Would you prefer to be the eldest of the children or the youngest? why?

@Jenaisle (3803)
Philippines
September 13, 2008 11:05am CST
They say that being the eldest entails a lot of responsibility, but it also denotes a certain "power" over your siblings; while being the youngest can make you the apple of the eye of all family members. Is this true with you? Do you prefer to be the eldest? or do you want to be the youngest?
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• India
14 Sep 08
i prefer to b youngest children in my family .....if u are eldest than there r lots of responsivilties in ur life.....but youngest remain always children in view of family.....:)))
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• United States
14 Sep 08
I never really gave it any thought. There are only two of us.
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@Jenaisle (3803)
• Philippines
14 Sep 08
Youngest are usually "babied" Thanks for that info. All the best.
@nut_nut (251)
14 Sep 08
id prefer to be the oldest. im the second from oldest out of 4 already which is fine. i have the rest to look after and guide which i like. being the youngest you may get alot of attention but you may feel like the older kids are setting the standards you must reach. not always good
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• United States
14 Sep 08
There is only two of us. We got equal attention. I didn't matter who was youngest or oldest.
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@Jenaisle (3803)
• Philippines
14 Sep 08
I think that could happen too with younger kids. It is dependent on how liberal your parents are, I guess. Thanks for that invaluable input, Happy mylotting.
@austere (2816)
• Philippines
13 Sep 08
i do know..hehe i am a middle child..third from the eldest and there are seven of us siblings..so i really cant tell if i want to be the eldest or the youngest.. i havent tried being being the youngest or eldest siblings so i really cant compare.. all i know is that i love being a middle child.. happy, not much of responsibilities..hahaha
@Jenaisle (3803)
• Philippines
14 Sep 08
You're a happy middle child. Good for you , appreciating what one has leads to happiness. All the best.
@austere (2816)
• Philippines
14 Sep 08
very happy indeed! i love being a middle child..they say that middle children are black sheeps..but i beg to differ...we are just happy go lucky in nature because the attention are not so much focused in us..hehe
@dreamssri (1796)
• India
13 Sep 08
personally,i like to be the younger..i agree that when you are elder,you have some power(not only over your younger siblings!)...more powers--more responsibilities...being an elder,we have to take care of the family,etc,etc,pressure comes..i'll rther go with the lesser powered one-youngest!!We are free from all such things and i am happy to say that i am the youger among the two in ma family!
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@Jenaisle (3803)
• Philippines
14 Sep 08
yes you're right. More power-more responsibility. Being in the middle is ideal perhaps for some children. Thanks for that invalubale contribution, Cheers.
@dreamssri (1796)
• India
14 Sep 08
thanks for calling it mine as "invaluable contribution"
@mimico (3619)
• Philippines
14 Sep 08
I'm presently the middle child and it's not such a bad place to be in. If I were to be given the choice though, I would definitely want to be the eldest child. I like being given responsibility. I like to be a good role model for my younger siblings as well. I don't think the youngest would suit my type-A personality very well. I might end up being a brat!
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@Jenaisle (3803)
• Philippines
14 Sep 08
Lol, being a brat most definitely is not welcome in a family. But you could be responsible too being the middle child. You're determined person, Cheers to you and thanks for your vital response to my discussion.
@esphyka (158)
• Philippines
14 Sep 08
i still want to be the eldest because of the so called chain of command... hehehe.... if you are tired of doing something you can pass it to your younger sibling lol
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@Jenaisle (3803)
• Philippines
14 Sep 08
Yes, lol,,, the younger one does the household chore for you. Thanks for that vital contribution. All the best.
@switlyf (650)
• Philippines
14 Sep 08
i am the youngest in the family and i must say i am a little spoiled. I guess if given a chance to choose i will still want to be the youngest. Happy mylotting!
@Jenaisle (3803)
• Philippines
14 Sep 08
Your icon is so cute, Indeed you talk like the youngest. Thanks for your vital input and cheers.
• United States
14 Sep 08
I thought it was kind of scary being the oldest. I have a brother that is 6 years younger than me. I didn't have any body to help me at school. It seemed that every other kid had an older brother or sister and me being the oldest and the first one in school. Until I got things figured out I got picked on a little bit.
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@Jenaisle (3803)
• Philippines
14 Sep 08
That is indeed quite a challenge! It's good you've eventually adjusted to your responsibilities as an elder child. Good for you, Thanks for that invaluable input, Happy mylotting.
@Margarit (3677)
• Philippines
14 Sep 08
Im in the middle, but i want to be the eldest because i want to have the capacity and authority of being responsible to my younger siblings. I want to be of help of my parents too specially when they are not around and prove to them that i can be responsible enough to take care all of them.
@Jenaisle (3803)
• Philippines
14 Sep 08
That's a good stand, wanting to help the family more is responsible. Thanks for that significant input. All the best.
@sharra1 (6342)
• Australia
14 Sep 08
Hard to say. I am the youngest and I was always being compared to the eldest. The first born, the apple of my mother's eye. No one was as good as her first born. He could do no wrong. Even though I was a girl and I thought all mother's wanted a girl, it made no difference. So in some ways they may have lots of responsibility but it really depends on the parents. Some parents treasure boys over girls so it would not matter if they were first, middle or last if the child was the only boy he would be special. Some mothers treasure their first born and they get away with everything. My brother certainly did. So I do not think it matters if you are eldest or youngest if you parents have a particular focus on a certain child. I have heard that being the middle child is the hardest. Some say that being the youngest you get the most leniency but this did not work for me. In my family the first born got the easiest ride and the youngest, myself, got the hardest. Actually I think it was because of the antics of the first born that made it so hard for the next two. The second child in our family was a boy as well but they were really tough on him.
