How Well Do you Really Know Your Partner?

United States
September 11, 2008 11:05pm CST
I always see that some many people say they know there partner very well, However i want to know how many people really know their partner? I must say a lot of people really think they know there partner but really dont know them as well as they think. My EX boyfriend i dated for 2 years i thought i knew him really well and in some ways i did but not all. He was the type of guy that was sweet and charming and helpful but when it came down to a female he thought was attractive didnt exactly bother me its just when i wasnt around he was a bit to sweet to them if you know what i mean. How how many people really know there partner??
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14 responses
• Canada
12 Sep 08
I believe when we are with someone or even friends with someone we feel that we really know them because of what we see , what we are told and how they treat us but the truth is no one can no anyone for absolute sure because you can never be sure what one is hiding from you or the illusion they are tryng so hard for you to see . We have to go on what we believe and what our instincts tell us about a person but I don't believe that anyone really can know for sure what anyone else is truely like . If this were the case we would never see the divorce rate as high as it is or friends that were best friends no longer liking each other years later .
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• United States
12 Sep 08
i agree with that..i jsut always wondered why everyone or almost everyone thinks they know there partner or even friends for that matter when they really dont...The friend or partner only shows you what they want you to see and even beleive for that matter.
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@ketybhagat (4125)
• India
12 Sep 08
Knowing your partner does not mean in the ordinary way, that is what he likes, or how he sleeps and his nature to some extent. Knowing your partner is to go to the core of that persons heart, which is very difficult. We think we know our partners, but actually nobdoy knows the other toally. Very rarely will you find a couple who are atune both physically and mentally. Those are the very few lucky ones, the others are just ok.
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• United States
12 Sep 08
I was with my ex for five years and a half and I thought I knew him like the back of my hand and the reality was that I did not because when a life changing situation came upon us he reacted in a form I never thought he would ever. Well, all I have to say is that I do not think you can ever really know a partner very well because when you are in love you tend to block out reality (blindfold) and then end up seeing reality and true colors when times get hard.
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• United States
12 Sep 08
Oh my i so agree with you on that... When times get hard is when the true colors start to unfold and you start to see reality and how your partner really is in rough situations.SO agree with you.
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• United States
12 Sep 08
My question is why are they not there true self and why must we have to play mystery games with them and just wait to see what happens..
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• United States
12 Sep 08
you know ive asked myself that many of times because in reality they know you'll find out how they really are sooner or later but why not jsut be honest about how you really are from the get go instead of playing some little mind game for us to figure it out in the long run kinda stupid if you ask me or if i must say so myself.
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• United States
12 Sep 08
Well, after 30 years together, I know him pretty well. I am sure I don't know everything about him, as he still has the ability to surprise me, knock my socks off, blow me away, move me to tears, and catch me completely off guard. In this case, I think not knowing everything about him is a good thing.
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• United States
12 Sep 08
i can agree with that even though sometimes it isnt always a good thing to not know everything about your partner. However it is still good to know that there is still that spark to know they can still catch u off guard and surprize you as when you first met and started dating or what not. But sometimes not knowing everything about someone can be hard to take in and hard to trust them afterwards.
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• United States
12 Sep 08
This is true. It is not always a good thing. Especially if what you don't know about them can hurt you.
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@candysky (855)
• Malaysia
12 Sep 08
I dun think u can noe very well for your partner... as for me, I though i noe my partner very well... but sometime, i will disappointed bcoz he is not wat i think he is... i think tat is bcoz i though i noe him very well n i noe wat he thinking but actually i'm wrong... so sometime bcoz of tis v will hv argument... so, i think no matter u noe ur partner how long, dun ever expect tat u noe ur partner very well, sometime it will b the started of the argument....
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• United States
12 Sep 08
I can confidently say that I know pretty much everything there is to know about my partner. Sure, there's the occasional "what the hell was he thinking?" but that's pretty normal since in the end, you are individuals and you do think differently, but all in all, I know him better than anyone in the world. Even himself at times.
