My mother in law is the worst. The jokes are all true.....

@rocketj1 (6960)
United States
September 10, 2008 6:40am CST
Personally......I love my mother in law. We got along right from the start. There were a few years where we seemed to be in competition for my husband. It's hard to hand your son over to another women.Just a little tension at times then. But for the most part we have had a great relationship. As for my husband..... He loves my mom. He always says that he can't understand mother in law jokes that give unflattering views of mother in laws. He says he has the greatest one in the world. I know however, this is not the case for everyone. What about you? Do you have a story about your mother in law?
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@switlyf (650)
• Philippines
10 Sep 08
My mother-in-law and I get along so well. Even when my husband and I are still on our boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. I never had a problem with my mother-in-law well i heard of stories where they refer to their in-laws as monsters!haha LOL well good thing I'm not of them! Happy mylotting, cheers!
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@rocketj1 (6960)
• United States
10 Sep 08
Thanks. I often wonder if a problem mother in law is really a problem daughter in law too. Am I right?
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@switlyf (650)
• Philippines
11 Sep 08
hehe not really...sometimes things got crazy and you just can't be true to someone even if its your husbands parent. Happy mylotting, cheers!
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@rocketj1 (6960)
• United States
11 Sep 08
Thanks. That's a very sweet baby on you avatar!
@slickcut (8141)
• United States
10 Sep 08
If girls would just look at their mother in laws like they do their own mothers things would be much better...A mother can make all kinds of goof ups & the daughter just either ignors her or just over looks it..I think mother in laws sometimes has a bad rap..Some are bad & some are good but its a fact it is always best in all cases to try to get along.I always tred to remember that had it not been for that mother in law i would not have my husband....So i just over looked a lot but all mother in laws have to get to knowing you & vise versa.So i always managed to accept mine with the good & bad....I just always treated her like i did anyone else in the family...I have always tried to stay out of their business & did not offer any help unless asked....I love my daughterin laws ,i have 3...
@rocketj1 (6960)
• United States
10 Sep 08
I think you are right. Respect is the key. It is great to hear from someone who has a double perspective (both daughter in law and MIL):)
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@babykeka80 (2003)
• United States
10 Sep 08
This is always a hilarious discussion for me to post on. I actually met my husband through what is now my mother in law. I worked with her when I was 18 and we became best friends. When my mom kicked me out she took me in. My husband was only 12 at the time and I was 18. I moved up north and lost touch, then came back to Florida on vacation. I ran into my future husband out of the blue. I moved back to Florida and back in with his mom. 8 months later we started seeing each other secretly because I was afraid it would upset his mother. We ended up pregnant and didnt even tell his mother that the baby was her real granddaughter until she was 6mos old. We have remained best friends, she was my maid of honor in our wedding. She never gets involved in any of our problems. Unless someone, usually him, is way out of line. She told him when we started dating that if things did not work out between us not to expect her not to continue talking to me and such. It has been great so far, we have been married for 14months now.
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@rocketj1 (6960)
• United States
10 Sep 08
You know, I think that getting to be her friend first was probably a great thing to do. The relationship already had a foundation. She already knew and respected you without the son being involved. She was already rooting for you in general. Great Story! Thanks!
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• United States
10 Sep 08
My mil is ok, she lives 1000 miles away...lol. My grandmother in law on the other hand is constantly butting in. She lives next door and was more of a mother to my husband than his real mother. She raised him from the time he was 5 and has a special attachment I guess. He was born on her b-day and was the first born of her only daughter. I like her most of the time, but some of the crap she does and says ticks me off. She told my husband a few weeks ago that it's a proven fact that I don't ever do laundry. It's a good thing I wasn't around I don't think we'd have ever spoken again!
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@rocketj1 (6960)
• United States
10 Sep 08
Wow! You are a patient woman!:) But you know, your husband was aggrevating the situation by telling you what she said. He needs to not tell you what she says. That seems like he may be getting a little chuckle out of being in the middle. Thanks for your comments!
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@rainmark (4306)
10 Sep 08
I also have mother in law, she nice. But sometimes you don't understand them. I sometimes ignore her and say excuses to go upstairs and sleep. Then she notice it and everytime i said excuses, she said "hope you not going to sleep again" lolz.And sometimes i am doing cooking in the kitchen she will come and say something, not to do this, not to do that, it's the right way to do it. and bla bla bla.Maybe we understand it when someday we become a mother in law. happy myloting!
@rocketj1 (6960)
• United States
10 Sep 08
It sounds like your mother in law lives with you. Is that right? I think that would be difficult for me. I love her very much but when she visits, she only stays for a few days. That's enough for both of us,I think.:)
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• India
10 Sep 08
no dont just conclude. About your mother in law. I would like to add this. It might be a sort of INFERIORITY or INSECURITY complex, which is a reason, or might be a reason for her peculiar behaviour. I hope this will never come true in your actual life, but, this is what I concluded, with my mother and mother in law .. and our spouse relationship. Now, we all live in peace. (of course, in our respective houses. Not together)
@rocketj1 (6960)
• United States
10 Sep 08
I think that's the key: "in our respective houses" The negative stories I have heard about Mother in laws usually are about the ones who cross the boundaries. The ones who do not stay in their "respective houses" so to speak. They try to control their child's marriage and "butt in" too much. Thanks for your comments:)
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• United States
12 Sep 08
I loved my mother in law and she loved me. She passed away right before my husband and mine's first wedding ann. We were in the process of moving them in with us when she passed away. We did however move my father in law in with us and he lived with us from Oct. 2000 until he passed away in Aug. 2004. My husband adores my mom and she loves him too.
