Have you meet her/his parents?

Malaysia
September 10, 2008 4:42am CST
I just started a new relationship. And i found that i am nervous to meet his parents. Does any experienced one can provide me any idea which could calm my nervous? Can you share your experience or any suggestion with me? Lets discuss.
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@klaudine (3652)
• Indonesia
10 Sep 08
Meeting your partner's parents is a very crucial. I can understand your feeling because I've been there too. The first meeting could be the beginning of everything, for others cases it could be the beginning of endless fight, or beginning or the better relationship in an advanced level. I believe that the second one is what all of us seeking for. I have met the whole big family, not the whole, but almost all of the big family of my partner, and that was a scary thing to do. It is a big experience and it takes me weeks to get ready for this. I would suggest you to be as simple as you can. I mean, you have to know the background of the family. In my case, my soon-to-be-in laws, don't like something that too extravagant and extraordinary. They like something simple and I was trying to be as simple as I could. They are friendly, but I have to keep being polite seeing them are older than I am. They would usually stick with the first impression about you, so you'd better have the appropriate outfit, and a good attitude. I am not asking you to be yourself, I know, but as what I've told you before, they would usually stick with the first impression, so give your best shot to give the best first impression. I hope this would help, I wouldn't mind if you have anything to ask further about this... :)
• Malaysia
10 Sep 08
Thanks for your useful information and suggestion . I think it would be helpful to me ! Well , better don't give too much stress to myself ,just try to be natural and i hope everything will be fine .
• Malaysia
10 Sep 08
Thanks for your useful information and suggestion . I think it would be helpful to me ! Well , better don't give too much stress to myself ,just try to be natural and i hope everything will be fine .
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@klaudine (3652)
• Indonesia
10 Sep 08
Yes you are right. Don't be nervous and don't be stress. I think everything is going to be okay. Tell your partner about your feeling, he would help you to know about the family better, and you would be more ready to meet them in future. Good luck and my best wishes with you :) have a nice day, and Happy myLotting!!
@jheLaichie (4439)
• Philippines
23 May 09
Yes, yes, yes. We've been together for almost 4 years. I met his parents long before our relationship started. We were classmates before, way back from high school. Feeling of uneasiness towards his parents?....none so far, they're both very much acquainted, easy to talk to, and open minded person.
@silverjam (969)
• United States
25 Jan 09
How I wish I can meet my husband's parents but he's already an orphan so this is impossible by now, although he was always telling me that had her mom is alive by now she surely would like to meet meand would probably liked me. For me meeting your partner's folks could be very exciting yet sometimes a little nervous too. Just be yourself, act decently and be respectful. I guess those are basically important and will likely work to please them. Doing overly nice can exagerate things and might lead to bad impression later. Having a good conversation w/ them can be a good point too, and don't forget to bade nice goodbye when leaving. These are just few things that make leave them having good impressions on you.
• China
10 Sep 08
hello,my name is long; i have a girlfriend.and in this summer holiday.i didn't meet her parents,but i had gone to her horse.and i had met her sister.it is great.i like her sister.
• United States
10 Sep 08
Meeting your significant others parents can be a very scary thing to do. I have learned from personal experience that if you just be yourself, but also make sure to be very respectful that it usually works out well. The only time I have had a bad experience in the past meeting the parents was when I was dating a guy who was muslim and his parents dissaproved of our relationship. Luckily, my husband and I did not run into this problem as both of our familys are the same religion even though we do not practice ourselves. My mother-in-law isnt very fond of me but she has never been downright rude to me either and is very nice and she makes sure to ask about my interests.