Am I pretty?

September 6, 2008 4:14pm CST
I know it's a stupid question. I feel stupid asking it. Lately my husband just keeps telling me how ugly I am. He used to tell me how beautiful I was inside and out. So, I just feel like it's getting to me now. I never really thought I was beautiful or anything. I can live with being normal. But I don't feel normal, I feel hideous. Dumb, I know.
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@donna22 (1120)
6 Sep 08
The only reason you feel like this is because of what your husband is saying. That is really cruel to say something like that to his wife and I am betting that looks do not even come into it. I do not know why but he is saying you are ugly simply to hurt and upset you. He knows that because you are a woman you will probably be insecure in some about your looks and that being told you are ugly will upset you. The fact that it is coming from your husband makes it all the more worse. It could also be a control thing. He may wnat you to feel ugly so you do not go out.
6 Sep 08
It's funny you say that. He won't even "allow" me to go have a cup of coffee with my sister in law (his brother's wife). It drives me crazy. I don't do anything to bring that on. I don't flirt or anything..
6 Sep 08
you certainly do it for me. you are indeed beautiful. incredibly sexy!
6 Sep 08
Oh, well thank you very much. :)
@Anne18 (11036)
6 Sep 08
Everyone is pretty in there own way. You are very normal, your hubsband has the problem not you. Perhaps he feels like he may lose you so by telling you these things he is trying to keep you. You need to sit him down and ask him why he feels this way about you now and is he scared that he may lose you to someone else. Hope this helps you.
6 Sep 08
That helped very much, this was the exact type of answer I was hoping for... And yes he is very controlling. He won't even let me have a cup of coffee with my sister in law (his brother's wife). It's crazy. And if I do get to go out, he tells me by when I have to be home. I hate to be this type of subserviant woman, but I just can't change it.
• United States
8 Sep 08
No, you are not ugly. God doesn't make anyone ugly in my opinion. Your husband is really mean to say those things to you. You should never let anyone disrespect you in such a way. I think that you should really stand up for yourself. Your husband should never put you down. Obviously there is something within himself that he finds unattractive.
@myahw20 (1116)
• Canada
7 Sep 08
You are beautiful. And remember that in order for others to believe that you have to believe it yourself first. You should be confident of your physical attributes and the rest will follow. Good confidence also gives you good aura in general. So feel pretty!
@relundad (2311)
• United States
7 Sep 08
You are probally a very sensitive person and you probally have shown your husband some signs of insecurity and low self esteem. Instead of him protecting your feelings and re-assuring you, he has chosen to use these against you. Which is a sign that he has no respect for you and is basically verbally and mentally abusing you. Make no mistake about it. There are some men that prey on this type of woman. But normally it is to hide there own insecurities. If he wears you down emotiionally then he thinks that he has a hold on you, and so do you for that matter. You need to break free of this kind of manipilation, and realize that you are not just pretty but a beautiful being. And that his opinion should not have any bearing on this for confirmation. Don't become enslaved to his rudeness and disrespect. Don't allow him to mandate how you feel about yourself. Feel free to love you, even if he doesn't. And he really doesn't if he will verbally and mentally abuse you. Love doesn't hurt, it doesn't make you feel ugly. Love is pretty, love is beautiful.
• United States
6 Sep 08
Oh sweetie, you are very pretty! I'm sure you're just as pretty on the inside as well. I know it's hard when people say things like that but please don't let it get you down! I would also say that being with someone who makes you feel this way is never a good thing. I hope things get better for you! Keep your head up!
@doctorul (1063)
• Romania
6 Sep 08
O yes! You look very pretty to me! Will you marry me after you'll divorce your husband?!
@joski15 (108)
• United States
6 Sep 08
I guess ur ok looking if thats what you wanted to hear.