• United States
12 Sep 08
Thanks for the comment and great to know others views on the topic. However i must say no one can know there partner better than there mom if i must say so myself considering thats who rasied them but then again what the parents dont know want hurt them lol
@icegermany (2524)
• India
13 Sep 08
i can tell that i really know my partner, my husband is very loyal to me and its not that we have to stay together for years to know your partner but you know the persons behaviour and his nature reflects his attitude and the type of person he is. i can never think of my husband doing this as i know him well, he loves me and cares for me. yes only when concerned to his parents i can tell that he can take their side sometimes instead of mine. but the kind of habbits you are speaking about he dont have and i really thank god for that and i feel that to continue how he is now. i can really understand if a person does like how your boyfriend has did it really hurts, if they cant tolerate a guy with you then how can they expect you to tolerate a girl with them. i just think that then he is just not loyal to you and might be he is just playing with you, please dont mind my friend but i am telling you what i think. coz if a person is loyal to you if will never do this however beautiful girl let him see, he will just be yours. so better take care if you are serious in the relation.
• United States
13 Sep 08
Thank you for shareing your opinion and thoughts on this topic just wondering how everyone felt or thought about the topic and if they can honestly say they knew there partner
• Indonesia
13 Sep 08
Two human have two minds, tho feels, two behaviours, two characters, and so many thing different. All we can do is receive our partner just the way they are. Every people has a unique character..isn't it? I think i didn't knew him really..but i try to know him really.. I think i didn't know my partner very well..but i know my partner well.., and he know me well..it's enough for me.. And finnaly, I think i know my partner very well better than others know him actually..
• United States
13 Sep 08
Thank you for replying your comment and opinions to the questions. Happy my lotting
@belk89 (1103)
• Philippines
12 Sep 08
I know my partner well but as to what extent i dont know really...I know he might still be hiding some flaws from me. But as you are getting to know each other day after day youll began to see some attitude that you never have seen before when you are still not living on the same roof. I know he is not a womanizer since even his mother told me that he stick to the relationship. I never seen him checking out other girls when we are in a party. Though i saw girls checking him out lol But i guess if you really trust your partner and you know in your heart he loves you. Thats all that really matters to me. I know he loves me because he had to go through a lot of ups and down in our relationship yet he remain faithful to me. I dont mind if he will show more of his bad sides later on. As long as it has nothing to do with him having an affair with someone lol. I am the type of person who can accept anything except a cheating and violent person.
• United States
13 Sep 08
I agree with you... However my ex's mother told me oh he aint the cheating type and so on i think a week after we had started dating i caught him out with another girl i was like dang ya mama dont know you thats for sure but i forgive but never forget and he never lived that down for a year i held that against him finally we over came that but the relationship wasnt were it should have been.
• Philippines
12 Sep 08
i've been with my current partner for 10 years now and i know I know him well enough. but now that he is out of the country and we don't get to talk often, i feel that there are things going on with his life that i know little about. he's out there exploring the world while i'm here just doing the usual stuff. i feel like he's growing and i'm stuck and i don't know if he's stillthe same person i fell in love with when he comes back....
• United States
12 Sep 08
i can relate to that in some ways. When a persons partner gos away for like an example "Army,Marine,AirForce,Etc.." ANd your partner has to leave for a while and when they come back sometimes it seems they arent the same as they was whent hey left.
@bombshell (11266)
• Germany
15 Sep 08
i was engage 3 yrs and it was not enough to know him well.but now we are almost 9 yrs of our marriage yes i know him very well.
@rekcart83 (149)
• Philippines
13 Sep 08
Well me and my girlfriend have been together for almost 7 months now and I think I'm really starting to get to know her well. She's just so predictable and easy to read. She doesn't hide anything about herself. She's so open. One thing that I'm having problem coping with is her sensitivity to things. I can't even tell her a joke cause I know that she'd take it seriously and then just cry or something like that. But all in all I like her that way and she's so cute.
@davipiero (178)
• Indonesia
12 Sep 08
Well, it's difficult to say that you're really know your partner. It is easier to claim that. It is impossible to know all about our partner. Why? because human will always change, we don't stay the same. Change is good, no change, we die.
12 Sep 08
well yes we really know are partner very well... but sometimes there is also some surprises in there personality that we don't expect. But still that is part of life that we should handle