I feel violated!!!

United States
September 9, 2008 12:44pm CST
I am not happy. My son told me last night that his bike was stolen. Right off of the front porch.I don't live in a bad neighborhood but it goes to show, crime is everywhere! I feel very violated, stupid also for not chaining it up but I thought this area I live in was better than that, plus, it was right on my front porch! The nerve of some people or kids or whatever! Most of all I feel bad for my son. I cannot afford to get him another anytime soon. I always thought stealing and lying are two of the worst types of traits to have. Has anything ever got stolen from you?Did you get it back?What did you do about it?
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14 responses
• United States
9 Sep 08
I just told my husband that the other day. We were taking our evening walk around our neighborhood and one of the neighbors had their garage open but no one was home. I commented that someone could go in there and steal their stuff and he said that we live in a good neighborhood and no one would do so. I said back to him that criminals live in every neighborhood and will travel to the good neighborhoods to steal your stuff. These days it doesn't matter where you live, you have to be over careful to make sure no one takes your stuff from you. It's sad but that's the world we live in these days.
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• United States
10 Sep 08
i couldn't agree more with your comment... and i really hate to admit it, but there are just robbery and faulty crimes (or something else) just everywhere!! I live close to the military base (actually it's a fort), so I really don't feel that there are going to be too much crime going on in my neighbor... but I wouldn't let my guard down though..
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• United States
10 Sep 08
Yes, I will never underestimate my neighborhood again, or any for that matter,this was very dissappointing!Thanks for your response!
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@aprilten (1977)
• Philippines
10 Sep 08
I have had several experiences of being robbed. The first one, if my memory serves me right, was when I was out on a date with my ex-bf, now my husband. I just realized that my wallet was gone. It's a good thing that it didn't have anything valuable in yet, just some money, less than a hundred pesos. In another incident my bag was slashed, but I didn't lose any money/valuables because what he got was my organizer/phone book. Those are very light incidents of being robbed. Three years ago we transferred to an apartment that is nearer my sons' school. We left some of our belongings in our house. After a few months we got a call from our neighbor that our house has been robbed and that robbery happened twice. So, we decided to empty the house altogether. But the worst that happened was when I lost my cellphone right inside our house when all of us are home. I was in the shower when someone knocked on our door, my son opened the door and let this man in. Then he asked my son to write his name on a tabloid and left, leaving the tabloid with my son. Little did we know that he took my cellphone which was on the center table. Obviously, that's the reason why he instructed my son to write his name on that tabloid. We all felt so bad about that incident but my son who answered the door was devastated. I can see that he was so angry with this man and with himself. He thought that it was so stu*** of him to let this man inside the house. So, instead of feeling so bad myself, I tried to console him and tell that the best thing to do is to learn a lesson from what happened and make sure that it never happen again.
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• United States
10 Sep 08
Oh my, that is very unfortunate to have those things happen to you, espaecially with your son.I would be sooo mad at that man.Did you ever find out who he was or where he came from?That must have been devastating being you were inside your home at the time!I cant believe how much nerve some people have!
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@aprilten (1977)
• Philippines
10 Sep 08
Unfortunately we never found out who it was. I think that's what happens when there are so many poor people in a country like ours. People are doing anything just to have food on the table.
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@checapricorn (16066)
• United States
10 Sep 08
[i]Hi marlena, I know it happens everywhere, when we started our garden last May, we borrowed a tractor from a friend and we never locked our gate, we just place it in our backyard and when we woke up by the next day, it was half way already down to the hallway going to the streets but for sure it was a kid who did it and it was too heavy for him and he just left it there, plus he will make a lot of noise all the way to the streets and neighbors might woke up! My hubby was so mad that time since for his 8 years stay in this area, it was the first time it happens..Good thing, it was never stolen![/i]
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• United States
10 Sep 08
Oh my! Thank goodness you recovered that, it is bad enough having something of your own stolen, nonetheless, something you borrowed.That would've been horrible!
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• United States
10 Sep 08
ohhh..I know, it will be a lot of hassle for us if it was stolen! We are going to replace it and it's not cheap! We were thankful really about it and I hate people who have nothing to do except to think what to steal from other people!
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@ronaldinu (12445)
• Malta
10 Sep 08
My car was broken into. All that they stole was a bible in black leather cover which they might have thought its a stereo. When they realise that it was a bible they threw it a few metres away. The police brought it back after a few days. Well I had to suffer the expenses of a broken window
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• United States
10 Sep 08
Now, that I have to say is very sad.To be honest, that bible is probebly what they needed most!I am glad at least you got it back.But, then the window was broken?They shouldve been caught and forced to refund you.It's a shame how many people get away with it!
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@LittleMel (14055)
• Canada
10 Sep 08
not much as being stolen, but I have been burned online and also a couple of times didn't read the fine prints i ended up losing money you are right stealing and lying I hate those two. I was actually lied to a lot more than people steal from me but I know how you feel the economy isn't good these days it's not easy to replace something stolen from you now
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• United States
10 Sep 08
My mother was once burned online too.And, I felt sorry for her because at the time, she was very naive to the whole"online" thing.I wish they wouldve been caught , but I think it's even harder when it is online!
