Is it good to have too many friends?

@sivanj (1263)
India
September 11, 2008 5:20am CST
I am actually for having less number of friends and remaining close to them. But my friends have many friends around them which drives me thinking whether i am correct or wrong. Here i am talking about friends with whom you share good and bad. I have many online friends but they are more of hai-bye type. they don't know my personal and i don't know their. So i wouldn't call them as close friends. How about you? Do you grow your friend's circle everyday.
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35 responses
• India
11 Sep 08
well according to me we should have limited number of friends you saying many friends might ot be actually thy can be imposters using you for their own good we should first prove that are they worthy of being a friend with you and then decide if jhe can be your friend or not do not blidly accept what he or she says getting good friends is a really tough job in this world humans are like that you know they only thinkabout their selevs i also havemade friends for bad causes and sometimes i feel bad but everybod'y mind is lke that o ojne ca chage it so have a limited amount of friends soc that you can inrtrcat to them more convienietly and spend time for strenghth\noing your friedship,good luck..
@joy4you (641)
• India
11 Sep 08
I quite agree with you, I have met quite a few people who think they should make friends with a person only if that person can be of use to him. I prefer to have a few quality friends rather that a huge quantity of people who have their own agenda. Quality is always better than quantity. Happy mylotting.
@bamakelly (5194)
• United States
14 Sep 08
I would rather have a smaller group or circle of friends in my opinion. Sometimes you can have more closeness with those of a smaller group. It seems that you can share and confide more in a closer circle. I don't have many friends. I am a busy stay at home mother and wife. I basically come here to myLot for friendship and advice. I like to correspond with other here at this site. Have a great day.
@kavinsh (78)
• India
14 Sep 08
hi sivanj i think we must have less number of friends with whom we can share everything. whom we can trust.......... who can offer their shoulder in hard situations. if anybody is having too many friends then all should not be close friends . close friends are always few. because we can't share everything with everyone. take care.
@Maggiepie (7821)
• United States
13 Sep 08
First, define "friend." If by that you mean what I'd call "friendly ACQUAINTANCES," you still shouldn't be afraid to have lots of them. I think one can NEVER have too many friends OR acquaintances. But frankly, I think this whole qualifying of the term friend..."close friend"...close PERSONAL friend of mine (& what other kind IS there?).... It's all just redundant, bloated verbiage. A FRIEND is one with whom you trust everything you are or have. An ACQUAINTANCE may be friendLY, but he or she isn't prepared to die for you, or FTM, to babysit 'til 4 A.M. while you work late, either. Understand, this is just the bumper-sticker version of my definition of the term. Given space & your patience, it actually goes far deeper. ::GRIN:: Maggiepie
@kellyjeanne (1576)
• United States
13 Sep 08
I think that if most people were honest they would admit that even though they might have a slew of acquaintances they have only one or two 'real' friends. That's the way it is. The saying is that 'you can never have enough friends' and in a way that's true because it's better to be friends with anybody than to be enemies! LOL! But, in the sense that most of our acquaintances are just fair weather friends says to me that only a rare precious few of these people are our real friends. Physically, you might be able to have a 'lot' of friends, but, on a very personal level where you really connect..........? Those friends are very few and very far between. Purrs, Catwoman=^..^= & Mija
• United States
13 Sep 08
I do not have a lot of friends myself. Its good to have a few close friends, like two to three. Then there should be friends you can have fun with. Those that are planning a good future for themselves, like expanding their education by pursuing a college education. Finding good jobs. Who wants to marry, people who love their family. People who love to travel is good. People who realize their potential or self worth. You don't need a close friend to show you the ropes of life, although it helps, that's what social networking is about. Stumble Upon is a good social website. If it good to have many friends that depends on what the relationship with these many friends is about. A person can have a lot of friends, there is nothing wrong about it.
@quinnkl (1668)
• United States
12 Sep 08
I have a close circle of friends, but have many acquaintances. I don't think there is a good or bad about how many friends someone has. That depends on the individual person. What would drive you or me crazy, is an absolute MUST to someone else.
@dasineni (39)
• India
12 Sep 08
yes,but better if u maintain many friends having knowledge in different fields than having many friends in same field.
