Would you be able to cope with a mentally retarded child?

@Sheepie (3121)
United States
September 12, 2008 9:10pm CST
I'm not sure I would be able to take it, I really want to have a child someday that will grow up to be a functioning part of society, someone who can inspire other people and dream big. I'd be depressed if I had a child who spent all day licking the floor. I would still love the child, but I wouldn't be able to take it. I would just have to send it somewhere else. I would abort it if I was able to in time.
2 responses
@cripfemme (7719)
• United States
4 Dec 08
First off, mentally retarded is not the proper word. Educated people say developmentally delayed, cognitively impaired, or mentally challenged. I have friends who have that label. I, myself, am in a wheelchair (my mental status is fine). My friends are loving people who can learn things (it might just take them longer, they advocate for themselves, many have jobs, and live on their own with support staff to help them do things they can't do on their own. I live on my own with support staff to take care of my physical needs- using the bathroom, dressing, cooking, housekeeping). My friends don't spend time "licking the floor". If I were to have a kid with cognitive impairments, I would spend lots of time teaching them to self-advocate and be as independent as possible. Despite my physical disabilities I think I am capable of parenting such a person. Should you ever have a child in this situation, send them to me. I'll make sure they have good life and be a great mom, I assure you. This whole discussion is an example of stereotypes our society has about people with disabilities. It's kind of disturbing.
@Sheepie (3121)
• United States
5 Dec 08
Mentally retarded is not the proper word? Mentally, meaning in the noggin, and retarded, meaning, delayed. Well, I would not dare to take on a commitment I wouldn't be ready to keep for years, until the kid was 18, or probably older, even. I just wouldn't be able to live that way. The more impaired the child, the less I would be able to take it. If the child was any less able up there than say, Forrest Gump, I just wouldn't be able to do it. I wouldn't be able to meet the child's needs.
@cripfemme (7719)
• United States
9 Dec 08
I have spent a lot time with this sort of person. More, I assume than you. Every person, no better how impaired can learn and become more independent. It's really about to nurture.
@lanina911 (104)
• United States
6 Dec 08
I personallyy don't know if I would be able to handle it. I want for kids one day, and I'm normal and I know what its like. SO I CAN ONLY IMAGINE the teasing my child would go through. I would probalbly abort but with a good reason and heart. I have known one mental person and every one treats here nice (Kinda) but imagine how she must feel knowing that she can't talk to us because well she is dumb. Not dumb as in stupid but dumb as in not being able to speak.
@Sheepie (3121)
• United States
6 Dec 08
See, yes. That is what I mean. I wouldn't want to abort the child because I would think "Ew a retard." because I would never do that. I wouldn't be able to take it. I don't think there could be any benefits to birthing a child with a condition like that. If I could not connect with a child, I might find it really hard to love them. I don't know. I think it's more than I would want to put myself through, and someone who would have to live that way. They might not be able to live a full life.