How will you react if your teenage daughter get pregnant???

@cecelgay (563)
Philippines
September 10, 2008 9:09pm CST
WE, parents wants the best for our children, as much as possible we want them to have a good life, we take care of them with all our best effort, but what if unexpectedly your angel get pregnant unexpectedly how would you react?? WE all know that being a parents had a lot of responsibilities and sacrifices and for sure your daughter will be in that situation... How will you react or accept it?
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@odwitt (112)
• United States
11 Sep 08
I really hope and pray that if I have a daughter, she will abstain until she is married. I realize this concept is lost on most people these days, but I have to say that my husband and I both waited until our wedding night...that's always been something that was really important to us. If she were to get pregnant, we would of course be supportive. I think the worst thing a partent could do is make her feel like a worthless person, and kick her out of the house! She obviously needs love, and help! I will love my children no matter what they become.
@cecelgay (563)
• Philippines
11 Sep 08
No parents wants to see their children suffering even the children choose a wrong path... when their children is hurting parents feel more than twice of the pain that their child is bearing, if only parents can take all the pain and problems that their children have they will do it. That is how unconditional the love of parents have....
@peedielyn (1210)
• United States
11 Sep 08
My parents were understanding when my sister got pregnant at 15. She got married and had another baby by the time she was 16. That sucked to see her go through hell and so far because of the horrible story behind it, all of my parents' grandkids are abstinent. I am hoping that my girls stay virgins until they are 50 but if it happens I will have to accept it. I don't want them to end up like my sister, or to struggle like I did when I started having kids in college. I guess I would have to suck it up and be a grandma.
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• United States
11 Sep 08
My daughter wasn't a teenager, she was 21 years old. I have been divorced since she was 6 months old. She is a single mother raising her 3 year old daughter and going to college now. It would not have mattered to me if she had been 15 or 21 I would have done the same thing. This little girl is the best thing that ever happended to us. Thank you God.
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@cecelgay (563)
• Philippines
11 Sep 08
Yeah, baby is a gift of God and it was His blessing to any family..
• United States
12 Sep 08
A blessing from God is a wonderful way to say it. Thanks so much for those words. God Bless You
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@divinchris (2449)
• India
11 Sep 08
OMG!I will be really shocked to hear such an incident.It all depends on how the parents teach their children to grow with moral values.If the parents dont care for their children,then they will go on there own way.Good morals can make daughters aware of the teen pregnancies.Thank you
@cecelgay (563)
• Philippines
11 Sep 08
Yes you're right there is a big factor on how the child was raise but sometimes there are incident that even the child come from a decent family and with good moral values still some get in this situation
• India
11 Sep 08
Thats true.In such cases,nothing can be done.
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@MissGia (955)
• United States
11 Sep 08
I know it sounds hard but i would try to react in a sensible manner. Reacting harshly would not be good for me and my daughters relationship and also would not be good for her in her condition. I would make sure she was going to the doctor regularly. I would let it be her choice to keep or give it up for adoption. I would encourage her to keep it and to give her all of my support. I would make her get a part time job (just in the beginning of her pregnancy. I would make sure she notify the father and make sure that he is either helping her take care of the child or paying child support. Overall i would just be supportive and there for her.
@cecelgay (563)
• Philippines
11 Sep 08
AH... i think you're a very good mom... Same here i will support my daughter, what ever happens she is my daughter and there's no other people who will give her support except us, the parents...
• China
11 Sep 08
all sunlight without shade ,all delight witou pain,is not life at all . Howevewr your life is ,meet it and live it,do not shun it and call it hard names. things is still,we chang.
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• Canada
11 Sep 08
I actually expect to get a call about this someday only because my daughter is only 16 and ran away because she didn't like the rules at school . We know where she is but we are not allowed to do anything about it because she says she doesn't like us ( actually she says she hates us ) . She figures she is old enough to make her own decisions and that if sleeping around is what she wants to do there is no way we can stop her , and so this is what she is doing . We last heard she had slept with an odler menatlly challenged person just because she wanted to . I know she is going to get herself in trouble and I don't know how I am going to respond . Right now her getting pregnant is the least of my worries as I am afraid something serious is going to happen to her . I love my daughter with all my heart but honestly after all she has done to us and believe me she has done a lot . I don't know what we would do if she ever came back home to tell us she was pregnant . We have other children to think about and she has hurt them really bad with her actions .
