should you're friends not invite you anymore just because...?

Romania
September 9, 2008 4:11pm CST
so, you're passing through a rough time and you have no money. your friends ask you out but you can't go until you fix all your problems and you tell them what's happening.they continue asking you out but you can't go.one day they stop calling you. after you pass that rough period you call them but they seem to have lost interest in you.has anyone experienced something like this? what did you do? are these real friends?
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@lilaclady (28240)
• Australia
9 Sep 08
I wouldn't call them friends, but we must look at if you kept in contact, I have friends who don't ring or visit but when I call them or visit them they complain that I haven't been for awhile or they haven't heard from me, some people are plain just no communicators so in that case i have been pulling back so have you kept up the contact.
• Romania
9 Sep 08
well, after they stopped calling and i fixed my problems, i had lunch with a friend from that group and i've heard that some of my so called friends said i was a cheap liar and that i am not worth their time. that the deal with my so call friends. i need new ones.
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@lilaclady (28240)
• Australia
9 Sep 08
yes they are not worth bothering about...their loss I say...
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@sudalunts (5526)
• United States
9 Sep 08
I haven't experienced that yet, but I think it will happen soon. There is a friend of my husband's who is having a luncheon on Saturday. I am not working, I was laid off from my job almost three months ago, and my husband has not made any money in two months. She keeps asking us if we are going to the luncheon, she is aware of our finances, but she says, well if you buy one ticket , I won't charge you for the other one. The tickets are $35.00. If you are struggling, there is no way you can come up with $35.00, for something that is not necessary. So, I imagine when we do not show up, she will probably stop calling us. That's too bad, right now I need eggs, milk and bread, and can't get it, so I certainly can not buy her silly ticket. She will have to get over it.
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• Romania
9 Sep 08
some people just don't think. if your friend knows your financial problem, how could she ask you for something unnecessary? i just can't imagine being that selfish. how do you manage to be so brave?
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@Sheepie (3118)
• United States
10 Sep 08
I really do not think that true friends would ever stop calling to give their support. Maybe you can reconnect with these friends, though. But it's probably time for you to move on, I'm sorry that they have done this to you!
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• United States
10 Sep 08
No, I haven't experienced this yet. And obviously they aren't truly your friends. If they can't understand why you couldn't hang out with them during your rough times then maybe you should be around them at all. A real friend would understand and support you through the bad times until you get back to the good.
• Lubbock, Texas
10 Sep 08
I think if your friends were true friends they could have just visited or suggested doing something that didn't cost money once in a while, just to help you emotionally through a rough time, knowing you didn't have money to go out. It sounds like they're pretty shallow. Might be worth keeping as acquaintances, but find some new friends.