I almost quit here tonight

@Shaun72 (15968)
Palatka, Florida
September 8, 2008 3:38am CST
Due to a response I had gotten back from a discussion someone started in here. It was pretty much about my weight. It upset me for a little while and then I thought later no it's not worth quitting in here over one persons discussion that I responded to and the response I got back really upset me. I have been here to long to quit. I am not going to let one person that made this remark about me ruin it for me in here. I guess I am wrong to feel this way but at the same time I don't like being made to be made a fool because I am overweight. Has anyone else ever felt this way at one time or another over a problem in here ? Because I sure felt this way tonight.
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@1hopefulman (21409)
• Canada
4 Aug 10
I haven't had such a problem here. But I've been hurt a few times where I wanted to quit other places. But I'm no quitter. I'm glad you're not either! And this is for the heartless person.
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@Shaun72 (15968)
• Palatka, Florida
4 Aug 10
I can't even remember what I got upset over it happened so long ago.It doesn't matter now
@1hopefulman (21409)
• Canada
6 Aug 10
Glad you were able to put it behind you and move on.
@Phelyne (129)
• United States
8 Sep 08
Some people just don't have a clue. They want to judge people not having any idea what they may be going through, or any health issues they may have and what those entail. I don't know about MS, but, if you do have hypothyroidism, that means your thyroid gland, and therefore your metabolism, which controls your weight, are under active. Hypothyroidism, when not controlled by medication causes people to GAIN weight. Don't let someone being judgmental get to you, sweetie. You and God are the only ones that really know you.
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@missybear (11396)
• United States
8 Sep 08
i totaly agree with you. i have thyroid problems and dont matter what i eat or not eat i cannot loose any weight.
@Shaun72 (15968)
• Palatka, Florida
8 Sep 08
You are both right I am not sure yet about my thyroid. MS causes problems with the nervous system and also causes problems with walking,eye sight,bladder as well as other problems. I'm not in a wheelchair but I do have to use a cain to keep my balance when I walk.Also hot weather can affect me and cause problems with my walking and spasisy which means my body shakes sometimes from gettng over heated. So I hope I don't have Thyroid problems but if I do I know God well help me through it like he has with me having ms.
@Phelyne (129)
• United States
8 Sep 08
That's true, Shaun. It's a good thing we can rely on His strength. :) And, I know just what you mean, Missybear. The only time I was really successful, at losing weight, was when I could go to the doctor and get the thyroid medicine, and, he had me on an 800 calorie a day diet. I did have some mild success, when I was hitch hiking with a boy friend, in my younger days, living on the road and not eating at all some days. People just really need to watch out, judging people and putting them down.
@Chevee (5915)
• United States
9 Sep 08
I haven't been here long enough to say too much about these things. I have gotten some pretty rotten responses also. I just learn to let it role off my back like water rolling off a ducks back. You don't know who to trust in this world. These people don't know us and if we don't put anything on here that we don't want them to know they want. I make a lot of typos in my discussions it is not that I don't know it. I am not illiterate, it's is just a mistake. I catch it but its too late once I hit that start discussion button it is gone. I am just saying don't leave because something someone wrote to your response, they really don't care one way or the other and they will probably never notice you are gone. You know yourself better than anyone. Satisfy your customers and D___N the window shoppers. Happy MyLotting.
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@Shaun72 (15968)
• Palatka, Florida
9 Sep 08
You are right and I am not going to let what one person in here said about my weight get to me. Of course he always brags about the muscles he has and he replied to me that he works out. He has a dog by his name. So I replied with well since you are in such good shape where is your picture. I can't work out to much I am disabled with multiple sclrosis. I do some arm and leg exersices that I was showed when I went to physical therapy and I do those with weights. So i do the best that I can.
@annjilena (5621)
• United States
9 Sep 08
don,t you quite you have a right to be here just like everyone else your weight have nothing to do with it may god bless you
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@Shaun72 (15968)
• Palatka, Florida
9 Sep 08
You are right and that is way I am still here.
@rsa101 (13337)
• Philippines
9 Sep 08
I had my own share of bad experiences in here but using that to quit here has never come to my mind. I think you would just admit defeat if you do that. They could not really harm you in any way so why quit. Just leave it by and you can move to another topic like this and if that guy follows you then just ignore him.
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@Shaun72 (15968)
• Palatka, Florida
9 Sep 08
You are very right. That is one reason why I stayed I was not going to let this reply that this person made get to me.
@Stegeo3 (199)
• United States
9 Sep 08
Frankly, physical appearance should be one of the least important things about a person. I haven't felt like quitting, but I've gone through some months of in-activeness. I wait for the day that someone tries to make a fool out of me. I could use a good flame fest right about now.
