Staying home is boring, do you feel the same way?

@Bebs08 (10689)
United States
September 9, 2008 3:05pm CST
I am not a person who confines myself in the four corners of our house. I am an outgoing person who loves to be out all the time. That was when I was working. Now that I transfered to this country and not working outside home, I felt bored. I have no none to talk to, the house is very quiet except when I on the TV. Well, of course when I am doing my online thing, I would forget the time.. but I still long to be out with people specially with friends which is very hard to find in here. Di you feel the same in some point of your life? Well, maybe those immigrants like me can relate to these feelings. Just curious to hear your story and what you do with it.
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@Wyldrose (1216)
• United States
10 Sep 08
I used to be a homebody and never went anywhere. But now, I own a business and have a part time job and I am loving every minute of it!! I am very much a people-person and love being around people and making friends. Is there any where you can volunteer like a shelter or maybe a school? That could help you get out of the house and curb some of your boredom. Plus you could meet new people.
@Bebs08 (10689)
• United States
10 Sep 08
Hi wyldrose, How I wish I could have home business too. yes there is a place I could do volunteering but I can't drive going there. My hubby is working away from that place so there/s no way I can get there. I do volunteer work before but I pity my hubby taking me there and picking me up after his work. It's a hassle for him plus the gas expense. Just a part time job maybe I would be very glad to have. I hope soon.
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@Wyldrose (1216)
• United States
10 Sep 08
It would be nice for you to even have a part time job if it is convienient for you. It will at least get you out of the house and you can meet some people and hopefully make some friends as well. I know it can be lonely staying home all day and having no one to talk to except your four walls. I've been in that situation before and I didn't like it. My house was spotless but I was lonely!! So, we invested in another vehicle and I was able to get out more. I wish you the best. In the meantime, you have us here at mylot to talk to..
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@Bebs08 (10689)
• United States
11 Sep 08
I'm glad to meet you wyldrose, thanks for your encouragement. I am inspired to hear people who have into my situation now who can give me assurance that I can get out of this situation someday. I don't to have this forever.
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• Philippines
10 Sep 08
I am an indoor person so I don't mind being alone..I have the tv..I watch dvds..I play on the computer..surf..read books..write stories..I can do all that in the company of myself inside my own home. I have loads of things to do at home rather than go out. It will be just so tiring to do so.
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@MZKUMA (705)
• United States
10 Sep 08
I feel you completely P3. Sometimes I have the TV on and surfing but, not listening. I would not have any problems with surfing and no sound around the house. At the moment hubby just pulled out to go to work and I'm off. Love having the house to myself just to unwind and relax. Some me time.
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@ersmommy1 (12600)
• United States
10 Sep 08
I work from home. It takes some getting used to. That is for sure. I do enjoy my time outside the house. But it is a bonus being able to be home when my daughter gets home from school. Makes the sacrafice worth it.
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@Bebs08 (10689)
• United States
10 Sep 08
Well, I absolutely agree. It takes time to get used to it.
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@ace_ivann (326)
• Philippines
10 Sep 08
Hi Bebs! I think it makes me feel comfortable and enjoyable when I am just at home. It just tires me a lot when I am outside the house. Maybe I just feel comfort and relaxation in my own home. At home, I don't feel any boredom because I have my siblings and we talk a lot as well as my parents. I can also do a lot of productive things at home.
@Bebs08 (10689)
• United States
10 Sep 08
Oh well, that is very different from mine. I don't be bored when there are other people at home besides me. You are lucky because you are not alone at home, you have kids to talk to. It is not boring am sure. But try to be alone all day with nobody in there except you and the cat. Whole day,weeks and months. then you would understand what I mean. i would be inspired to do things at home with other family members but me alone? oh!! it is very boring.
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@pillusch (1149)
• Mexico
10 Sep 08
I love to be at home and I detest to go out. I just can't stand the traffic, the people, the weather, you name it. I'm an immigrant, I guess, I'm a German living in Mexico (funny thing, I never saw myself in that light), and I avoid whenever I can to go out. I don't like to sozialise, I wouldn't know what to do at a party.... Get the picture LOL? So I feel the Internet was just God's gift to ME. (This was supposed to be funny, too, I just didn't want to put LOL again.) Keep up your spirits, when the time is right you will find new friends, wherever it is you live.