@Jenaisle (3803)
• Philippines
14 Sep 08
That's tough. I don't have favorites among my children but I focus more on the child who needs my help and support the most. Oftentimes this is misconstrued as favoring a child. Perhaps your mom has a reason why she did that. Perhaps you were stronger than your brother, this is how I can see it. She nurtured you both in her wombs for 9 months so, she values you both. Thanks for that enlightening input. All the best.
@kenzie45230 (3560)
• United States
13 Sep 08
I was the oldest and I hated it. First, I ended up always having to babysit. My brother was 4 years younger, one sister was 6 years younger and my baby sister was 13 years younger. As a teenager, I had to watch them all. It was harder for me too. I had to get my parents to let me listen to rock & roll, buy records, wear make-up, date. By the time the rest of them got to the age where they wanted to do these things, I had already forged the way. [em}happy[/em] When I was young, I had to eat a good breakfast every moring. By the time my baby sister came along, she was able to eat chocolate cup cakes for breakfast if she wanted. I think I would have chosen being the youngest if I had had a choice.
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@Jenaisle (3803)
• Philippines
14 Sep 08
That was quite an experience. Yes I know what you're talking about because I did all those things too, babysit and clean , etc. It will always be easier for the succeeding ones because you've had done it already. Thanks a lot for that significant input. Happy mylotting
@shamzy18 (2319)
13 Sep 08
Yeah that is true being the oldest you have to be more responsible that is why i would not want to be the ldest i would rather be the youngest then you get all the attention in the world i am in the middle i get attention but it is better to be youngest lol . Though i dont mind being the middle sometimes not too young not too old just right hehe.
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@Jenaisle (3803)
• Philippines
14 Sep 08
Yes, that's right, Lots of responsibilities for eldest kids. Youngest do get the most attention. Thanks for that vital input. All the best.
@nilzerous1 (2435)
• India
13 Sep 08
I'm the youngest of the three children and I quite agree with your perception - my elder brother would share maximum family responsibility earlier; later on when we grew up - we started sharing responsibilities with him. But till date he enjoys a different 'position' in our family and we have no complaint in this regard as it helps us to stay 'FREE'! Besides, being the youngest, I enjoyed a lot of pampering during my childhood from my parents, might be in particular from my Mom! And I would prefer to be youngest if I have any option in this regard as I am happy being so in this life.
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@Jenaisle (3803)
• Philippines
14 Sep 08
he he he, nilz that's cool...you're enjoying being the youngest. You're right about the pampering and the sharing of responsibilities. Thanks for that important contribution. Happy mylotting and cheers.
@magna86 (1787)
• India
13 Sep 08
being the elder one in the family is very difficult!! coz i am the eldest in my family!.. and believe me its really hard!, you would be questioned for each and every thing that happens around you!! and you would also be made responsible for what your younger siblings do!!! that is the worst part!! and the still more worst part is that.. parents tell us .. you are the elder one.. so do adjust with your younger one!! that is what i hate the most!! i love to be the younger one only for this reason!
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@Jenaisle (3803)
• Philippines
14 Sep 08
yes, i entirely agree with you. That's always what parents say to elder children., give in because you're older...and the responsibility encompasses your younger siblings...I agree. thanks for that important input. All the best.
@pkraj111 (2459)
• India
13 Sep 08
I prefer to be the eldest. Not because of the power thing you mentioned. But because I hated havung to use all my elder brother's things all the time. Uniforms, Books, Stationery and every thing is second hand for me.
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@Jenaisle (3803)
• Philippines
14 Sep 08
, yes, just like the other responses of younger children using their elder brothers/sisters things-second hand, but I'm sure , you get the attention too, Thanks for that vital contribution. All the best.
• Indonesia
13 Sep 08
i am the youngest in my family, and i feel contented with this situation. i don't need to be the apple of the eyes of my elder sisters and brother and my parents. instead, i am the pebble in their shoes just kidding. being a last son, what i experienced when i still studied in school is my inheriting my elder brother and sisters books, used pencils, (used) shoes, even school uniform well, it's not that bad actually. everybody in my family love me; and i love them. we may hardly express my feeling to each other, but we always account on each other.
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@Jenaisle (3803)
• Philippines
14 Sep 08
he he he, that was refreshing sutan , It's good to know that you enjoy being the youngest in spite of using old things because you "inherit " all their things..I was smiling while reading your post. Good luck with that...and thanks for the vital input. Happy mylotting.
@Sheepie (3118)
• United States
13 Sep 08
I have always been the youngest and I didn't really like it very much because I was always blamed and I felt bad when people bought things for me more often than they did my brothers because I was the only girl. Also, I was always too young to do everything and I was considered annoying. I would not want to be the oldest because you have to do everything first. I would want to be in the middle.
@Jenaisle (3803)
• Philippines
14 Sep 08
I can see why the middle is your choice... very good analysis...thanks for that important contribution. happy mylotting.
• United States
16 Sep 08
I am the oldest. I have seen so much attention given to the youngest. Its makes me jealous. I also suffered more. when my brother became ill, my mother was worse than 911. He also received a lot of attention from every body. He was bad as hell. Thank god it was just the two of us. I did have a lot of responsibility, more than I could handle. you do not really have power over the younger ones, because as soon as your parents comes home, they tell everything. My parents were more incline to believe them more than me. You've heard of favoritism. Thats the way it was with. yes I would have loved to be the youngest.