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@rocketj1 (6960)
• United States
12 Sep 08
That's a very touching story.Thank you so much for sharing that:)
• India
11 Sep 08
Even before thinking about a marriage i have heard a lot about mother in laws. The fight they make in home etc...so when my ,marriage fixed i too was a little upset thinking what i will do..But to my wonder my mother in law is the best person i ever met..she is an example as to how a mother in law should be. We used to talk even before engagement. she used to call me everyday telling each and everything there happening. she would ask me what colour saree i like to buy for me..she even asked me what dress she should wear on marriage. I was quite shy to talk to My hubby before marriage...n she would tell me to talk more to him...its 2 years after marriage, n now she is close to me, just like a good friend or like my own Mother...nowadayas whenever i purchase anything for my mother i buy one of the same thing for her too.I always feel i have two mothers. she has a very supporting role in my life. she always tell me her own daughter not daughter IN LAW. I LOVE HER....A LOT....
@rocketj1 (6960)
• United States
11 Sep 08
So, it's like having two moms then, right? That's wonderful. Thanks:)
@odwitt (112)
• United States
10 Sep 08
Ugh! My m-i-l butts in all the time! We justed moved to Washington DC, and I swear we wouldn't even be here if it weren't for her! I'm not liking it here very well. The only good thing is that we're far away from her! But she's already said that she's known for just showing up for visits. I told my husband that if she does that- just shows up without calling first, she and my hub can go stay in a hotel! She always takes over my kitchen. When we moved here, she tried to unpack all of my kitchen stuff and organize my drawers and cabinets. I'm a very organized person and know where I want everything to be. I couldn't believe she did that! If I did that in her kitchen, she'd freak out! I NEVER touch anything in another woman's kitchen unless they ask for help.
@rocketj1 (6960)
• United States
11 Sep 08
ooo. She sounds pushy. I hope time will mellow her out a bit. Sometimes distance can do that too. Good luck:)
• Philippines
10 Sep 08
Good day.. I have a good will be mother in law. She's great and everything and I think I'll just get along with her. I love my fiancee and because of that I would also love the mother that brought her up.
@rocketj1 (6960)
• United States
11 Sep 08
You sound like a gentleman. Thanks:)
@GemmaR (8526)
10 Sep 08
I love my boyfriend's mum to pieces! We get on really well all the time, and never have a horrible word to say to each other. I guess that might get a little different when we get married though, and if there were children involved, as it would give a whole new level to the relationship, but I get along with her fine at the moment, so that's currently all that matters to me.
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@rocketj1 (6960)
• United States
11 Sep 08
It's great that you get along so well!Best wishes for your relationships:)
@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
10 Sep 08
good and bad... She helps with the kids. But she also does some weird things. She butts in. She says some really strange things sometimes. She's annoying sometimes but I can tolerate her.
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@rocketj1 (6960)
• United States
11 Sep 08
Seems like you've got a good attitude about things. Thanks for your post:)
• United States
10 Sep 08
I had a few issues with my mother-in-law in the beginning. They really didn't want us to get married and threw a fit before hand, however I see now that there were a few things going on. First, they didn't know me. Second, it was their first child to go off and get married. Now I love my mother-in-law and enjoy spending time with her and the rest of my husband's family. On the other hand, my husband's mother-in-law tends to be a nightmare. She is the one that has all the advice about how to raise our son, she lived off of us for a year, and she hasn't been very nice to him at all. My husband would prefer it if we never saw her again. I still love her though...shrug, My mom is a horrible mother-in-law!
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@rocketj1 (6960)
• United States
11 Sep 08
Your poor husband! :(
@belk89 (1103)
• Philippines
10 Sep 08
Well so far i dont have a problem with my mother in law. She is a sweet person and shes always there for me when i needed her. Shes like a 2nd mother to me. She even loves me more than she loves my husband lol. She told me if ever we have a fight i will just let her know and she will talk to her son. All of them are nice to me except my sister in law! at first we get along but then eventually her real colors show. She loves to play the victim. She acts like everyone doesnt like her. And talk about how she tried to be closer to us. It just irritate me coz we didnt do anything to her! Shes the one always asking for something to my husbands parents almost everything. And she always acted like life is not fair for her sigh.... I dont like her at all because she make my husband look like a bad person and shes the good one. She even given me a cold treatment coz my mother in law gives me almost everything which i didnt asked in the first place. I guess not all family members of your husband you can get along well.
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@rocketj1 (6960)
• United States
11 Sep 08
I can't believe how much my sister in law is just like yours. In fact, she is such a problem that I rarely ever see her or my brother. It's really too bad. I miss him a lot. They have 6 children with one on the way and I barely know them.:(
@tianli (311)
• China
10 Sep 08
I haven't got married ,but your discussion enlight me that it is time to consider about the relationship beween my boyfriend's mother and I.ha ha ~~~ In fact ,i often see that there are many conflicts between a woman and her mother in law in TV,especially this mother only have one son .I think the best way is that you and your husband own a new residence to live.
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@rocketj1 (6960)
• United States
11 Sep 08
I agree. I think separate living arrangements are probably best. Thank you for posting!:)
@zhuuraan (967)
• United States
10 Sep 08
No story about my own, cuz I don't have one yet, but I will say that my mom's was a real witch. I don't remember her well so I can't share much stories, but she wasn't too pleasant, and that's about all I remember. lol
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@rocketj1 (6960)
• United States
10 Sep 08
Sorry to hear that. My mom's mil was and still is a bit difficult but over the years they have learned to respect each others differences. Thanks:)
@piya84 (2591)
• India
24 Apr 10
I am not married so i am not perfectly inclined to answer your question.I do have a boyfriend and sometime my boyfriend's mother tell me what he likes in his breakfast and like that which most of the time i ignore. She like butt in as well but as we are still in separate home it doesnt affecting us a lot.