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@Shaun72 (15968)
• Palatka, Florida
9 Sep 08
I agree apperance should not matter in here. This man always brags about how good of shape he is in. I replied back to him today after he replied with i work out to keep in shape. I said well where is your picture at since you are is such good shape.
@pillusch (1149)
• Mexico
9 Sep 08
Now, your number of posts makes you a veteran here at myLot, and I'm surprised that anything could still get to you. Just shrug it off, there are good people, bad people, and stupid people. That's just the way it is, in myLot and in the real world.
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@Shaun72 (15968)
• Palatka, Florida
9 Sep 08
Oh I know it is. I just let that post get to me pretty bad when i read this person's reply.
9 Sep 08
Some people are a bunch of looser, this is a place to make friend not to insult one onother. Don't let them get u down, I'm sure you have brought plenty of happiness to mylotters while online. If there is someone who should go I think is this person you had the problem with, so, good for you for sticking around. Take care...
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@Shaun72 (15968)
• Palatka, Florida
9 Sep 08
Thanks friend
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@Radiuz (47)
• Canada
8 Sep 08
People who act that way only have themselves to blame.My father told once 'what goes around, comes around!' and I totally believe in it! Your a pretty women, and once you get to where you wanna be in life, you'll have men(like that a**hole)begging for your phone number.
@Shaun72 (15968)
• Palatka, Florida
8 Sep 08
Your father is right and thank you so much for your compliment. i am working on losing weight it is just harder for me sense i have problems moving as well since I have ms. At the some time I have lost weight before and I can do it agian
@MissGia (955)
• United States
8 Sep 08
Glad you didn't decide to quit over someone being a jerk. don't ever let people being hurtful get the best of you, especially over the internet. people tend to grow balls and say stuff online that they wouldn't normally say to a persons face. Just ignore em hun, not worth the time or energy.
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@Shaun72 (15968)
• Palatka, Florida
8 Sep 08
You are right it's not worth my time or energy. It was more frustrationg then anything. Besides he has never met me to know anything about me.
• India
9 Sep 08
si, agree with you
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• United States
8 Sep 08
Yes, sometimes, there are people on mylot, and people in my life in general, that make me feel stupid. People on mylot can bring other's down at times, but the thing is never to let them get to you and to stand your ground. Also, do not reveal anything about yourself that you do not want other people to know about.
@Shaun72 (15968)
• Palatka, Florida
8 Sep 08
Yeah I have learned that for the past almost 2 years that I have been in here. It upset me that he used a old discussion in the new discussion about me working at Dunkin Dounuts and that I must eat them all day. That is the part I got mad about, At the same time I am not letting this one person cause me to want to leave
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• United States
9 Sep 08
Did you explain to him that just because someone works in a donut shop does not mean that they eat them? A college friend of mine worked at a donut shop in Glendora, CA, and he brought donuts to us a lot for breakfest, but he never ate the donuts that he made or served. He was a vegetarian, and a health food nut. He only worked in a donut shop so that he could pay the bills. When I began my diet, I had to tell my friend that I could not eat them anymore, and he respected my wishes. The person who said that to you does not know you well at all.
@Shaun72 (15968)
• Palatka, Florida
9 Sep 08
No he doesn't besides that I haven't worked there since 1997 so that has been over 10 years ago and I didn't even work there for a year. He started a discussion about Cops and dounuts and that a lot of movies that he has scene there were always cops eating dounuts. I replied that when I worked at dunkin dounots that cops got free dounuts so that might be why. That discussion was a good while back. Why he added it to this discussion that he started about what do you do during the day is beyond me. I am not able to work anymore anyhow due to having health problems.
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• United States
8 Sep 08
you should post the comment and the user name so that we can see what happened. think if its bad enough you would have people write to this person in defense of you, and maybe that person would think twice about being mean in the future. weight is a tough subject for everyone in the US. we are all either worried about becoming overweight or worried about being overweight. it's tough all around. i have battled with weight issues for most of my life and can say it is not easy. keep your head up and your heart in the game. mean people suck, don't hide out in your house or off line just because there are mean people. we may be overweight but at least our "character" flaws don't add to the overall negativity on the planet. peace to you, lg
@makingpots (11928)
• United States
8 Sep 08
I love that, lg. Keep your head up and your heart in the game.
@Shaun72 (15968)
• Palatka, Florida
8 Sep 08
I am not really sure how to post it into this article. All I know is he had a dog that was like the dog from taco bell and the discussion was called " What do you do with your day. I commented that I go online and watch tv and exersice at night. I can't do a lot of exersises due to being disablied from having ms. At the same time I do make myself do the ones that I learned in physical therapy. He responded with I bet you eat donunts all day. In another discussion of his I wrote that I use to work at Dunkin Dounuts. Anyhow after he responded with I bet you eat dounuts all day. I responded with just becauseI am overweight does not been I eat all day.
