I can't seem to stop!

United States
September 11, 2008 7:00pm CST
I must lose weight. I know it. If I am going to reduce the amount of pain I have every day I must lose weight. There is no getting around it. And I know how to lose weight. I've done it many times in the past - and always gained it back and more. It isn't from lack of knowledge that I'm so grossly overweight. While I know I must eat healthier and less I can't seem to stop eating. I start out with a healthy breakfast, a protein cereal and fruit. I'm having to eat bananas right now because of the involvement of low potassium with the pain but I prefer berries. Then I can usually make it for four or five hours without getting hungry. Then lunchtime arrives and I am either busy with something or I'm eating out and end up with high carb meal. Bad. Then I'm hungry before dinner and find something to snack on and have to fix dinner or we eat out. My spouse doesn't like many healthy foods so I either eat unhealthy or have to fix two meals. I don't like fixing different meals at the same time and I don't like cooking for one anyway so it is easy for me to just not do the healthy choice. And most evenings I'm hungry all evening. Every time I eat when or more than is healthy I KNOW I'm doing it. But I can't seem to stop. I'm wondering about the lap band surgery. Anyone on myLot had it? How did it work or not work for you?
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@Sheepie (3118)
• United States
12 Sep 08
I don't think anyone can "not" lose weight. yOu need to set up a plan, a long time plan, and you need to make it impossible for yourself to find any bad foods in your house. Fill up on fiber and whole grains, and drink a lot of water. I think you should try again. Surgeries are very risky and I don't think it is worth it much of time.
• United States
12 Sep 08
Oh I know HOW to lose weight. I just can't seem to get committed to doing it, even though I know so much depends on it. I have a very good low fat high protein eating plan that works over the long term. I've done it for more than a year the last time and lost sixty pounds. But I "fell off the wagon" and gained it all back plus some. I can't seem to get back on it. Even if there are no "bad" foods in the house I will either take something that is normally healthy and eat too much of it or corrupt it by adding butter or sugar or whatever. Or I'll just go out an buy a Frosty or a Blizzard or some such thing. I'm really out of control with this. I am not in favor of surgery either. But what if I can't get back "on the wagon" any other way?
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@Sheepie (3118)
• United States
12 Sep 08
I think you just need to give yourself a chance. Maybe you just need a clean start. There's no reason you can't do it, I don't think you have any health problems that prevent you from doing so, and you should be thankful for that.
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@whittby (3073)
• United States
13 Sep 08
I understand where you are coming from completely. I lost 20 pounds and I'm now at the point where it will be creeping back on again. I just said to myself - I have to eat healthy and didn't I go into the kitchen right after that and make a bagel with butter. My solution is to go to the grocery store today and make meals right away to put into the refrigerator. Salads, whole grain dishes - lean meat already cooked, fruit salads, jello, stuff without added fat. If it leaps out of the frige at me, I'll eat it instead of snacking. The salad has to be all put together for me - not the ingredients sitting in there. This works for me. Starting today.
@whittby (3073)
• United States
27 Sep 08
Thank you for BR. I hope your diet is going well. I'm still a work in progress doing good 50% of the time.
@GardenGerty (96670)
• Marion, Kansas
12 Sep 08
I have not had the surgery. You have to be a certain amount overweight before they will do it. You need to value yourself enough to make an eating plan. Find a place to record your plan, or what you do eat. Write down what exercise you do. I have a site where I do this and it makes me very conscious of what I do eat. I can name some other sites as well. The reason I say that is that not every site is good for every person, and I do not want you to think I only want you as a referral. I am a fine one to talk about plans. I have just been doing the record keeping for four, or maybe three days. The site I am on pays me for managing my health, though. Perhaps if you listed some of the foods your husband does like some people on mylot could suggest how to eat healthier without having to fix two different meals.
• United States
12 Sep 08
I really am uncertain about surgery. I looked at an internet site about the lap band surgery. While I'm heavy enough to qualify I'm much older than they recommend. I guess I will ask my doctor about any recent advances in weight management that would help me get back on the right path. I just am not feeling emotionally strong enough to do the hard work that I know is required. I have signed up at a nearby senior center to use their exercise room. Hopefully that will get me motivated to start some strengthening exercises that will help me move more comfortably. Maybe that will be enough to get me going on the healthy diet as well.
@Aurone (4758)
• United States
13 Sep 08
I feel your pain. I fall into the obese category as well, so much so that I can't even get good health insurance and my husband is worried about my health. I am trying to exercise more and watch what I eat, but it is hard. I would only use surgery as a last resort as there are a lot of complications with that kind of stuff.
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• United States
12 Sep 08
I do not know about lap band surgery but I do not think you would make a very good candidate for it. I lost 50 lbs when I was in hospital and rehab I went from a size 22 down to a 10. Now almost 3 years later I am still a size 10 because I liked how I felt, no health problems, no high blood pressure in fact no medications needed. BUT I made a commitment to eat healthy and it was a complete lifestyle change. Reading over what you list as the reasons/excuses why you do not lose weight is because you do not commit to your good intention. Even lap band surgery does not guarantee you will lose weight and keep it off if you do not have self control and commitment to a NEW WAY OF LIFE.
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