How do you give appreciation to yourself?

@klaudine (3652)
Indonesia
September 10, 2008 3:59am CST
Sometimes you make something big in your life. Sometimes you have done a great achievement, but you just think that it is something common and you never appreciate what you have done. And in opposite, if you make small mistake, you would probably blame yourself as a failure or a useless person. You know that you are not that bad, in fact you are understand that you are not bad at all. But still you can't help to keep blaming on yourself of something wrong and never give some appreciation on yourself. Have you ever proud of yourself of something that you've done? It could be small thing but you know not everybody can do that like you do. Have you ever give yourself a special treatment as a gift of your success? Have you ever thought that you have made an achievement and you have the right to celebrate it?
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8 responses
• Indonesia
10 Sep 08
i am usually over proud of myself well, you are absolutely right. sometimes we are too hard to ourselves. we rarely appreciate our accomplishments (especially small accomplishments). we always take it for granted. in contrary, we always criticize our mistakes and failures. in the early i work in an ngo, i used to feel strange and even uncomfortable with my boss and my colleagues' habit to give compliments to each other. when i completed a small ordinary task, my boss would say, great job! what's great? it's just type a beneficiary list. when i fixed a broken window at our office (well, that's just applying lubricant at its hinges so that the window could opened and closed easily), he said, 'you really have multi-talent but i was getting use to it, and now i realize that they were not insincere compliments. he didn't mean to make fun of me. it's just the way he tried to encourage us to work better and better. and because he does it consistently, his method fairly works. and now i try to imitate his method. i sometimes make a simple celebration to congratulate my accomplishment. such as, if i reach the minimum payout here before the month ends, i give myself a nice rest by not being on mylot for hours
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@klaudine (3652)
• Indonesia
10 Sep 08
Good point here. So you mean a compliment from other people can also build your self appreciation, right? I think it is good to have someone like your boss and your colleague, because not everybody would compliment other people just for doing small stuff. And being overprod...LOL, you just making me laugh when I first read your post, I think you're not, You kept saying sorry for your grammar even your grammar is fine (I really paid an attention to the posts... LOL). Maybe your method is right. If i can reach the minimum payment before the end of the month I would have sometime to rest and only myLotting once in a while :) Thank you very much Sutan, nice to see you again here in the discussion :)
@Amagnimo (637)
• India
10 Sep 08
Well, you are quite true here... but I didn't get the last line - you love mylot, and being away from your love can't be a treat to yourself, right? lol...well, yeah - its great when we hear all the compliments, I used to hear a lot from my teachers - lol. But however, it seems I am getting used to it. I used to feel the same thing when anyone in the family compliments me about computers - it seems so so very easy to me, but they mean the compliment from the heart. So I guess, yeah. And it really does build up for more confidence, and enthusiasm. Anyways, Happy Mylotting!
@Amagnimo (637)
• India
10 Sep 08
Well, I am usually praised when I am to be - I'll be honest, and those who want to believe, can! I am usually praised for my knowledge on computers, and my grades in schools and stuff - even teachers don't expect to do even a small bit of a wrong thing - but I can't help it in my group which tends to do everything wrong ! lol.! I am not showing myself good - in RL, I never required to show myself - and at times, when I really don't get any praise, I don't remember myself praising for any achievement - my expectations subside - due to god's grace - and I am outta any disappointments! I am so lucky to be so lucky! lol. I don't think I am trying to praise myself here - but those who understand it that way - for them - I am not used to doing that - but I am used to saying the truth!!! Oh yeah, just remembered - I try to be truthful at all the places - I broke a few people's faith once - and I believe that was the last time I did since then. It did gimme a lesson, really!!! Sorry - no celebrations for any unnoticed achievements! lol.
@klaudine (3652)
• Indonesia
10 Sep 08
LOL. I don't think that to be proud of yourself you have to earn an achievement that can be noticed by another people. I mean, maybe for some people it is a usual thing to do, but if for you it is an achievement, you have to be proud of it, and maybe celebrate it as the appreciation for the achievement. For example, I am a smoker and it is hard for me to quit. For non smoker it is easy to not smoking, but when I can pass a day without smoking, I should celebrate it, because it is a new achievement for me. LOL but you're funny though, thank you for being here too, Nemo. It's fun to have any discussion with someone like you
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@Amagnimo (637)
• India
10 Sep 08
Well, well, well, thank you so very much. I enjyo your topics too... you see, its after long time that I became active here few days ago. It was the second day when I replied to your discussion, and I enjoyed it really, and then...it went on. lol.