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@cecelgay (563)
• Philippines
11 Sep 08
I'm sorry to hear that, sometimes there are children who's very rebellious, during teenage years some want to explore everything and they dont want to abide any rules then in the end they came home helpless. about when your daughter came and pregnant i hope that you'll still accept her, remember there is one story in the bible regarding to the rebellious child that he had, that child get his all shares and leave, he spend all his money with unpleasant doings then time comes that he has nothing to eat he came home, he came home to work as a slave but his father accept him as a son.. God teach us a lesson from that story. Just pray to God to enlighten her mind and go back to you and live in a right way...
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• Canada
12 Sep 08
I would never turn my back on any of my children if they did come home pregnant . I had to hard of a time having each of them and was lucky to be able to have the children I did have as they were all problem pregnancies and I lost almsot all of them and did micarry four and would never be able to turn away from a child who would be my grandchild . It is a big joke with all my friends because now that I am unable to have my own babies I wait for the day when I will be a grandma . For them I do not want that to be when they are to young but if it happens I would support them in every way :)
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@prudhvi27 (414)
• India
11 Sep 08
it so embrassing to Answer but things are harder enough reaction has to be worth full to save her Life Better to arrange marriage to her Lover only
@cecelgay (563)
• Philippines
12 Sep 08
Sometimes i disagree on arrange marriage, first of all at their age they are not yet ready to have their own family, at their age their feeling will still change as pass by, young people can hardly accept the sudden changes in their lives, adjustment is the most hardest part in any relationship, trying to understand each other and trying to accept each flaws, i think they are not yet ready for that kind of situation. Trying to make right those mistake by another mistake will just worsen the situation, That is my point of view...
• United States
11 Sep 08
I was a teen pregnancy case. I was 17 about to graduate high school when i became pregnant. My mom said exactly what i would say to my daughter "honey, i'm here for you, whatever you need just call on me. But you have to realize your an adult now, and your going to be a mother. If you have questions or concerns or need a helping hand you can call on me, but you are now the mother and I am not." That pretty much covered it. I let my mother know i appreciated it, and she helped me out anyway that she could. I would not change anything and hopefully my daughter will not have a teen pregnancy, however, if she does i am still going to be there for her and support her no matter what she goes through. I will always be her mother.
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@cecelgay (563)
• Philippines
11 Sep 08
You're mother is very understanding and you're lucky enough to have her, You're lucky to have that kind of understandings from her, we cannot deny that there are some parents who will get upset and frustrated when ever their child be in that situation, though most of us here will still support our child 100% still there are who cant accept it right away. No doubt that you'll be good mother, just guide her not to be in what you've been through during teenage... Good Luck and God Bless...
• United States
11 Sep 08
Well, I got pregnant when I was 19 years old and had my daughter by the time I was 20 and my parents did not take my pregnancy well because they still see me as their little girl and still look at me as if I am 15 (I have not aged much) and I guess from that experience and considering the fact that I have a possibility of running into this situation because have a daughter and all I can say is that I would support my daughter the best way I could. It is a difficult situation but not impossible to accept.
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• United States
12 Sep 08
My little 3 year old grandaughter is a special delivery from heaven and she is a blessing. She doesn't know her father and my daughter has not looked for him. But, if I am still alive and my grandaughter got pregnant as even a teenager I would deal with it just like I did with her Mommy.
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• India
11 Sep 08
I defenetly reacts because we in our home mainly thinks about the status in our relatives when it was known to our relatives it may get problem at last i will try to solve the problem by made marry with that person
@cecelgay (563)
• Philippines
11 Sep 08
Please dont get me wrong... Sometimes getting married is not the real answer for that, maybe to save the family to shame it will save the family but sometimes it may just worsen the situation coz they are not yet ready to build their own family... It was just my point of view
@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
11 Sep 08
Well first of all I'd be really surprised because I don't have a teenage daughter. But seriously, I'd give her a big hug and tell her that I love her and support her. And then I'd have a serious talk with her about her option.
