Live-in first before marriage?

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@alecz23 (486)
Philippines
September 13, 2008 4:36am CST
What's your opinion regarding living in first and getting married? Is it morally right or wrong?
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10 responses
@zeny_zion (1284)
• Philippines
13 Sep 08
im not into live in. ive been brought up in a very conservative way. marrying is very important to me before anything else. besides, ive to be sure and protect myself. most of the guys if they got what they want youll be busted next time. he'll live you because he got it already. the suspense is not there anymore.
@alecz23 (486)
• Philippines
13 Sep 08
well I think it's really up to the couple to make that certain decision and in your case try not to prejudice and I believe there's still a nice guy (like me) LOL left in the world...
@Ravenladyj (22992)
• United States
13 Sep 08
For me its not a matter of beign morally right or wrong...I dont think "morals" come into the equation at all really..As far as I'm concerned its just common sense since truth be told you only REALLY get to know someone after living with them for a few months ya know...Thats been my experience at least..
@alecz23 (486)
• Philippines
13 Sep 08
well you may have a point there and I really haven't tried it yet but I'm making it to the point I get to know the person really well before I could live together...
@James72 (26832)
• Australia
13 Sep 08
I can appreciate that in many cultures this is just not acceptable but I do personally feel that there is no harm int his at all. If anything it can be a positive step in the relationship because it allows the two people to understand each other better before they make a life long committment. It would be a very difficult situation to be in if you were to get married and THEN find out that you do not live and function well together at all!
@alecz23 (486)
• Philippines
13 Sep 08
well I get your point, well it do has a lot of advantages but still as we all know there is a part which makes live in a wrong idea.... thanks for your opinion and happy mylotting!!!
@iyah10 (4116)
• Kuwait
14 Sep 08
We are very much aware about this living in together without proper blessings or before marriage is not a good example to our children and it is Morally wrong in anyway within the eyes of the people or it is in the eyes of our God...so I do not agree on this situation.
14 Sep 08
My opinion is that living in before getting married is morally wrong. I don't think that living together will really make you know the person. I think that dating should be an adventure that you both take. You get to know one another by spending time togher and then going home with an anticipation of seeing each other the next time. Planning what you will say, what you will wear and where you might go. And marriage will be and even greater adventure that you will take together. Living together just takes the fun out of that. When you live tother without being married you don't have that commitment and resposibility.
@mands61123 (2099)
14 Sep 08
Well seen as we are not married and we have been living together since about 6 weeks in i'm not all that bothered. It's a committed relationship neither of us cheat or hurt the other person and we love each other. Love and trust in my opinion are the important factors not marriage. I'm happy and don't intend to get married i don't need a piece of paper or ring to tell me and the world that i really love someone it is no one elses business. It's 11 years in december and i say if it ain't broke don't fix it you do whatever is best for a suits the both of you not what is socially acceptable.
@ace_ivann (326)
• Philippines
14 Sep 08
Hi alecz! Living in first before marriage, morally right or wrong? Definitely, it is morally wrong. It is against our moral standards. But of course, what is happening now is that many people are engaging in this kind arrangement. Living in before marriage is like testing out if everything works out well when the couple is in the same roof. This is perhaps practical for some now for they can just escape or get out from the situation when everything's doesn't end up very well. So, it's easier to run away from obligations. When couples end up tying the knot, it would not be that easy for them to separate. They would always have to think over and over again when things don't go right. That is why, living in before marriage is a practical option for some. But morally right? Of course, not!
@metschica25 (5409)
• United States
13 Sep 08
Hello I think it depends on the couple and how they feel about the issue . I dont see anything wrong with it ! Sometimes it just will happen ! well , it did with me and rob . one day he just never went home Lol !!
@n30wing (4771)
• Philippines
13 Sep 08
I think we all have reasons. We make our own life,we make our own choices,and know one should tell if it's morally right or wrong and it's our own free will. Well this is my first time to live in. I had girlfriends before and it didn't went through to this level. I did introduce her to my mother and ask her about it if it's just okay with her,well I am in the legal age and have my own life to make or to break. I love her to marry her but she just have her own reason for not wanting to get married. She has been in a relationship for 16 years and was even his bestfriend since elementary, it took her long enough to let go,cause it wasn't that easy,still time flies and time change,and after so many years,she was telling me it wasn't that easy to pick up the pieces of her life,their was so much pain that she can't even describe love anymore,that pain made her strong to face everything that was left behind. It was a sacrifice,for everyone sake. She rather stay that way a single mother,then getting into marriage that will be complicated for her. I know how tough she is and firm with her decision just for her to change her mind into marriage. But still I wanna love her for what she is and hope for the best for us. I am hoping to change that pain and wipe the tears that tbrought this to her and start a life a better life for both of us. I hope she will say yes to me this December that I do want us to get married. Good night!
@n30wing (4771)
• Philippines
13 Sep 08
I think we all have reasons. We make our own life,we make our own choices,and know one should tell if it's morally right or wrong and it's our own free will. Well this is my first time to live in. I had girlfriends before and it didn't went through to this level. I did introduce her to my mother and ask her about it if it's just okay with her,well I am in the legal age and have my own life to make or to break. I love her to marry her but she just have her own reason for not wanting to get married. She has been in a relationship for 16 years and was even his bestfriend since elementary, it took her long enough to let go,cause it wasn't that easy,still time flies and time change,and after so many years,she was telling me it wasn't that easy to pick up the pieces of her life,their was so much pain that she can't even desvrive love anymore,that pain made her strong to face everything that was left behind. It was a sacrifice,for everyone sake. She rather stay that way a single mother,then getting into marriage that will be complicated for her. I know how tough she is and firm with her decision just for her to change her mind into marriage. But still I wanna love her for what she is and hope for the best for us. I am hoping to change that pain and wipe the tears that tbrought this to her and start a life a better life for both of us. I hope she will say yes to me this December that I do want us to get married. Good night!