@rosedust82 (2075)
• Philippines
8 Sep 08
That was not nice. People should not attack a person's physical appearance. It's but right for you to stay here Shaun72. Don't let other people pull you down. Not long ago I had one discussion made about a word that I used and it offended me in a way, however, I did not let that get me down. I'm still here enjoying my time with other more interesting people. Just do what you love doing on here and let those people roll in the dust in dismay.
@Shaun72 (15968)
• Palatka, Florida
8 Sep 08
You are right it waan;t nothing this person said over my apperance but the respose he made was yeah I bet you eat dounuts all day. Al because from another discussion he started I meantioned that I worked at Dunkin Dounuts. I don't work there any more but the fact that he responded to me by saying that upset me.
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• Philippines
8 Sep 08
That person might not have said it directly but it was implied. It's still bad. Don't mind that person. Probably has nothing else to do but bug other people.
@twoey68 (13662)
• United States
2 Apr 10
I have definately had a few moments when I almost quit...once I went as far as deleting all my friends and was shutting down my account before I decided to sleep on it. The fact is, there are jerks in the world and some of them find their way to MyLot, you just deal with it and move on. I have been here 3 years and no one is going to run me off...if I leave it'll be b/c I want to. [b]**AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~[/b]
@Shaun72 (15968)
• Palatka, Florida
2 Apr 10
That is very true.I wrote this awhile back I am still here. I don't write in here to often but I do come every now and then
@subha12 (18462)
• India
12 Sep 08
it is never wise to quit for few craps here. that too and old timer and valued mylottter like you. i also felt the same few months back for a crap. later i thought its not worth it.
@Shaun72 (15968)
• Palatka, Florida
12 Sep 08
You are right besides next month will make it two years since I have started in here in mylot. There are quite a few rude people in here that's for sure.
@terri0824 (4975)
• United States
9 Sep 08
Sorry someone said something that would want to make you quit here at mylot. Sometimes people can say things here that doesn't take another persons feelings in to consideration. Glad that you aren't letting one comment from staying here at mylot. Just let it roll off your shoulder and go on posting.
@Shaun72 (15968)
• Palatka, Florida
9 Sep 08
Yeah that is what I am doing. Moving on
@steeleIC (107)
• United States
9 Sep 08
Hi Shaun! I'm sorry you were made to feel bad. But, I think you are right in not letting them bring you down! You deserve to be here just like any of the rest of us do. Whoever this was should just back off and leave you alone. It seems like no matter where you go there is always one person out there just waiting to attack others for no reason. Those people generally do this because they have no confidence themselves and the only way they feel of importance is by making others feel bad and that just makes them end up looking bad. Just so ya know, I'm a big girl too and frankly I could care less what others think about it. While Id love to lose weight for myself for better health reasons, others may think of me however they wish! You stay strong girly, don't let some loser make you feel bad. In everyone else's eyes, they are the ones who look rotten! ~HUGS~ Susan
@Shaun72 (15968)
• Palatka, Florida
9 Sep 08
Oh I know I have had problems even years ago when I was in school.With people picking on me about my weight the funny part in these same people that made fun of me or overweight or bigger then I was. I shouldn't of let this get to me but this person was on my friends list and I didn't think he would of said something like this but I was wrong to have thought that way.
@Sarah1108 (310)
• United States
9 Sep 08
I dont know you and i am new to this but i will tell you dont let anyone say mean things about you. i am over weight and i say everyday who wonderful i look and how beautiful i am. I try to even do it at those none pretty moments like washing dishes or folding laundry. I go around my house telling everyone how pretty i am. Most of the time they roll their eyes but it makes me feel good. And if no one else will tell me i am pretty i know i am so what they think does not bother me. I have learned if you let someone make you quit something or change what you like to do you are letting them control you. And i am the one that likes being in control LOL
@Shaun72 (15968)
• Palatka, Florida
9 Sep 08
You are right after I thought about what he had said I then thought well why should I let what one person said let me stop from being in mylot. I have been in here for almost 2 years now. besides that I have a lot of friends in here that have been very nice to me for so long in here.
@aseretdd (13712)
• Philippines
9 Sep 08
I was made fun of because of my physical appearance a lot of times when i was younger... and that really hurts a lot... and most of the time... i wonder why people can be so cruel to others... but i make it a point to use those not so good experience to strengthen myself further... to boost my confidence... and to show others that physical appearance is not the end all of a person... So i am glad you decided not to quit... because doing that will be a sign of weakness... and i think you are tougher than you think you are...
@Shaun72 (15968)
• Palatka, Florida
9 Sep 08
Yeah living with the diease I have has made me a pretty strong person.That is one reason why I decided not to let the foolishness of this person get to me. It was very chilish and immature besides he is so much younger then I am.