Alcohlic husband nd u

India
September 8, 2008 3:21am CST
hi to all i want to share this thing that if ur husband is alcohlic .hows ur life is going on. as my husband drinks a lot. he looses his sences after drinking. even sometimes not sometimes most of the time he uses bedroom as bathroom. he is leaking wherever he is.. i m very much upset. from 4 years i m married. can u give ur suggestion what i have to do. as i have two little children(boys). please response. thanx
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@CJay77 (4441)
• Australia
8 Sep 08
This may not an easy situation to fix! I suggest you to talk to him and let him know how much you get upset and if its not working or he doesn't change! I think you should take him in rehab.
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• India
8 Sep 08
hi CJay77, thanx for ur response. from the last 4 years i m just talking to him only about this. everytime he says to give up this .but again same.now i m thinking to work in some other city .so that he can stay alone but my children are so youngone is of 3nd half years and one is of 3 months.well thanx again for ur response.
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@James72 (26832)
• Australia
8 Sep 08
Hi Kavinsh. I wish to provide you with some advice based on two personal perspectives if I could. Firstly, I had a Father who had a drinking problem throughout my childhood; and secondly, I too went through a phase where I drank way more than I should have on a regular basis. Thankfully I never got to the stage it seems your husband has but I still was not as in control as I should have been. In my opinion the main thing is to give your husband a final ultimatum. I am sure you have asked him many times to change or seek help but after 4 years it is now crunch time. Ask him one more time to seek help with your support, or you will take the children and leave. If he STILL refuses to help you help himself then you need to reach out to your friends and family and remove you and your children from this situation. Believe me, NO child should have to grow up thinking this is OK. Sometimes people like your husband need to hit rock bottom before they are prepared to stand up and face their demons. If he does not accept your ultimatum then he may come to realize once you have gone that he HAS to change to get his family back. I know this is a tough, tough situation and act to do but you owe it to yourself and to your children. Good luck and I wish you all the best with improving things.
• India
10 Sep 08
hi james72 thanx for ur response. i really appreciate ur suggestion. can u tell how u give up when u were in this stage? i know that i can earn this much so that i can handle my children without any support. as i m too much qualified in education field. i 'll try ur suggestion once again thanx.
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@lucy67 (819)
• China
10 Sep 08
my husband used to drink a lot too and we often quarrelled bitterly over it. i persuaded him over and again but got little effect. now he is getting older and has realized the importance of health. now he doesn't drink any more. ask him to go to hospital to have a physical examination. as he always drinks so much, perhaps there is something wrong with him. when he learns his health has been hurt, i think he will control himself.
• India
11 Sep 08
hi lucy67 actually i m afraid only to go for his examine. no doubt there should be so many things wrong with him . anyway thanx for your response.