real friends

Netherlands
September 11, 2008 2:24pm CST
I get so tired of people saying that they are a "real friend," but they seem to be too busy with their own life to really be there in a time of need. In my life of 30 years, I have only found a few real friends.
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@shyced (16)
• Philippines
12 Sep 08
I consider those who truly care as the real ones. I like this quote " wait till it rains. coz the weather defines the people who go and get their own umbrellas..and those who stay with you under the rain."
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@Mirsya (521)
• Indonesia
12 Sep 08
I don't really believe in real friends. I think people buid a relationship with other just take the benefit of it. Without it, they'd rather not be friends.
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@amyrin (43)
• India
12 Sep 08
the real frind is not means that he always spend time with us.one who really take care of us in her/his heart is the real friend.its not must tosat near us.they may be in distance but their mind will be with us.
@annjilena (5620)
• United States
12 Sep 08
i know what you mean i only have a few friends.friends are a dime a dozen
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@savmot (261)
11 Sep 08
I've got a couple. People who I can not see for ages and still have them there in an instant if I need them are the people who I consider real friends. The best friend you ever have is your partner I think.
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@hdjohnson (2981)
• United States
13 Sep 08
I noticed your screenname is chefnicole. Does that mean you can cook? If so, I've found it difficult for people who can cook to have little friends. My real question in response to your discussion, is what is your definition of a "real friend?" A good book I read, said that life is like planting a garden, you have to watch out for things like critters, animals (rabbits, other animals that eat flowers, etc.), but mostly you have to be very watch over the amount of water, sunlight, and beware of crab grass and other things that will damage the garden. The book went on to say that reason why people don't have the things they say they really want in life is because they don't take the time to plant the right seeds. If you are looking for more "real friends" have you shown yourself friendly to any one lately. The world is going through a lot of difficulties right now and millions of people are affected in some shape by those difficulties right now. Does that mean that if some of those people were at one point in time one of those "real friends" that they are to automatically drop everything for their friends, difficult situations? That would mean that everytime you were going through something that your "real friends" couldn't be going through something in their individual lives and so, you would consider them not to be a "real friend" if they decided not to give much attention to your problems. They may be dealing with some of their own issues at the moment you are in need. Doesn't mean that they stopped being a "real friend" just means they have their own lives as well, and that you could be a bit more understanding. My intent in responding to your discussion was not to offend you, but rather to express a different point of view.
@ralphido (843)
• India
19 Sep 08
for ur information, no one's interestd in readin anythin longer than 5 lines.. my intent in responding to your discussion was not to offend you, but rather to express a different point of view.
@hdjohnson (2981)
• United States
19 Sep 08
Thanks for sharing your opinion in which you're entitled too. I don't take offence at all to your comment. I simply have a lot to say, usually more than others, and therefore I express myself fully. Besides according to the guidelines outlined by mylot, all comments or discussions written are to be "descriptive as possible." I find it interesting that you'd would comment on something that I wrote, that you did not start the conversation. If you didn't want to read my long comment, you could have skipped over it. Have a good day on purpose, I know I will.
@ralphido (843)
• India
20 Sep 08
no offense meant mate... jus wantd to tell you not everyone is as patient as i am... everyone here is trying to post in as much discussions and responses as fast as possible .. so lengthier comments maynot attract much attention
• China
21 Sep 08
Actaully,true friends really hard to find ,I don't know what the case with the other people at least this seems to me is the case,As the days goes by ,the friends exactlly the true friends are become smaller and smaller,I am really wondering is that the time has made us my mature or something else ,why there aren't any friends that we can rely on..;-(Pity for me ..
• India
20 Sep 08
yes it is a difficult one to get a honest guys friendship or even getting a best friend. in my life, i am always been a good guy to everyone. but to my luck, i have been screwed by everyone including the person whom i thought as my best friend, the girl whom i loved, the girl whom i believed as my loving sister, etc., so nowadays i stopped believing anyone. its a bitter truth, if we care anyone with true care and affection, they will never realize our worth and care.
@ralphido (843)
• India
19 Sep 08
jus get a little realistic here... no one sticks their neck out for some1 unless they expct somthin bak...now, it may be love, security, financial gain or something els...so the secret to making real friends is to stand by them when they are in trouble.. evn if u can do nothin.. jus say u r always ther for them... but if u want to be a fake real frnds, all u hav to do is giv them things that they think are valuble but you don't care for... that way no one ends up a loser...
@bombshell (11266)
• Germany
18 Sep 08
its a normal thing this day coz many are working hard to get money.just take your time and a djust abit.
@katkat (2379)
• Philippines
18 Sep 08
In our life we could have millions of friends though only few of them are true friends. True friends are there when you need them. No matter how busy they are they will find time to help you when you need it. I have clique of friends that were my true friends. They are my classmates in college. We help each other back then. Now we have different lives but we know that we can still count on each other no matter what.
@vijigopi (991)
• United States
14 Sep 08
You are so right. But what is real need? I have not been in a crisis for sometime now(touch wood) so I haven't asked my friends for help because I am not in need. But I am sure that if I am in need, they will be there for me. But between that time that you become needy, do we really take the initiative to get in touch with our friends and just share our day-to-day lives? I guess very few people in the world have such time in the world to spend time with their friends after they get married and have a job and a family life to deal with. But does that mean that they don't love us or the friendship is gone? I think about my friends very often... atleast twice a day, but getting in touch with them is becoming quite rare these days, like once a month, or some as long as once in 6-8 months and so on. But these are really close friends, not acqaintances that I am talking about. We love these people whether we are in touch with them or not, and that love does not change if they are our real friends.
@Margarit (3677)
• Philippines
14 Sep 08
real friends are really few, because only you will know they are real friend when you can count on them when you need them. They just not come and go but they are one who is always be loyal to you.
• United States
14 Sep 08
My be you expected too much out of your friends .. I may be wrong. Friends have their own personal lives. We need to give them their space and expect less of their time. Too much expectation leads to disappointment. Just because some friends spend more time with you it does not make them better friends. What matter are the attitude and concern they have for you. This is my opinion.
@Luvxoni (135)
• United States
12 Sep 08
Not to many people have a ton of "real friends". It's typically a small group the you can really depend on. I have a lot of friends, as should be, because I'm a friendly person....lol I only have 4 real friends, and I've know them since I was 5yrs old. From time to time I have friends that will do extra friendly things, because they're nice and have a heart (they're human). Still, I know, my "real friends" will always be there, even if we don't see each, or speak for years. I know they have their own lives, but when things gets gritty, they're just like family back on the scene.
@MissGia (955)
• United States
12 Sep 08
They are few and far between. You can have 50 friends but only 2 of them are probably reliable and are there for you if you need them. In my 23 years of life i've only come across maybe 3-4 really good friends.
@scorpio19 (1363)
12 Sep 08
The friends I can count on are the ones I've known for many years, they have been there for me and not judged me, I mam go without seeing or been in touch with them for a few months but we always know that we are there for each other if we should need it.