@Amagnimo (637)
• India
12 Sep 08
Well, having friends is not bad at all. In fact, you should have as many friends as possible. They are all for your good only (unless they backbite!). But as you are talking, close friends are the ones who can really understand you and you can for him/her. I don't really discourage to make more close friends, but I prefer to stick not to more. In fact, since I like seclusion, I like to have few close enough friends, who would believe, trust and stick to me whenever I need them... All definitions and properties of a good friends enters this discussion, and I am not suggest anything. Personal definitions and thinking even influences the choice of friends. WHat I said earlier is just my opinion. After all, they are your friends, and what is the taste of your friends, you know it better. From judgement of your writing, I think, you should not have sooo many! I believe you have very few so should increase, but you should not even let it go to infinity like daily growing the circle. Do comment if you wanna discuss more, since I am in the mood too!
@xiaoyue (206)
12 Sep 08
Well,many people think that more friends you have,happier you will be.But I don't think so,I think when we are adults,there are so many things to consider,so we have little time to spend with friends.Besides,some people just be your temporary friends,sooner or later, they will lose touch with you.So just pull back from some people that you don't really want to draw close to and give the most promising friendship a fair chance to grow.Keep the real friendship!
@mflower2053 (3227)
• United States
12 Sep 08
I'm happy with my 2 close friends. Its hard to have alot of friends. You don't have much time in a day as it is and with a family they get put on the back burner.
@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
12 Sep 08
most of the friends i have i have had for years. seems like new friends are hard to find & hard to keep. i don't meed any fair weather friends as i call them. if i' your friend i am your friend & some litlle ol' silly thing is not going to stop a true friend. i'm very plain spoken & if they can't handle that so be it.online friends are great but u never really get to know many of them.
@gracie04 (4555)
• Philippines
12 Sep 08
i am surrounded with friends but i can only count in my hands ones who are "real." You know, real friends who are always there for you whenever you needed someone to talk to..
@fifileigh (3619)
• United States
12 Sep 08
most people i used to hang out with were from my schools, but since i am an adult now, i dont see any of them because everyone is in different areas. i am always meeting different people here and there. that is what life is about. people come and people go. and the people you hang out with change for time. it is about growing, learning, living, maturing... people i meet on the internet are more like pen pals to chat with and hang out with on the internet at home. but in real life, i hang out with real people and go places.
@applefreak (3131)
• Singapore
12 Sep 08
to me there are friend and then there are friends. My definition of friend is pretty narrow. That explains why I don't have a lot of friends. People who I know in passing are just acquaintances. Friends are people who went through a certain phase of my life with me. Therefore I don't have a lot of friends. I have only one best friend and a few close friends. There can never be too many friends to me as it takes a lot for me to acknowledge a person as a friend. Cheers :)
@alindahaw (1219)
• Philippines
12 Sep 08
I prefer to keep a few close friends than having so many. Yes, it is good to know a lot of people but things can really get quite stressful if a lot of your friends will demand for your time. You cannot really keep in touch with all of these people without sacrificing a lot of things like having quality time with your family. As for online friends, it's nice to have them but still the same, things can really get crazy sometimes ...
• Philippines
12 Sep 08
Well in this case there are two types of friends the one you have online and the one you have in real life,i also have many friends online but usually online is the only place i can find them but in real life a I also have a lot of them and they are the ones that I keep close contact to and talk everyday.
@belk89 (1103)
• Philippines
12 Sep 08
Well there is nothing wrong with having many friends. But if your only having them because you think it makes you look cool to have lots of friends. I think it is not necessary.I am particular with the people i considered as friends. I dont just considered everyone as a friend. If a person is someone i talk once in a while i consider it as an acquaintance. I think there is nothing wrong with having few or many friends. It is actually up to you if you wanted to meet new people and get close to them. But for me i value friendship and i only trust people i really knew well.I have lots of acquaintance but have few close friend.
• India
12 Sep 08
It is always better to have few best friends rather then having many friends who just wait to take advantage of you or who always try to make use of you. I feel it is enough to have one or two best friends then having many number of friends who are nothing for you. A friend must be for you when the whole world is against you and these days it is very rare to find such a friend, hence, what I suggest is if you have one such friend, never let him go, dont ever think about your friends friends, if your friends are trustworthy thats more then enough for you, all the best.
@jaygee96 (316)
• Philippines
12 Sep 08
I dont have many friends to consider. I just consider others as acquiantance. Although I have less friends, they have been with me for many years already. We've been friends for more than 15 years. We've been classmates and friends since highschool until now. Some people just come and go in my life so i dont really consider them as friend