Today we had another fight

Philippines
September 9, 2008 9:58am CST
Every now and then, my boyfriend and I quarrel about petty things which I usually get mad about. I ended up throwing things at him and really said bad things about him. I can't stop myself saying nasty words to my boyfriend, at times I even hurt him. I said to him that we should split up and I almost committed suicide took 5 mefenamic acid and put it into my mouth he stopped me and made me spit the medicine. He got mad and went outside to cool off. I was delayed for about three days, and I don't know what came to my mind to buy a pregnancy kit. And when I took the test, I tested positive. That was the time that his eyes cried and I too cried when I saw him. He was so happy knowing that I am pregnant.
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21 responses
@sweetdude (223)
9 Sep 08
well if you believe in god, go to a church, sinigog, temple, or mosque where ever you place of worship is and just relax sit there for a while and then you your self will feel more relax and calm... happy mylotting friends!!
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@shana123 (2096)
• India
10 Sep 08
wow.. there its really hard to find such people with good comments.. i really apprecite you sweet dude.. GOD BLESS..
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@riyasam (16578)
• India
9 Sep 08
i also used to have this habit,i mean gettting irritated during the time of my pregnancy.i think you should consult a doctor.
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• Philippines
9 Sep 08
I will be going to the doctor this friday for my first check up. Wish everythings gonna be fine. I am afraid that maybe something's wrong with my child. What do they do when they conduct a checkup to pregnant women?
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@rocker21 (2717)
• India
9 Sep 08
now never ever do that to yourself coz your bf just loves you alot , got that? my girlfriend's the same!!
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• Philippines
9 Sep 08
Maybe it because all guys are not trustworthy. You all are womanizers. LOLZ
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@cbreeze (1207)
• United States
9 Sep 08
I think the melodramatic behavior you described is dangerous and psychotic. It isn't cute at all. He may respond to it right now, but as he matures, he will grow tired of it quickly and you will find yourself alone. Knowing now that you are pregnant, I hope you put these type of antics behind you. Please, please, please control your behavior and become an adult. Best wishes to you and your boyfriend and your coming baby.
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@aize003 (225)
• Philippines
9 Sep 08
well friend it's nice to hear that your pregnant.. try to cool yourself off..it's not healthy for you and the baby if you guys keeps on fighting..if you guys have problems..stay cool try not to yell too much or say something you don't really mean..be calm okay?everything will be okay..
@goldeneagle (6775)
• United States
9 Sep 08
It doesn't sound like either one of you is mature enough to be a parent. God help you and this baby. You really need to get your temper under control. Start going to church or something.
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@cream97 (29166)
• United States
9 Sep 08
I suggest that you pray and ask God to come into your life. Ask for any support that you may need from him. He will give you the courage to press on. It is just the devil that is trying to attack your relationship. Seek God and he will pass on his peace to you...
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@Bluepatch (2480)
• Trinidad And Tobago
9 Sep 08
Its pretty hard stopping yourself from getting into arguements or fights. What I've found really works well is that when you know its coming on let the other person do all the talking. You just remain silent. After a short while you'll see them drift into another subject and the matter, whatever it is, will just die. Try it.
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• Philippines
11 Sep 08
It's not my type to just keep quiet when we argue, I am the type who doesn't want to listen and rather talk. It is him who does the listening, I know it's not right for me to do such thing but I usually speak my mind. And he always say sorry first eventhough its not his fault at all.
@rainmark (4306)
9 Sep 08
You better to settle down with him because you are pregnant now and it's not good for the baby that you always fighting coz you might get stress. Hope that everything change in your relationship not always fighting and the baby will get your ties stronger!
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• Philippines
11 Sep 08
Right now we are adjusting and we try not to fight. He is sweeter now and he gives me everything I request. We think arguments will affect the baby too so that's why we rather talk about it than fight over something that's not worth fighting. I just hope I'll give birth to a healthy baby.
@LUIS1334 (27)
• United States
14 Sep 08
pray for gods help and stop your fighting u dont want ur child to see ur fightin and give ur child negative thoughts
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@belk89 (1103)
• Philippines
10 Sep 08
Fights are normal for couple but see to it that you can control your temper. As much as possible try to avoid saying hurtful words. Sometimes we never realized our partner is feed up already of fighting too often. Remember every person has its saturation point, somehow try to look for ways to avoid a heated argument with him too often. Me and my hubby had misunderstandings too but as much as possible i try not to fight with him so often because i notice in the past when we often fight. He started to wonder what is happening in the relationship? why we are often arguing on almost everything. It is an eye opener for me that somehow patient and knowing how to control anger is better than just let it go and have a fight almost everyday. If ever there are things you wanted him to know talk to him in a calm manner. Perhaps your pregnancy might somehow be one of the reason why you cant control your emotions. I am pregnant too so i know lol we cant really avoid it that we started to get moody but as much as possible i try to refrain myself from nagging him so often. It is very annoying too even in my part whenever he is nagging at me over certain things. Understanding and patient is very important in a relationship.
