Did you ever BEG at one point in your life to make him stay?

@kean28 (226)
Philippines
September 11, 2008 6:45pm CST
i did...because i love him too much i cant go on without him :(...tonight he finally said goodbye..all of the memories that we had together he one by one deleted it all..deleted our pictures, our videos..deleted his friendster account and deleted yahoo..the only way to reach him..he is changing numbers:( i feel so devastated..i feel like i am dying bit by bit..i begged for all time sake but he ddn't listen to my heart screaming begging please..."DON'T GO".... i'm so down i feel like i'm dying...
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@diacedez (177)
• United States
11 Sep 08
its hard for u im sure.. but there is no point in begging anyone to stay.. cuz if they dont feel the same the relationship wont work.. im a firm believer in 'things happen for a reason'.. im sure u'll find 'the one'.. you seem young still.. just live life n keep ya eyes open.. dont get too depressed bout this.. u'll need time to get over it but u will.. trust me..
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@kean28 (226)
• Philippines
12 Sep 08
the only thing thats keeping us apart was because of the past that we couldn't let go
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@Abrynn (54)
• United States
12 Sep 08
Ive been there.... feb 14th of 2007 my husband sits up in bed at 3 am and says im leaving..... I was shocked and upset but we did have some problems and atm i was like ok we talk for about 3 hrs went to bed. The next day it hit me. I spent like the next month BEGGING and crying and taking all the blame and saying i would change (it wasnt all my fault never is) but its all i could do was BEG and BEG and cry. Finally after talking to so many ppl and watching my health go down the tubes (i look at pictures from then and wonder who that is) i just couldnt do it anymore and i said fine go. It was hard and it hurts way too much its the worst. it took a while but i found a great guy who is so much better for me and looking back i think wow why was i willing to take all the blame for sumthing that wasnt all my fault. Im so sorry for the pain you are goin through ive been there feeling lost and hopless but it wont stay that way i promise just look in the mirror smile and remind yourself "this too shall pass" Good luck
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@kean28 (226)
• Philippines
12 Sep 08
its so hard and it hurts so badly! i feel like i'm dying and inside i was screaming...i took all the fault and i know at times i was at fault for assuming negaive things but that was because of the past...we had our differences, same as we had a lot to through the past...i feel so helpless..God help me!
@Abrynn (54)
• United States
12 Sep 08
yeah i understand i cried for so long and had many sleepless nights i wish there was sumthing i could do to help you. Did he give you a reason that he is leaving? I dont mean to be nosey so if you dont wanna answer thats fine. Im so sorry /me gives a really big hug
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@kean28 (226)
• Philippines
12 Sep 08
he said its time to move on because we just keep on hurting each other and that we are becoming a bad person towards each other coz eveytime we fight we always bad mouthin each other:(
@tatiana07 (498)
• Philippines
12 Sep 08
that's hurt! loving someone so much who doesn't love you in return..but thats the reality of life..some may go and some stay, you have to be strong in all means.. me, i didn't beg for my ex to stay when we parted ways..what's the use of begging he don't love me anymore, i don't want him to pity me so we broke up with my head and chin up..i don't want to lose my pride eventhough i love him that much but the fact that he want out then i set him free..that's love.. (",) happy mylotting!
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@kean28 (226)
• Philippines
12 Sep 08
we still love each other..he does still and he was crying with me..the only reason why he is saying goodbye was because of our fights due to the past:(
@marababe (2513)
• Philippines
12 Sep 08
I don't mean to sound bitter or anything but do you honestly believe that's the reason he broke up with you? About your fights? Even if that's it, that's not ALL of it. That's what my ex told me also and the next day, he was with another girl already. THE girl that's causing all our fights then. Well anyway, keep your head up and think positive. It hurts I know but you have to gather all of your strength and fight the impending breakdown.
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@kean28 (226)
• Philippines
12 Sep 08
i believe in him for his reasons...there s no third party involve as per our relationship we indeed had a very painful past...its too complicated to elaborate but i know his reasons are true somehow...