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@checapricorn (16066)
• United States
11 Sep 08
[i]Hi cecel, hhmm...that is tough! Anyway, as much as I can, I will always guide her in that early stage but if ever that will happen really! I will be upset for sure and talk to her and express my disappointment but i know in the long run, I will accept it wholeheartedly! So, I will support her all the way to finish her studies and be stable so she can also support her kid in the future![/i]
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@Amywrites (143)
• United States
11 Sep 08
I am a Mother of a 15 year old teen Mother. I can not honestly tell you what I thought my reaction would be because I do not think any parent would. When that time came I cried like a baby, and when I found myself again, I embraced her with love. I gave her all the options she had and stood beside her. My Grandson is nine months today and I can not say enough how much love he has brought into our family. My daughter is home schooled and everyday she learns how to be a good Mother. My husband and I have custody of Little David because the downside to teen pregnancy is they can not financially take care of them.
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• Bangladesh
11 Sep 08
If I had to hear that type of news when my daughter was teenage, I would have probably gone mad! Thanks God that she is married off without making this type of occurrence! This is of course a nightmarish experience for any parent, I think.
@radon1284 (140)
• Philippines
11 Sep 08
well im not yet a parent but i have sister only one sister i think the best way is to guide them before it happens. try to to explain to them the consequences if they do wrong moves. As the teenager they exposed a lot of experimentations through out their growing years.now if it is inevitable to happen at least they will know their resposibilty. As a parent you dont need to be there all the time all you have to to do is guide them
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• Malaysia
11 Sep 08
I will just accept it because you if I am a father/mother, I will be concentrate at my daughter attitude and behaviour. Question: Did she like to get pregnant? Yes she love free love? If no then this is not her fault. If Yes then sorry I can't be her parent because she will get pregnant again and again.
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@dheal888 (283)
• Indonesia
11 Sep 08
Of course shock but we must know what the reason? I think first an important is to speak with our child. Allow them to voice their feelings and thoughts without judging. Listen to what they have to say. That problem is a job of parents and so as a parent to help when our child need it.
• United States
11 Sep 08
In this day and age teenage pregnancy is so common. I would truly hope that my daughter would choose to remain abstinent until marriage. However, if she did get pregnant, I would be supportive of her and do everything I could to help her make the best, most informed decisions. I am totally 100% against abortion, so that would be the one option that I would never in a million years support. I would do my best to be the best grandma that I could possibly be. I found out that I was pregnant with my first child 2 days after I turned 18. My dad had a really hard time and was really upset about it. My step-mom was super cool and talked to him for me. She had her first baby at 16. She made him stop and look at that and helped him to realize that no matter how he felt there was a life on the way and I needed his love and support. My step-mom has been such a wonderful source of support and I would do the same thing for my daughter.
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@sweetyethot (1738)
• China
11 Sep 08
i cant figure out what i would do if i see my teenage daughter get pregnant.i am a single ,and always travel on the main road.if that happens to my future daughter____ i'd rather have a son if i can choose, i can only accept that.coz,i would still love her unconditionally. that great love makes me wanna help her,support her ,let her feel my love, and do the right thing.i would spare no effort to educate my daughter to avoid that scary issue when in her teenage.
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@djmepw (77)
• India
11 Sep 08
Wow, I really don't want to think of a situation like that. That would truely be horrible! But, ofcourse, if faced with something like that, I would undoubtedly be very very shocked and disappointed with my daughter and more so with myself. Where I live, getting pregnant outside of marriage is almost unheard of and very socially disagreeable. It's almost animalistic and gross. So I would be left reeling. I would also be very angry with the guy who got her into trouble also, and maybe I'd even force him to marry her, but it all depends. I hope I'd support and be there for her if anything of that sort happened. But I don't think I can.