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@alphason (233)
10 Sep 08
I know how you feel. About 10 years ago I had my car stolen, it was an old car but at the time it meant a lot to me as it was my first. The police recovered the car after a bout a week and the insurance company fixed the locks. I really did not want it back after that, and actually 2 days later it was stolen again from the same place so I felt even worse when the police again recovered it. About a year later I got a letter saying they had arrested a man for an unrelated crime and he had asked that some other offences be taken into consideration, my 2 thefts amomg them. I was asked for any comments, the outcoem for the thief was a short suspended sentance even though I was out of pocket by a couple of thousand pounds in the end. What justice hey!
• United States
10 Sep 08
You had your car stolen twice? Oh my, I would've been furious with that man! And, there was no justice in that at all!I know how violated it made me feel, and there is no way to give that back!Thnak you for your response!
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@loneleaf (165)
• China
10 Sep 08
My NOKIA N73 had been stolen, this thing make me crazy. I hate the thief! Sometimes I want to kill them and throw them out of the earth, but after these painful days, I calm down and try to accept this ugly phenomenon. what i do next is just to keep my phone and other valuables in my hand.
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• United States
10 Sep 08
Wow.I can tell you are very upset about that, and I dont blame you one bit!I wish I wouldve caught the theif in the act!Even if it was a child, it wouldve been nice to confront his parents!
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@animeniak (425)
• United States
10 Sep 08
I'm sorry to hear that your son's bike was stolen from someone else... but it's really sad to know that the world now is all about people's greed and money and high valued properties... and the number of robbers and burglars has rose ever since (sadly) -_-;; I really would feel guilty if I stole someone else's property, even if it was really cheap product or something of that sort.. I just know that's the wrong thing to do, and I just don't want to commit such crimes like that!! oh btw, I really didn't get anything stolen in my life.. at least i don't remember... maybe part of my lunch was stolen by my friends back when i was in middle school, but i really didn't worry too much (was ticked off sometimes, but didn't see it that big of a deal)
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• United States
10 Sep 08
I am glad that you never had anything tkaen from you, thats the way it should be! Yes, people care way to much about "material things" .I wouldn't be able to live with myself if I stole from someone like that!I dont know how these people do it, and especially from a child!
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@singout (980)
• United States
10 Sep 08
Funny! You and I posted that same question. I just now saw yours. Sorry about your son's bike. I know exactly how you feel. And I used exactly the same word to describe my feelings (violated). They got my motor scooter.
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• United States
10 Sep 08
Really,oh boy.Sorry to hear about your scooter! violated is the best word to descibe the way it felt.It is a shame, it will come back to them thieves!
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@skbh12 (2950)
• Philippines
10 Sep 08
[b]oh that is harsh for a child to experience having his favorite thing stolen. sometimes even if you think your neighborhood is not a bad place to live in you must not still rely on your trust with this place thinking that nothing will ever happen to your surroundings. i guess all you can do is comfort your son and tell him that one day the person who stole his bike will learn his lesson by doing such a thing and that a karma will happen for his bad acts. i hope your son is okay now. happy posting and happy mylotting![/b]
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• United States
10 Sep 08
Yes, you are right, it is worse for the child to experience that.I talked to him about it,and how some people just do these bad things.It made me sad for him.I believe in that,karma will come back to him.Thank you for your response!
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@ajrox1810 (992)
• India
9 Sep 08
Crime is everywhere, no matter in which particular area you live. I also feel very violated once when my costly Sony Music Player was stolen by my maid. We came to knew about her deed when we realized she was the only one who went in my room that day. We threatened to report her to the police if she would not give it within 2 hours. And there she was with my player back. It's battery was completely drained which meant she listened to music the whole night. Oh God! why did you created such cheap minded human beings? Obviously she was fired later. It really gets on our nerve if someone steals our precious possessions of which they didn't know the value for us. Anyways, I wish that you get your bike back somehow or buy a new one soon. Cheer Up! AJ Rox.
• United States
10 Sep 08
Im sorry to hear that.How long was it that she worked for you?If it was awhile, it probebly was unfortunate because after time people build a relationship and trust.That would be very violating! Good for you firing her, she didnt deserve the position!
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@GemmaR (8526)
10 Sep 08
Our caravan was stolen from us a few years back. The police did nothing, and we just had to rely on the money from the insurance to replace it. We have had bikes stolen from our shed, so they're not too scared to break into places to get things. Just to make you feel a bit better, our caravan was in a field with a gate with an iron padlock..and the burglars had a blow torch and burnt the padlock off the gate, so they would probably have got the bike even if you had chained it up.
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@shana123 (2096)
• India
13 Sep 08
I can understand your feelings seriously when we lose something we usually repent for it but then what i can tell you is dont think the one who stole would be your neighbors it could be any one from your place robbers will never steal things from their own place that too something like bike and things , i know you trust your neighbors but then we should not just simply think like our neighbours are good why do we want to lock the door and sleep that is not actually good, so here then you got to be clever .I havent lose anything i mean so far my things haven't been robbed by someone it would be me who missed it soemwhere else..
@skysuccess (8882)
• Singapore
10 Sep 08
Life is just so unpredictable. In this world, I suppose there would not be a need for lock and careful if there is no thefts and robberies. I think all of us just need to be more careful and not take our civilized environment for granted. For in our midst, thieves and robbers do exist and we just cannot be sure who they are and when they will strike. I am sure all of us will agree that such characters will not have a label over their foreheads to tell right? So let us exercise more care and caution with our love ones and personal belongings. Not letting ourselves exposed to such throes also means that these petty characters are not tempted to commit another crime.