• Philippines
12 Sep 08
Oh my, i have been there and i did exactly just like that. But then you should know that there are cases worse than yours. Anyhow, what you are feeling now is quite normal - because you love him. The "begging" part is actually a form of denial. You've got to try to get over him as fast as you can or else you will be carrying baggage and unresolved issue and bring it with you in your next relationship. It is devastating, indeed. But believe me, you will heal if you want to. DOn't hang on to empty promises (or what ifs) and that maybe-we-will-reconcile thoughts. Because you will not. That's a fact. He broke up with you, it is over. This may really sound tough, but i think its what you need to know. There's always life after a break up. If you want to know a little about how i dealt with mine, you may check out my blog linked to my profile. THEre's an article there about a "bad tooth." If it hurts you everyday, extract it. PM me if you need a sort of a big sister/online friend to "talk" with.
• Philippines
12 Sep 08
And i have just noticed that some guy here who replied wants to make friends with you...open up dear. As the old folk say, "there are a lot of fishes in the ocean" and "he's not the only one wearing pants."
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@dawnald (84132)
• Shingle Springs, California
12 Sep 08
Sometimes you can still love somebody and yet be done with the relationship. Due to fighting or breaking up too often or different ideas or whatever. The best thing to do is to look at the things in the relationship that did not work and not look at it through rose colored glasses. It hurts and it will take a long time but if he's determined for it to be over, it's over. You probably need a good cry and then you need to do whatever it takes to get over it. Don't chase after him. It will just push him away.
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@checapricorn (16072)
• United States
12 Sep 08
[i]Hi kean, I understand you feeling and I know it's painful but time will heal..He decided that and you have to respect him also as well as love yourself...DO not force him for the things or relationship that he didn't like or treasure anymore..I know it's not easy for you but, just hangout with friends, do something that you love so that you will not have any idle time! In the long run, this experience will help you to become more stronger in life![/i]
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• Philippines
12 Sep 08
I know it's very difficult but believe me, it's not worth crying over spilled milk.It's his loss not yours. This happened to me the hard way. We were together for almost 8 years and thinking of getting married when I learned he got a girl pregnant, a girl he's been seeing for almost 3 years even when he says I'm the only one. I had my intuition but I didn't want us fighting. I love him too much. I wanted to win him over.I thought I'd die.I couldn't sleep.I couldn't eat. I must have easily lost 10 lbs in one week.I begged him to choose me and he did (when he was infront of me).I confronted the girl and confirmed his lies. Finally, I let go and the other girl let go too. He had nobody.(hahaha) He tried to woo me but I was way too numb.I realized, darn he's ugly anyway and I'm so stupid.I wouldn't pity him again even if he crawls on his belly. I really didn't get mad at him and this made him even more miserable. It's been 7 years since we broke off and I still think that was the BEST decision I ever made (dumping him that is). So don't you worry Kean, you'll meet someone tonnes better than your loser BF.
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@belk89 (1104)
• Philippines
12 Sep 08
Ive been there before and i know how you feel. But believe me time heals all wounds. One day youll realized hey am i crazy? and youll start laughing when you realized you deserved someone better than he is. When you start to realized that there are a lot of things instore for you and you finally see your worth as a woman and as a person youll realized...I should have not beg him to stay. I have learn my lessons in life. I swallow my pride sometimes when i love someone but when i realized that i did my best and still he wants to let go. I close the door for good and move on with my life. You'll see one day he will realized his mistakes of letting you go and it is time for you to laugh at him and say its too late i already have a change of heart... It takes time for sure but believe in God and continue to pray. God really helps you when you are in need. He will help you heal and move on. Just be patient and be strong. One day you will meet the right person for you. And when that time comes youll be glad that he left you.
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• United States
12 Sep 08
Awww you poor girl. I know the heartache your speaking of all to well. You will find love again, and it may seem like the hurt will last forever but the hurt will get to be less and less and you will be okay. Everything happens for a reason, including this... maybe it's because your meant to find a new and better relationship that will make you happy once again. I wish you the best of luck :) hugs.
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@rainmark (4307)
12 Sep 08
I did once,That's the stupid thing i ver done. I put down my self and pride to asked someone to stay with me. Then irealized, it's really wrong, i was just carried away of my emotions. It's becaue you feel sometimes that you are alone. Afraid that you might found someone to love you and make you happy. That time, he is the only one i think about. I don't want him to let go.But after all, i realized how daft i was to fooled with someone who never care me. Im so thankful that i am so happy now with the wonderful man.