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@Bebs08 (10689)
• United States
10 Sep 08
Hi friend, I understand you being a German living in Mexico? oh!! that is hard. The language is the hard part but if you know how to speak their language or maybe they can speak English like you do it's not hard to socialize specially if you already have friends there. The only thing that deprives me from going elsewhere is I can't drive. We have extra car at home that I can use but I'm not driving, so I am helpless and hopeless to meet people everyday.
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@pillusch (1149)
• Mexico
10 Sep 08
No, it's not the language, I speak Spanish more fluently now than German, it's just that I'm perfectly content on my own, and totally lost at social gathering.
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@checapricorn (16066)
• United States
10 Sep 08
[i]Hi Bebs, ohhh...same here! It is very hard really and oftentimes, I will be pouring out the feelings to hubby which is also unfair but I know he understand it very much! It's hard not to go out alone, have to wait because we can't drive and all...MOst of the time, I will consume my time watching the series and news online, my favorite station! ABS~ lOL! I don't watch TV here when I am alone..I am always dating the PC! It's really boring![/i]
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@Bebs08 (10689)
• United States
10 Sep 08
[[i]i]Hi Che, I wish we are neighbors. yes, because if we do, we can just have a personal chatting and doing things together, making lumpia, go to the thrift store, just hike because we can't drive yet. Well, just an imagination.[/i]How I wish I have kababayan here near me. I had one but 30 minutes drive away from me and she is working really hard up to 10pm grrrrrr...she sometimes visits me. It is really different when you are used to have friends around. I just watch you tube and Pinoy channel aside from mylotting. I;m an ABS fan too,[/i]
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• United States
10 Sep 08
[i]Correct! How I wish also you next door neighbor! LOL! Wow, up to 10 pm? must be very workaholic! Anyway, I wish we will learn how to drive soon and find a regular job! I have several "pinay" whom I met but all of them are working! SOme are preggy! I am also watching through pinoychannel! LOL! It's fun![/i]
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10 Sep 08
Although I am by nature a social butterfly, I do enjoy staying at home - especially when my kids are in school - which is good because I am a work from home mom and we only have one car. Being at home alone presents me with blessed time alone - quiet time - during which I can conduct my business, achieve my housework uninterrupted, have a personal spa day, etc. This is my time for me. If I want to leave, I walk wherever I want to go. This is something I became accustomed to when I lived in Italy - walking or cycling whenever I wanted or needed to get out of the house. I talk to people I've never met and that helps me gain new friends and new business prospects.
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@Bebs08 (10689)
• United States
10 Sep 08
Oh wow!! I like your positive attitude. You can talk to people you never met and make friends with them? Oh!! that is good. I wish I could be like you.
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10 Sep 08
I think it has a lot to do with being a military kid. When I was growing up, we literally moved every three years. When you're on the go so often, you tend to learn to sink or swim - pardon the cliche. And now that I'm a military wife, it comes in handy! It's really helped me in my Tupperware business too!
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@SezzyE (1)
• Australia
3 Nov 08
OMG I cant stand being at home. home is so boring! i feel so depressed wen im at home and feel as if my life is being wasted away wen im not out having fun and socialising. I have really really boring friends and a really boring sister that hardly ever want to go out and do all the fun stuff most outgoing people like to do. It makes me so angry and i just wish they wer more outgoing like me!
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@Bebs08 (10689)
• United States
19 Nov 08
hahahaha!!! maybe you are more outgoing than I do. At this time. I found many things online which keep me busy and forget the time and also my boredom. thanks to the internet it helps to alleviate my loneliness.
