how long does it usually take you to get over someone?

@jhl930 (3605)
United States
September 11, 2008 3:50pm CST
i know that most of the time it takes us awhile to get over someone that we are with for awhile but its different for me sometimes...if i am with someone for quiet awhile then naturally it will take some time to get over that person but if you are with them for only a short time then it may not take you that long to get over them honestly, i think its just different times for different people so i was just wondering about all of you, how long does it usually take you to get over someone completely? thanks for taking the time to review my discussion and hopefully i will get answers soon, i hope that you all had a great day so far and i hope that the remainder of your day is good as well, and once again thanks for taking the time to read my discussion!
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@elitess (5072)
• Ipswich, England
11 Sep 08
Well i guess in my case it depends on a different number of factors and their intensity: - the time we've been together - how much we loved each other - the reason of the break in the relationship and the list could go on... but i guess the minimum would be a few days...
@chrislotz (8203)
• Canada
31 Jan 09
Good start of a list. But I am sure we could all add a few more things. But a few days would not be enough for me. I give my all into a relationship so it would take me at least a few weeks. hehe
@chrislotz (8203)
• Canada
31 Jan 09
It depends on the situation but I think the normal time to get over someone that you have only been seeing for a couple months, a few weeks. Sometimes the best way to get over someone is to jump right back into the dating game and meeting some other people. I know, easier said than done, myself. I was with my common-in-law husband for the last 12 years and I have left him 8 months ago and I am still not over him. But then we see each other often. I live in Calgary and he lives in Winnipeg and he drives out to see me every four weeks or so and I have flown out to see him three times. So in a way we aren't really broken up and that is probably why I can't get over him. In some ways I want to forget about him and go on but sometimes I get scared and I don't want to lose him. But I have gotten over a divorce in the past and that took me about two years to get over and admit to myself that it was for the best,so this one may take awhile too. I have to make up my mind and just do it, whatever it is. Alrighty then, talk to you later my friend, Have a good mylotting day, Chris
12 Sep 08
Well for me when i'm really hurt it took me like year or like few months... and i cant really go on to a relationship coz i'm afraid to get hurt before..
@tatiana07 (498)
• Philippines
12 Sep 08
it takes me a long time to forget someone especially when i'm with him for a long time and shared good and bad memoirs..but its still depends on the length of time you've been with each other, if its just for a while then less than a month you can get over already..as well as the intensity and the reason why you're not with that someone anymore..if he hurts you that much then you can forget him easily coz you don't want him in your system anymore..(",)
• India
11 Sep 08
ya its the same for me too its always hard for me to get to forget some one with whom i have stayed a while. for the guys whom i have just met i may forget the easily by the next day. but with those with whom i am attached emotionally i can never forget them. its just different for different people. it all depends on how you look at things. i take it a bit emotionally and i think from my heart so it takes me longer time to forget compared to others,
@cream97 (29169)
• United States
11 Sep 08
For me, it could take many years, depending on how much I really loved and cared for them.. If not that much, then, I could get over them as easily as I fell for them..