• Philippines
12 Sep 08
hi.. i have experienced that thing also i we are the same although i'm a guy but still i felt like what have you felt also.. my girlfriend was so very angry mithme then, she decided to broke up with me, then, i got angry, i felt i'm dyin.., then, i beg for another chance because i love her so much .. i love her more than mylifeand i dont want to lose her...
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@harlwerks (110)
• Philippines
12 Sep 08
hey may i know your name??? im from philippines 24 male how are you today??? i just wanted to make friends with you can you be my friend here? im a beginner here pls be my friend thnks a lot take care
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@marababe (2513)
• Philippines
12 Sep 08
I think I know exactly how you feel kean28. This may not be the right time to tell you this but every thing's going to be okay. Believe me. It hurts a lot and it sucks but thing's will turn out great in the end. You may not realize it now but you will in the long run. You'll realize a lot of things about him, yourself, your relationship and why it has to end. For now, cry all you want but remember to also smile once in a while, don't give him the satisfaction of seeing you miserable without him (although you think you are). That happened to me 2 years and 3 months ago and trust me, I didn't handle it well for about a month or two. I was crying like hell and my eyes were always swollen, I didn't eat--literally, and I keep on calling him and texting him and take this, during the last conversation we had (June 26,2006, he broke up with me June 16) I cried hard in front of him and when he stood up and was about to leave I told him: "DON'T LEAVE ME" in between tears. That didn't change anything though. After that, I came to realize a lot of things and it wasn't all that good and I realized how much he just loves himself and that he's too immature for a serious relationship or to be in a commitment anyway and I don't deserve him. Don't feel so down for so long. Just open your heart and your mind to a lot of things and possibilities in life. After you feel tired from crying and from feeling down, you should try feeling positive about the whole break up and enjoy yourself, be with your friends and your family, have fun, laugh, whatever used to make you happy minus that ex of yours.
12 Sep 08
Well for me girl...... As you said you are always fighting... due to the past A relationship will not work if you are still putting yourself to the time that both of you had mistakes and cant move on to that.... Well love is better in 2nd time around... but still it did not work for your partner. Well for him he is tired already and fed up maybe on things are going... don't you think you are tired also? and if that you are still going to be together do you think you will be happy if you are still on both nightmares as you have before. Think girl....
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@jstmarfz (1499)
• United States
12 Sep 08
Hello. I am sorry to know how you feel right now. But one thing I want to tell you, Don't ever feel bad of doing what you did coz it was just a way of letting him know that you love him. I have begged several times with my bf which happened to be my husband now. For 3 years of on and off relationship he was one who kept saying to end our relationship without any enough reasons to tell me. Break ups, arguments, crying times were countless for both of us. It was very hard for us to be apart for 3 years and just been together once for 1week. He cheated on me once which he ended before I knew it. That was the first time I was the one and had the courage to tell him I had enough, my life was very miserable without him and knowing that he's flirting with someone. I tried to be understanding and open minded. He begged for forgiveness and another chance, pride wasn't included in our attitude when it comes to our relationship. We promised to bury the painful past that caused both of us and face the present and future plans together. After all those sacrifices and keep moving on and not turning with the past, although sometimes we do but we just laughed about it. The times we cried, argued and broke up, it made us realized how long we have been through.
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@chai37 (142)
• Philippines
12 Sep 08
i am usually a proud person, if a guy doesn't want me anymore i would just simply say, FINE, to hell with you. I never beg..i usually just cry specially if i really love the person. So, the sooner you get over this, the sooner you'll feel better. Stop torturing yourself, go on with your life it's better that way. enjoy life, and start dating again! :)
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@myahw20 (1116)
• Canada
12 Sep 08
I know how it feels. I had to beg one guy before to stay with me but it did not work. I found out that he is not worth it anyways. And now he is the one almost begging to be back with me but I have already moved on and I am already happy with my new found love that hopefully will last forever. All I can tell you now might be the same as every one else. Trust me it is not the end of the world. Right now you may think it is but one day when you least expect a new love will come knocking on your door and sweep you of your feet.
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