How well do you handle yourself in a crisis ?

Canada
September 10, 2008 7:45am CST
Are you a take charge person or someone who is liable to break down when things get rough ? Do you find that you are better in a crisis then normal ? Do you believe that if one is the type to break down that they can control this or change this in any way ? Do you believe this is someting one is born with or something that you aquire as you get older and by life experiences ? I am never well in a crisis as I am the one who breaks down but when a friend of mine lost her son a few years back , I was the one she relied on . I was surprised at how strong I was able to be for her when any other time I was a wreck . I have often wondered what kept me so strong that one time when I have never been the one anyone could count on when things were really bad as I couldn't overcome how I was feeling to be able to help and yet this one time I was able to hold it togehter not only for myself but for my friend ?
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• Philippines
10 Sep 08
I tend to "freeze" for a while right after encountering a crisis. I rationalize, ask too many "whys and how comes", think too much, regret, wonder. I let out the emotions later after some initial feelings of denial. But i also break down, depending on the impact of certain crisis over me. It is indeed amazing to discover how much strength we have when we become grips of loved ones who are undergoing crisis. We become like a channel of comfort and strength to them. Some people feel drained after this, but i think doing this to a friend increases our capacity to handle our own crisis so well. I have been through break ups, job loss, loss of loved ones, financial troubles, etc...and what "warns" me from loosing my logical reasoning and giving in to emotions are the past expereinces of friends and relatives who have been through what i am going through at that moment. I then comfort myself at the thought that "they have gotten over it, so will i" or "there is a soluton to this, like there has been to theirs before." Then i calm down and begin to think of what to do, just a little after allowing myself to be human, to express emotions, for a while.
• Canada
10 Sep 08
You sound very much like myself as I am always looking for a reason why something happened or how it could have happened . Thank you for your response .
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@GardenGerty (95673)
• Marion, Kansas
10 Sep 08
You are right, we do build on the experience of others as well as from our own. It gives us more resources when the next crisis happens, and we always know that they will.
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• Canada
10 Sep 08
I am not a take charge person but I can manage ok in a crisis situation . Sometimes are harder then others but I think I do ok . I don't like when something happens to my pets but after we get over feeling bad we move on .
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• Canada
10 Sep 08
Thank you for your response .
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• Canada
11 Sep 08
I think i am good in a crisis situation . I don't cry and I don't break down . I think I handle it better then others I know . Maybe it is that woman get more upset then men do and we don't break down as easy and we can handle situations better the woman .
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• Canada
11 Sep 08
Thank you for your response .
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• Canada
2 Nov 09
I am very calm in a crisis in that if something happens, I totally detatch myself from my emotions until I know that my family and I are out of danger. Maybe after things have settled, I'll let my emotions out and feel all that stuff one typically feels during a crisis, but for now when something goes on, I am as calm as anything.