband and I got into a heated debate over him buying stuff for his nephew whom's father is quite ungrateful- I didn't act very nice about it for the rest of the day. My husband claims there are people that do things for others and no ever expect or want something in return...I've never met people who are that nice in life....have you?
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29 responses
• United States
11 Sep 08
I have , every time I look in the mirror. I do nice things all the time and I don't expect anything in return.
@vanities (11395)
• Davao, Philippines
11 Sep 08
what about your parents? i think theyre one of those people who really dont expect nothing in return..im speaking in general terms since some parents sad to say are not the same...im a parent and i can vouch that as parent you give all the needs of your children and most important of all the love and care and whatever...and never expecting something in return especially on the financial aspect..
@casinocat (284)
• United States
7 Sep 08
Wow! Your post really makes me sad. Although reading the responses reinforces my belief that most of us are not like what you describe. I believe that most of us will give a gift without expecting one in return; offer a helping hand without expecting an outpouring of gratitude; do a kindness for someone just because we are human, and that's what we do. What do we get in return? A very good feeling.
• United States
7 Sep 08
You've never met me then. I don't expect anything in return when I do something for somebody. If I'm a boss I expect people to work for me but I don't expect more than that, If I'm a father I don't expect my kids to do anything for me if I make them three meals a day and take care of them. What I do "desire" is that they help me when its needed. Maybe your husband feels the need to help, you should be happy that he has kindness in him.
@savypat (20216)
• United States
7 Sep 08
Well people seem to come in two types, givers and takers. When ever I give something I never expect anything in return, if I gave it I consider it gone and that's it. However if I receive anything I always try to at least say thank you. That is just polite isn't it.
• Pakistan
7 Sep 08
hmmmm... i think evry body does... people might not show that they do... but they do... if you love some one... you expect to be loved... if you help someone.. you expect that the same person ill be there to help you in the time of need.... even in the sacred realtion of husband and wife... they expect things from each other... if you take care of him... you expect that he will take care of you... i dnt think any relation is free from expectations.. even your parents expect that you will be there to help you out in their old age.... so i can not believe that if some one gives you a gift, he/ she wont be expecting you to give one back....
• United States
6 Sep 08
Whenever I do something for someone, I NEVER expect something in return. I have a group of women that I chat with on a regular basis (most of us have actually never met - we communicate on a message board). I did a video using pictures of some of these women (the ones sho wanted to participate), and sent them each a copy. I just wanted to do something nice for them. I enjoy doing random acts of kindness for people. It brightens their day.
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
7 Sep 08
i really think there is people that enjoy doing things for people that don't expect payback. payback is nice & i think most of the time you get it back some way ot another. i'm talking about family & close friends. there are people who are just like vultures that take & never give back but it doesn't take u long to figure out those kind.
@mentalward (14691)
• United States
7 Sep 08
I'm sorry to hear that you've never met any truly nice people. They are out there, trust me! Whenever I do something for someone, or give them something, I never expect anything in return. I do what I do because I want to do it, not to get something back from them. I DO get something whenever I give something, though. It might not be a physical thing, such as a gift, but I get self-satisfaction from doing something nice for someone else. It makes me feel good about me. I've helped people out who never say "Thank you" or acknowledge it in any way. That doesn't bother me. I feel sad for that kind of person because they must be awfully lonely inside, but it doesn't hurt me any. If someone gives me something, I will reciprocate, even if it is only a smile and a "Thank you." People should not expect anything in return. When you give anything to anyone, it should be from your heart alone and with no ulterior motive. It sounds to me like your husband is one of those people, so you DO know someone like that.
@sherputt (35)
• India
6 Sep 08
See Dear friend There are a few people almost no one would you find in the world who would not expect any thing in return to the thing/service/obligation in return. Every one expects one or the other thing.
@johnkhoo (30)
• Malaysia
7 Sep 08
There are many people like that. Really. Doing something to other people and don't expect something from them in return. This maybe is because they are positive minded thinkers. They will do whatever in good for others and make others happy and feel satisfied. As long as others are happy and feel satisfied, they are willing to exchange their time and money for the happiness of themselves.
@heaven11 (1159)
• United States
7 Sep 08
yes there are a lot of people like that even though most people in the world now a days are greedy selfish inconsiderate there are people who still know the meaning of life and love
• Philippines
7 Sep 08
There are actually people like that. Well, I myself can say I was one of those kind. I have this mentality, if they have something in return well and good, but if not much better. I dunno but I always struck with those its better to give than to recieve thing. Though I believe that good deeds will return for you someday in ten folds or more, an assestment in your life that could make you accept that some things are not meant to be, and that some things has its own time, its own season, and its own reason for coming and going.
• Canada
7 Sep 08
no, i dont think there's such. its always give and take as long as its for the common good.
@KrauseHome (36449)
• United States
6 Sep 08
Well, I have met some from time to time who don't expect things in return, so I know it does happen. It just depends what type of person they are. But a lot of times there are Christians like Pastors, etc. who are like this. I actually work with someone who is like this, but I make sure to not ask him unless I can return though as well.
@tammytwo (4298)
• United States
6 Sep 08
There are certain instances when people do nice things for others and never expect anything in return. But there are also other instances when it would be nice for the recipient to at least acknowledge the action with a simple "thank you" or even an occasional gift in return. I know people that always want my husband and I to buy them something (they are adults) for their birthday but they never even buy anything for our children for their birthdays. We just simply don't buy for the adults in the family other than my mom for Holidays.
@hiddenwing (3719)
• China
6 Sep 08
I don't thinks there are some people who don't expect any return At least, others should appreciate it. It is disappointing if they don't get back anything including thx
@adoremay (2065)
• Philippines
6 Sep 08
There are times that I do expect something in return, however most of the time I don't. I think when a person gives he should not expect something in return because that would not be termed giving that would be define as exchanging. When you give, it means offering something whole heartedly.
• India
6 Sep 08
Have a patience baby, you are still immature in life. One has to think and do so many things in life. Think you may also being doing some thing for charity. More over your husband is not throwing the money to gamblers or drinkers if he is giving some thing to the children of his sister and your sister and do not expect from them do not mind after all they are also close related to you. If both of u can afford and do not expect in return no matter. It is possible that they may not be able to do some thing in return but can pray god for your well being. It happens in our society also. I am telling you my own story. So far till date I have not taken any thing from any of my relations or from the relations of my wife but myself and my wife has given to all relatives in the need or also otherwise as gifts. Some time it hurt us when they changed their behavior towards us and my daughter then we feel little that too for the time being. It is happening to me and we dam care but god is with us so far and we are not short of any thing. Do good have good from the god. Relax, comment and have a nice day.
@lemayan (188)
• Germany
6 Sep 08
no i dont i have ever met anyone in this lifetime who gives anything for free, all the people i have met all expect to be given something in return and if not at that moment then later, its usually called an a future investment where you give something without asking or expecting anything but your sure that it will repaid in full in the future either in form of a favour or something, your husband seems to be a giver but tell nobody gives anything for free in this world,anyway not that i know of, and if your nephew's father is the ungrateful type then dont expect much in return