What To Do? What To Do?
September 12, 2008 3:24am CST
Over the last couple of days I've really been at a loss for words. I'd like to be of some comfort and assistance to my Mother-in-law, but I just don't know what to tell her or do for her that would help put her mind at ease. You see, her jerk of a husband, went behind her back and took out a $10,000 loan against their home and property, so he could pay to get his good for nothing son from a previous marriage out of jail. Right now, neither of them are working, she's going to school trying to get her degree in accounting, plus taking care of her disabled brother. Her husband has been laid off, and between the three of them, they are barely making enough to get by with every month. She would have not known about it, if it were not for her brother telling her about what her husband had done. She got the papers yesterday and sure enough someone had signed her name to the contract. So I'm thinking there might be a way she could alert the court or however that is handled when a signature is forged, to have this loan retracted in some manner. This has caused a big ruckus in the family, and my father-in-law's side of the family has made my mom-in-law feel real crappy about not just going along with it. Of course my husband and I are on my mom-in-law's side. We'd really like to be there for her and be of more comfort to her, but we just don't know how. Any advice on this matter would be helpful. Thanks in advance.
12 Sep 08
Whoah, this one is a biggy because is she proves the signature is not hers then her hubby will be done for fraud and I take it she still loves him and wants to be with him and the son straight back to jail I guess, though not necessarily if he was unaware of how his father obtained the money. I can imagine it is causing all sorts of problems within the family but at the same time her husband done wrong and she now has the worry of a secured loan that she never signed for on her back. I would get her to go to Citizans Advice and see what her options are but whatever the course of action recommended it could lead to her husband ending up in jail too for forging her signature. Good luck, I feel for all involved in this one as the husbands reasons were because he loves his son no matter how bad the son may be. Ellie :D
• United States
13 Sep 08
Hello Ellie, Thanks for your response to this matter. Personally, though I don't want to seem like a bad person for saying this, my father-in-law deserves to be in jail right along with his son. This is not the first time he's forged her signature behind her back to get something he wanted, but the first time he did she let it slide, cause at the time he had a job and they could afford it. I could probably understand if this was the first time his son has been in jail, but since becoming an adult, his son has been in and out of jail for a number of different reasons. I don't know how much love is left between the two of them, cause since the time I have lived here in Kentucky, my father-in-law has moved out three times, just because he couldn't get his way. He's sometimes very childish in the way he acts and personally I'm surprised my Mother-in-law has put up with him for as long as she has. I will pass on to her the advice about seeking some legal advice and what options she has. Thanks again!
12 Sep 08
This is a stinker. Her husband has forged her signature, so if she decides to go to court, then he has had it. She is in such a situation, its like from the frying pan into the fire. Both ways, she will get burnt. If she has your support, then I think she should go ahead with the matter. Make the picture clear to her, that her husband can land in jail too. If as you say, he is no good, then she will be better off without him. If she does not want to harm him, then she will just have to keep mum and bear it all. I think you should urge her to do what is right, for tomorrow she can be without a roof over her head. All th e b est.
• United States
13 Sep 08
Hello Ketybhagat, Thanks for your response. I talked to her just a few moments ago, and believe she is going forward with court along with getting a legal separation from him. Not a full divorce just yet, since her emotional state isn't ready to be going through all of that just yet. But she is just needing a way to get her name off of things, so if her husband screws something up, she won't be going down with him. This isn't the first time he's done something like this behind her back and using her name, but the first time she just let it slide. Not this time though, cause it could cause her to lose her home. In any case, whatever she decides to do, my husband and I will continue to be on her side and help her through this tough time as best we can. Thanks again!