• India
12 Sep 08
Not at all!! I am a 100 percent stay at home. I don't feel like stepping out of the house at all. And hope I never shall. I simply detest going out of my house. For me, my home is my world. I have my laptop and my work of freelance writing here. I have my pets. I have my garden. Oh, home is indeed sweet home!! Cheers and happy mylotting
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@Bebs08 (10689)
• United States
15 Sep 08
oh!! I love to hear that. I wish I also have a good work at home job to make me feel busy and forget that I am alone. Well, a good paying work at home job. Not just like cents everyday? Oh my goodness!! If I am like you who is a gifted writer? maybe I would not feel bad thinking that I am alone. A writer needs to be alone to concentrate. Well, good for you.
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@ace_ivann (326)
• Philippines
11 Sep 08
Hi Bebs! I really don't find staying at home as boring. Honestly, I am a home buddy. I prefer staying at home rather than going to malls or hanging out in clubs. I just want to be relaxed from a week long of work. I rather spend my spare time relaxing by watching TV, watching my favorite movies, chatting with my siblings and reading different books.
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@Bebs08 (10689)
• United States
11 Sep 08
yes, not boring to stay home if there are people there aside from you whom you can talk to or play games. But try to be alone for whole day with no body in the house except you and the cat? and this would happen everyday in a year? You would really feel what I feel. Have a nice day.
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@walijo2008 (4647)
• United States
10 Sep 08
It can get boring at times, but theres always something to do around my house, I don't have time to get bored. I've never worked outside the house so I don't know what its like to have someone to talk to all day or someone to hang out with. Just this week tho, I've been working, I'm helping this lady clean her house, she has a huge house, and only two people live in it, all their kids are grown and one is in college. But she called me up and asked if I would help her, she said she'd pay me, so thats what I'm doing, and it makes me feel glad to get out of the house, even tho, I have to come home in the afternoons and clean my own house..lol.
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@Bebs08 (10689)
• United States
11 Sep 08
Oh I would be glad to have that kind of job as long as I can get out in my house sometime. I am just used to be with people because I am working for a long time and just now I am staying home and can go out only when we get groceries? imagine that? Very limited exposure to my new environment.
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@MZKUMA (705)
• United States
10 Sep 08
When I was younger I felt that way. Now, when I get a day off I try to take care of everything before reaching my yard. Once I'm there, I don't want to move or go anywhere. I cherish every moment I can sit and chill in the comfort of my humble abode. Especially when it's raining.
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@Bebs08 (10689)
• United States
11 Sep 08
Well, I am just used to be with people that's why I feel this way sometimes. I'm glad I found mylot to hang on.
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• United States
10 Sep 08
I have been really bored. I am three months pregnant, and I lost my job on mother's day right before I got pregnant. I think that is ironic. I like being home for my son, daughter and hubby. I thought I would get so much done, and the house would be spotless. Yeah right. Lateley I barely want to get off the couch. I get up do stuff for 30 minutes and sit back down. I don't know why I feel so worn out. I guess I am just bored with cleaning cause that is all I do lately. My air in my car has gone out, and I am in GA so I don't want to go anywhere in the heat. Not counting the fuel cost. I am trying to work at home. I work for a couple of well known companies from home, but I have so much competetion and the economy has my sales way down.
@Bebs08 (10689)
• United States
10 Sep 08
Oh that's interesting ha? what company you are working at home? Well, I don't think I'll be good at that working in the company at home? Mostly they are selling, or data entry? or maybe customer's service? I don't know. I just want online thing with big income.
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@Hatley (164471)
• Garden Grove, California
10 Sep 08
bebs hi yes thats why I am mylotting as I could not get used to being home all day retired and sick ot the four walls, so mylot has sort of saved my live. I was getting so depressed' then I happened on mylot and my has it helped me so much. 'I tune in to all mylot friends and have a ball, and making some grocery money is not bad either. I had worked 23 years 'at the library and was let go,a gentleway of saying fired, for being almost eighty.
@Bebs08 (10689)
• United States
10 Sep 08
oh really? so you are now retired. Wow!! working in the library? I like that. I am an Elementary school teacher but have also units in library Science. My MAed is focused in Library administration. I worked as a teacher and part time librarian in an elem school in my country 2 years ago. Due to change of residence, I am out of work now. I am glad I found mylot to spend my time with. Do you think there is an opportunity fir me to work in the library? I like working in the library than teaching. I am just interested to know, what is your work in the library? Are you in the circulation area, cataloging or do shelving or what? I like all of those things.
