How to reduce indecent behaviour from our Childern?
September 13, 2008 8:05am CST
please help me out please tell me how to reduce indecent behaviour from our Children ??? i badly need for ur ideas....... please respond as quickly as possible...............
13 Sep 08
hi..may I ask what kind of indecent behaviour does your children have? how old are they? If your son/daughter is only a kid it is much easier to deal with them unlike teen agers. If they are only a kid all you have to do is make sure to have an extra time with them for bonding reasons, like just talking to your kids or even just care to join them in watching their favorite tv program by that you can build a better relationship with them. try to avoid hurting them physically as much as possible when the did something wrong discuss it with them and make a rule that if they will do it again you will ground them such as, you will lessen their time in watching tv or you will not allow them to go out to play. so they would learn their lesson next time and they will avoid to break the rules or do nasty things because your kids know there will be an equivalent punishment in every wrong doings. But first you have to listen and discusss the problems or the sin they commited before doing so. If your son/daughter is likely a teen ager, that would be a different story. Teen agers nowadays is really very hard to deal with it, they have their own world and so eager to explore everything talk to your son/daughter as if you are a friend and tell them that in every move and decision they will do there is always a pros and cons so he/she must always think first not only once or twice but 10 times. Remind him/her that you are there to guide and support them but he/she is the one responsible in her/his future.Don't yell but talk to him/her calmly and of course if there's an intolerable mistake he/she commit there's an equivalent punishment. ground him/her like less allowance or he/she cannot go out or will stay in his/her room for a day. I do that to my son, fortunately it works. try it, it might help you too if that is the behaviour you're talking about. Good luck
13 Sep 08
This is the best Resonse i got Really its inspiring and i learnt lot of things by reading ur suggestion, i think u are well matured Parent thats why u able to share this much, Here my child is 7 years of age - his behaviour towards others are much indecent like scolding other, not listening parents word, shouting madly towards elders. i tried to teach him with love but it wont workout I badly need of ur suggestion As a Matured Person u please suggest some ideas to be implemented on my child
14 Sep 08
Thanks for the compliments... sorry to hear that he has that behaviour, some kids really have that kind of behaviour. I remember my son was like that too when he was 7 years old except that he doesn't shout at me or other elders. first, you said that he scold other ask him what was his reason, tell him that people or the person he scolded won't listen to him not unless he talks properly. If he shouts at you give him a warning that you will punish him, like he will not be allowed to play and will stay in his room for a day but if he will listen in everything you say you will give him a reward. you know, kids like his age will follow if they know that all the good deeds that he will do there would be an equivalent reward and if he commits mistakes he will be grounded. try to pacify him but make sure that you will implement rules and always be firm in whatever decision or words,rule you'll tell him. don't yell at him even if you're really mad just be calm and have an eye to eye contact with him let him feel that you're serious in what you're saying. your son will really test your temper(kids are like that)and if you scolded him don't pacify him right away he might think that you really don't mean the rules you've implemented towards him, let your son realize first the mistakes he did. give him a cold treatment maybe a day or two even if he talks don't talk or just limit the conversation.about his studies give him a time table to follow like after his school let him rest for an hour then let him study for 1 or 2 hours after that let him play try to practice that everyday until he get use to it and in every positive result of his exam in school let him feel that you're proud of him give him inspiring words so that he will be much inspired to work hard for it and don't forget the reward thing but don't buy him expensive rewards. maybe a treat outside or anything that you know he would appreciate it a lot. try those things okay. let me know if it works and hopefully it will really work on him. Happy mylotting!
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13 Sep 08
Sorry but what type of indecent behavior are you meaning? And how old is the child or children? Are we talking disrespect, idecent as in taking clothes off around other kids, hitting? Please explain so we may be able to help you better. Thanks
• United States
13 Sep 08
7 years old fun age. well first you ahve to talk to them. always try talking and giving examples. like how would you like it if you were telling me about your day and i just walked off and didnt listen. things like that. after that when he does it then take away something. let him know when you talk to him next time he does it what you will do. then do it. stick to it too. if it continues then get strickter about punishment. always remember to talk though. even when you are taking away tv tell them why. dont yell or scream talk. also listen. look at a reward program as well with like chores and grades. not money but like ok if you do all your chores for a month without being told then we will go to the movies or out to eat.
13 Sep 08
You should tell us first what kind of indecent behaviour, and how old is your child? Because maybe your child is too young to understand that the behaviour is indecent although you talk to him/ her about it. So, more detail information from you are needed.