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@klaudine (3652)
• Indonesia
10 Sep 08
LOL, now we're complimenting each other, you see? But that's okay, I think it is good to do that because it would raise your confident in myLotting and mine too LOL. Well actually I am quite happy that in the last few days, some of the topics I made can reach at least 3 or more respondents. That's quite a lot for me, because I used to get no response at all LOL. Yeah, me, no responses. And thank you very much for enjoying my discussion, and since it's the second day you're in my discussion let's make it a whole month you are in my discussion. Trust me you'll get the payment really soon because I am so talkative in discussions LOL
• United States
12 Sep 08
Well, a few years back, I'd have gone and bought myself something big (like my hot tub). Now I enjoy simpler things to make myself feel good, like a pedicure, manicure, backrub or my favorite indulgence, a cone of pistachio walnut ice cream! Afterall it IS about me isn't it? LOL
@klaudine (3652)
• Indonesia
12 Sep 08
That's crazy! That must be a great achievement you got that day. I mean, buying yourself something big would remind you the good days you have achieved. LOL. I would like to do that to myself too. And some decent dessert would be great for me if I could get my achievement this time, because you're right... it's all about you.. i mean, ME... LOL
• United States
12 Sep 08
Well I got the hottub after NOT having treated myself for some time. I used to be very impulsive, but in the last year have gotten extremely frugal. That ice cream cone is a MAJOR splurge for me now!
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@klaudine (3652)
• Indonesia
13 Sep 08
Well.. even for a delayed treat, it was still BIG for me LOL. I wouldn't be able to afford it, not for now. And, too, I am still living with my parents, I wouldn't do that. But I think I can start treating myself with some chocolate bar or a good dessert LOL. Thank you for sharing me your experience, that was cool!! Have a nice day and happy myLotting :)
• Philippines
13 Sep 08
All my life, other people have been telling me that I'm an achiever and that I'm this and that. They say they look up to me and that they were awed with my achievements. You are right though when you say I treated all those "achievements" as something really common and I never came to appreciate them. Maybe during the time I achieved those, I may felt proud, or maybe I got so overwhelmed with congratulations. But you see, I've always been looking forward to my parents' praises and appreciation. I did everything for them you see. For me, the best reward would be coming from my Mama and Papa, the pride, the loving look on those eyes, the comforting and elating words, "that's my daughter!". But come to think of it, I never really came to giving myself the special treatment that I deserve for those achievements. I thought others' input are more than enough. I guess I have the right to celebrate them as well, I think I'll start doing so... Thanks for the eye-opener.
@klaudine (3652)
• Indonesia
13 Sep 08
Wow! That was a quite an experience. It is true that we are all looking up for someone's appreciation. Like parents. We always want to make our parents proud and do anything about it. We're trying too hard but never have the time and feeling to appreciate ourselves. That's sad, but it happens a lot in our life. Yes you have the right to celebrate your achievements, and I think you are deserve all of people's compliment. You're welcome and thanks for your participation and sharing in this discussion :) Have a nice day
• Philippines
14 Sep 08
Ey! Thanks for the BR! Have a great day :)
@hiddenwing (3721)
• China
12 Sep 08
Sometimes, I feel proud of myslef. But, I know that I don't give myslef enough credit. This is one of the reason that I miss a lot of great chances. Definately, the most important thing is appreciate yourslef, then others will aprreciate u as well. Thus, I won't hesitate to think that I have made an achievement somehow. It feels good!
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@klaudine (3652)
• Indonesia
13 Sep 08
It is good that you realize the importance of giving credits to yourself, it means from then you have to start to be more appreciative on your own work LOL. I know how it feels when you are proud of yourself and appreciate our own achievement. Yes you right, it feels really good when you do that. LOL. Thank you for your participation here in my discussion. Have a nice day and happy myLotting.
• India
10 Sep 08
I appreciate your thought...its very important to get motivated..and self motivation is the best motivation ....we should definetly celebrate for our achievements....i always celebrate my success with my close friends..my friend encourage me when i achieve something....this is very important to everyone's life...good discussion...congrats
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@klaudine (3652)
• Indonesia
10 Sep 08
Thank you very much manjalvaanam... It is good to know that you have done so good to yourself. I mean, not everybody can do what you did. You appreciate yourself and be proud of yourself, that is a very good self motivation. Having some good friends to celebrate your good times together also a good thing that makes you able to appreciate your self better. Thank you for participating in this discussion, and thank you for your compliment:) have a nice day and happy myLotting, manjalvaanam :)
• China
10 Sep 08
I think you're right! But I can't find any tiny things that I should give appreciation to myself!But I can find a lot to blame myself. Just like you say,we should always give appreciation to ourselves.That can make us lead a happy life!Make us more laugh,less sadness. Happiness make us more health!This is such a good attitude for our life Happy mylotting!!
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@klaudine (3652)
• Indonesia
10 Sep 08
Being positive like what you did is really good, that way we can always see the positive side of ourselves and give some appreciation to our achievement. But how do you give the appreciation? Do you celebrate it with your friend, or you make picture of your achievement? Or you post it in your blog so it can become your achievement documentation? Or simply buying some gift for yourself as a reminder that you are good enough to deserve all good things in the world?
@ronaldinu (12445)
• Malta
10 Sep 08
Buying something small that you like might do the trick.
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@klaudine (3652)
• Indonesia
10 Sep 08
Do you mean that I can buy things that I like every time I am able to make an achievement would be good enough? So what you usually buy for yourself if you think you have done something good and deserve a gift? I think you have done that to yourself, haven't you ronaldinu?