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@odwitt (112)
• United States
10 Sep 08
I know how you feel. My husband and I just moved to Washington DC. I haven't found a job here yet, and I was very active between work, church and the community where we used to live. I'm having a really hard time adjusting. We don't have any friends here, and like you-- I'm stuck in the apt. all day with no one to talk to until my husband gets home from school. (He's in grad school, and also works at the university.) I'm trying to find a job, but it's been very difficult. We only have one car, so I can't get out on my own and do anything b/c hubby is gone all day m-f! The metro line doesn't come up as far as we live from the city, so that's out, and I don't trust Taxi's. I love to garden- but now instead of living in a house like we did in NC, we live in an apt. on the 3rd floor and I have no yard. It really stinks!
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@Bebs08 (10689)
• United States
10 Sep 08
O[i]h my dear odwitt, I really understand the feeling. being stuck in one place without anything to occupy your time except mylot is not fun at all. Well, at times I am inspired in mylot but there are times that I need a change. Looking for a job is hard if you have no means of transportation going there. I feel like helpless in this situation.[/i]
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@jstmarfz (1499)
• United States
10 Sep 08
I am between homebody and love going out. Staying home and doing nothing makes me really bored. I have to make sure if I am not chatting to my friends I have to do something, or else I would totally get bored and lately I am feeling homesick. But my husband is trying to cheer me up like going out for dinner, visit at his brother's house.
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@Bebs08 (10689)
• United States
10 Sep 08
Oh that is good!!! you have a very understanding husband. Well, for me, we can not go anywhere else because his relatives are in another state and very expensive to be there..
@cream97 (29166)
• United States
10 Sep 08
Yes, it can be if there is nothing to do. Or, you just continue to do the same things over and over.. But, once you find an hobby to preoccupy your time, then it gets less boring..
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@Bebs08 (10689)
• United States
10 Sep 08
[i]Hi cream, I hope I can have a hobby that would make my day great to stay home all the time.[/i]
@leafgxu (473)
• China
10 Sep 08
I think you can go out and make some friends. It just another country but there is not reason for stay at home. Maybe the language is a barrier to comunicate but you can have to try to learn and English is a most used language so I think there are some people can speak English near you.
@Bebs08 (10689)
• United States
10 Sep 08
[i]hi leafgxu, Language is not my problem because i can speak English well. I am a teacher and that I can communicate to anybody who is an English speaking individual. I just don't have a chance to go out with people like working with them, or do something that would make my day fun. We are living in a country area and I need to drive before i can go somewhere. I have a car but I'm not driving. This made me depress and bored.[/i]
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• United Kingdom
10 Sep 08
I guess that staying at home, this can be boring! It all depends on how you utilize your time within your home. I personally love to read. I love playing with my PS2 even though I am 33 years of age! I love exercising, I have several machines within my flat! I also love cycling and so I get out quite a lot that way. If the truth be told, I'm a fairly quiet person and so, I guess I don't socialize much! I feel no shame in admitting this. So, if I am not out there socializing, then what do I do? I have to come up with something and improvise otherwise I will end up in the loony bin . I think that everyone handles boredom differently. To sit at four walls though, no, I could not handle that. Andrew
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@Bebs08 (10689)
• United States
10 Sep 08
[i]I agree with you Andrew, There are many things to do to occupy our time at home but you really felt bored when you are always alone. I did not feel like this before. I am not used to be alone everyday. But there is no choice for me because my hubby is working.[/i]
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@tianli (311)
• China
10 Sep 08
I have a same feeling with you.By now I have enjoyed my summer vacation for nearly 2 months (I am a student).I have nothing to do ,it seems everyone is busy except me .I just face to computer ,that is so boring and makes me crazy. Fortunately I will go to school tomorrow, these boring days will end ,that is great.
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@Bebs08 (10689)
• United States
10 Sep 08
Hi tianli, good for you, your boring days are over. Good luck to your studies.
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