Have you and spouse/sig. other ever slept apart due to an argument?

@ersmommy1 (12600)
United States
September 6, 2008 10:56am CST
My hubby and I did last night. Neither of us slept well. We are still dealing with a roommate that won't leave. Said roommate now wants to move back into the basement on 10/18 so we can start on our sons room. Now I am pregnant and maybe a bit hormonal. But yesterday roommate came and told me he was leaving for vacation in 10 days,and I thought GREAT head start on my kids room. It was a no go. Which led to us arguing over HIM. How long did it take you to get over the argument. In my opinion, time for roomie to LEAVE!!!@!!
7 responses
@JLMack (68)
• United States
7 Sep 08
Does this roomate have any right to be in this house other than the one you and your husband gave him? Is he on a lease? This person doesn't seem to care what stress he is causing your family. So I think it is time that you checked out all your options, even legally if needed. Becareful, take care,and God Bless.
@ersmommy1 (12600)
• United States
7 Sep 08
No, he isn't on a lease. Which I guess is the mistake we made in the 1st place.And we are looking into the legal aspect of things.
@JLMack (68)
• United States
6 Sep 08
I am sorry that you are fighting at all, and sometimes having others living in your home can really be uncomfortable. Especially when you are expecting. I don't know how you have approched the subject with your roomate about moving out. But either you or your husband should ask him if he would please find another place to live because you just need your own space now with the baby coming and everything. Having a baby changes your whole life and you both need time to adjust before the baby gets there. Pluse you and your husband need to have some Alone time. And after all it is your home. Be firm. And I home that this is the only time that your husband sleeps apart from you, but I doubt it will be. Good Luck to the both of you and the New Baby. God Bless You Too.
@ersmommy1 (12600)
• United States
7 Sep 08
Thanks. We have talked with him. He just doesn't budge. I am hoping he will see the light soon.
@eztuner (451)
• United States
6 Sep 08
Every couple at least once has this type of arguments, once you understand, Why do we need to be uncomfortable for just a normal simple disagreement? You or him will never leave the room again! What ever the problem is you will come to terms talking. You need to be in the same space in order to do that! Good luck with the talks, Hope the roommate finds another place and leaves you in Peace.
@ersmommy1 (12600)
• United States
7 Sep 08
Doesn't look like that will happen any time soon. Which puts us in a rush to finish before I give birth. The roommate doesn't understand he is ruining his friendship with ue=s by behaving this way. But thanx!
@bbsr13 (4198)
• India
6 Sep 08
Hello,Mommy! during our 39 years of married life we have never quarreled but we sleep in separate beds in the same room.In a relationship you have to adjust to the situations and either of you must keep quiet.Life goes that way.So there is nothing serious about it.We are quite happy.thanx.
@ersmommy1 (12600)
• United States
6 Sep 08
Sounds like you have a wonderful system worked out.
• United States
2 Oct 08
Oh, I was reading some of your recent posts and it looks like things are working out for you. Glad to hear that. Good luck.
@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
10 Sep 08
You need the space for your child and it needs to be ready so that it is one less stressful thing you have to worry about. I have sleep on the couch and so has he a few times.but the next morning things are usually fine. I think you should give the roommate a written notice and by word of mouth so that he also gets the idea sunk in since he hasn't..I know your husband probably doesn't want him out in the streets but this roommate has known he may have to leave since you first found out about birth and he is dragging his feet on this..he should respect you and your privacy and family life and move out. He knows when he has got it good..
@sudalunts (5526)
• United States
6 Sep 08
I know your discussion is about agruing with your partner. I am confused about the roommate. Was it that this person was using your son's room, now wants to stay in the basement? I was trying to figure out you saying a head start on my kids room. Well, anyway, that's for you to know and me to find out My husband and I slept apart for one month. In that whole time, I did nothing for him, cook, wash his clothes etc. He got bent out of shape because I did not want to go to his granddaughter's one year old birthday party. His son does not speak to me, and does not respect me, and I told my husband that I didn't want to go to the party. The day of the party I guess he thought that I would change my mind, and when I didn't he changed from Dr. Jekell to Mr. Hyde. In the end he admitted that his son is a jerk and was very disappointed with the party. I did relent and went to his son's wedding one year later, and the whole time we were there, his son did not say one word to me, no hello, no kiss my a** no nothing. Now, when my husband asks me to do something that involves his son, and I say no, he will just say okay and that's it. Hope you guys make up soon, the longer you stay apart mentally the harder it gets to reconcile.