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@switlyf (650)
• Philippines
10 Sep 08
I think its time that you must make some adjustments with the way you treat your boyfriend. You shouldn't be throwing things at him just because your mad. Now that both of you are going to be parents you should think of you and your child's future. I bet you wouldn't want your kid to see you fighting, its not a good thing and besides that will have a negative effect on your kid psychologically speaking. I used to be like you when we we're on our first few years of being married but as time goes by i learned how to be patient and everytime we had a fight i just go out or i see to it that im so distant that i can't hurt him. Happy mylotting, cheers! and goodluck to you and your family to be!
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@rsa101 (14878)
• Quezon City, Philippines
10 Sep 08
Well I suspect the pregnancy is the one that triggered your emotions to swell up. Being pregnant can really make your hormones go wild. So I think you and your BF is now in good terms and hopefully your BF also won't make you depressed since it will take on the baby in your womb if that will be the case. Congratulations!
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@shana123 (2096)
• India
10 Sep 08
I think your a year younger than me i dont know what to advice as im more or less of your age sis.. just you people get married whatever comes in life you should be bold enough to face as your going to be a young mom within few months , i really appreciate your boy friend as he is too soft in nature but whatever even i used to speak bad words to my guy and he does the same as like your guy we are waiting to get married soon after my studies.. take good medication drop the idea of break up.. take good care of your mind and health,, GOD BLESS
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• United States
10 Sep 08
Wow, you guys are violent, but passionate at the same time. You should never try to kill yourself, dear, you have a lot to live for whether you know it or not. And you and your boyfriend can fight, but do it without being so violent. My boyfriend and I have never hit each other, thrown things at each other, or did anything at all harming to one another. Yes, we have quarrelled with one another once or twice, but we ended up crying and making out for hours afterwards. The making up after the fight is always the best.
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• Philippines
10 Sep 08
Congratulations then!!! A new angel will arrive soon so better keep it down both of you . Stop and concentrate on your baby petty quarrels are meaningless. Sooner or later both of you will be living on the same roof so be patient understandig and always take care of our man and im sure he will the same to you. Goodluck and regards to your baby
@alphason (233)
10 Sep 08
Wow, you need to sort out your temper quickly if you are bringing another life into the world. Everyone says things they don't mean sometimes but this is extreme, maybe you should follow your boyfriends example and just go outside to cool off when you feel angry. You should definatly be seeking some professional help before things become to much again. Good luck.
@Amberina (1541)
• United States
10 Sep 08
Having children is a very serious responsibility, you have to make it work and put your child first even before yourself if you don't have enough food guess who eats first? Not you or your boyfriend it's the child who eats first. You both need to grow up before this baby of yours is born, you both will have another person totally dependent on you for everything. I have three children and I remember when my first one was born, I was 17 yrs old, I had just had him and he was laying in my arms no one was in the room he started crying and I had no idea what to do I was totally at a loss and as I lay there panicking about what to do with this crying infant in my arms....that's when it hit me for the rest of my sons life I will HAVE to take care of him he will need me forever. It was a scary feeling for a 17 year old young single mother (his dad left me once he found out I was pregnant) That day I grew up faster than any 17 year old should have. Protect your child he/she will always need you. Good luck.
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• Philippines
10 Sep 08
Rhyannefranz refrain from emotional distress which detriment to the development of your baby inside your womb that child grown would become problematic and full of anxiety.
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@Asmara (2)
• Brunei Darussalam
10 Sep 08
Hi, firstly congrats on your pregnancy. The way I see it both of you need to mirror yourselves: why both of you keep on fighting while the fact is you both are in love. Well,first thing to remember is that once we love somebody we need to bear in our mind that we will accept him/her for the good and the bad side of him/her. I am a woman married for 15 years, quarrel in a relationship is something that cannot be avoided but we can make it less by being more understandable, patience and honest. Above all as a woman being fierce is not our nature. So, from now and then be more mature so that you both can treasure the moment that you too will share in the future especially with the new member in the relationship. Good luck.