money!

Agreed! I am renting my own flat because of this problem and all her friends and family agree with me on this too! However, when I come to her house every day, she says you come here, eat my food and use my electric but don't give me any money. However, if I give her money then our family, including our children, are left without a car to be able to travel and are not able to afford to take holidays or go for days out because of it! What can I do to make her see?

Your girlfriend is being very selfish, I am surprised you are even dealing with her. A relationship means that I help you, you help me. What do we have to offer each other to make our lives better. She is getting free housing, that is all she has to offer to you, you have transportation, and the means to bring fun and entertainment into her life. She has to compromise with you before she loses you. It is not always about ourselves, when we are in a relationsip it then becomes all about US. She needs to reevaluate her decision and come up with a compromise, which does not include you paying her for something she is getting free.

I absolutely agree! The way she sees it is that if I'm living in her house, then I'm using her gas and electric and eating the food which she pays for. However, the government give her the money to buy all that with! Of course, I am willing to pay for my own food and I have my own accommodation if that's what it will take, but she just doesn't seem to see it that way. I have left her recently because of it and we are trying to sort things out, but she is starting to hint on all this once again.

She has pretty much everything paid for by the government for her. I can have my own accommodation and buy my own food and pay my own bills on my own for less than the amount of money that she demands. But if I'm going to contribute a car and computers to the family then why shouldn't I be demanding money from her towards it??!!

It depends whether I am claiming benefits or working at the time.

The way I see it is that if I'm giving her money to stay in her house (which is paid for by the government), then that leaves me in a position whereby I cannot provide a car, i cannot contribute to the house, I cannot provide computers and internet and I cannot put money towards holidays. Yet she still demands that I should be giving her most of my money for living in her house and eating her food, even though I sometimes put money towards the bills anyway (gas, electric).

Some good points, though when I was living with her they would pay the rent for both of us and give us a certain amount of money for us both to live on, which we are each entitled to by law 50% each, yet because I was there she would demand some of that money. It certainly does seem like she just wants the money but I've made my mind up now anyway, she ain't getting it and if I have to stay in my own accommodation because of that then that's what I'll do.